Dread driving to pick up daughter as journey's a nightmare

[bluemoon89]

DD has moved away about hour and half driving each way and area is awkward to drive to.
Train journey which I did to see her four changes so nightmare!
Only about 60 miles to hers in car but in one day 120 miles and now I feel she and partner sometimes hinting about me picking them up more rather than them getting trains as hassle for them too and trains expensive.
It's just so awkward as don't want her to feel I don't care about seeing her but hate driving the route. I drive alot but it's manic busy etc etc and I dread it.
What does everyone think.
Also I have tried to say if you come home you need to get trains as long journey for me in one day there and back and petrol expensive. She is 20.
The other day she called and asked to be picked up and I said no I am at work.

I suggest she gets the train half way, and you pick her up from there? And arrange visits between you in advance (except emergencies obviously). She has left home now and you don't need to be at her back and call - time to have a life of your own and maybe just not be available next time she wants to come at short notice?
My own children are welcome home any time, but if not arranged with me beforehand I might already have something else planned - in which case they will need to entertain/fend for themselves. And the one that lives furthest away drives herself, although I would pick her up from the station if needed and I was able to.

It's not an emergency, she asked to come so it's on her to get to you under her own steam
At 20, she must realise it's a big ask
Tell her she is always welcome but she has to find the money to travel
She could look at a coach which would probably work out cheaper than your petrol costs

@HerMammy
Some people like to drive in familiar areas in their locality, nothing wrong with that, man or woman. It may be an issue of competence or not often enough to build that kind of familiarity with the route, in spite of Sat navs, if you are a nervous driver.

As I think was said regular pickups are a big ask, for that kind of distance for many. But, love the idea of picking up at a halfway point or a rail card.

It may be that she just misses home, and left too soon for her, and hadn't thought the distance through.