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Bedrooms are trashed. Finding it hard see pics

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Shithole101 · 27/10/2023 20:37

I have been through a really hard time which I hope is going in a better direction. I have to cope with things completely on my own with no support. Whilst supporting others . There's lots of mental health issues. Special needs. Vulnerability etc .

Anyway as I say some things are starting to get better. But the kids bedrooms are a shit hole . The kids are with their father this weekend so I'm trying to use the time to get things done. But I get tired and out of breath so quickly I get drained and don't get much done . I have just managed to do the 2 youngest kids room. I need to tidy /clean and take old bed apart in the spare room . And then put new double bed together for that room. I have to get it done tonight. Because my other son is coming over tomorrow to chat /company as he's struggling mentally so I don't want to do it whilst he's here .

So I'm drinking an energy drink in the hope it will help me stay awake till late /give me some energy

I have included pictures because I want to shame myself and motivate myself to get it done. I will add after pictures as well once done

Any ideas how the kids can keep it tidy ? In an easy to manage way. One child is autistic and forgets what he's doing. By the time he gets to his room . And then the younger one gets upset because he feels like it's on him.

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Khvdrt · 27/10/2023 20:40

The only way my DC keep their rooms tidy is to tidy it before bed watch night and have a place for everything. The Ikea vibes are useful for this

MrsTerryPratchett · 27/10/2023 20:43

Small, achievable jobs. You go with them and encourage. "OK all the toys off the floor, GO". And when they do it, good jobs all around. The room is quite sparse and bare. Shelves would help.

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Shithole101 · 27/10/2023 20:47

MrsTerryPratchett · 27/10/2023 20:43

Small, achievable jobs. You go with them and encourage. "OK all the toys off the floor, GO". And when they do it, good jobs all around. The room is quite sparse and bare. Shelves would help.

Shelves would give them more places to put shit 🤣. I get what you mean though. Does not really look like a child's bedroom . Definitely needs dressing.

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Shithole101 · 27/10/2023 20:48

Khvdrt · 27/10/2023 20:40

The only way my DC keep their rooms tidy is to tidy it before bed watch night and have a place for everything. The Ikea vibes are useful for this

Probably is the only way to be honest . What is the ikea vibes ?

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MrsTerryPratchett · 27/10/2023 20:48

Shelves would give them more places to put shit

One in, one out rule. You want to bring something in, something else is thrown away or donated.

GladysHeeler · 27/10/2023 20:50

Have you got any crates for that Trofast in the first photo?

To me it doesn't look like they have too many things. It's a lovely big room.

Crooklodge · 27/10/2023 20:51

It's not that bad actually, wouldn't take long for the dc to tidy up at all. You just need to reinforce every single day that they need to tidy up before bed etc.

But yeah some better storage would be good.

What is that piece of furniture in the spare room?

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Shithole101 · 27/10/2023 20:53

MrsTerryPratchett · 27/10/2023 20:48

Shelves would give them more places to put shit

One in, one out rule. You want to bring something in, something else is thrown away or donated.

No that's a whole new complication

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PaperDoIIs · 27/10/2023 20:54

There is a big space between the two beds where you could have storage with labelled boxes/drawers. That could help your son with ASD as there's a clear place for stuff to go.

Catsfrontbum · 27/10/2023 20:56

A basket for toys, they can just tip stuff in at the end of the day. A rug in the middle? A play table with storage underneath?

The room looks a bit sad. First picture is very neat though.

Tidy up timers. Stickers and rewards for tidying. Singing songs. Doing it together.

Boxes with lids for under their beds?

Puffalicious · 27/10/2023 20:59

PaperDoIIs · 27/10/2023 20:54

There is a big space between the two beds where you could have storage with labelled boxes/drawers. That could help your son with ASD as there's a clear place for stuff to go.

Yes.

You need storage. Preferably labelled for your ASD DC (I have one too- this helps enormously). Then shelves to display special/ loved things. I have 3 boys and things they have on shelves: Lego/ picture frame/ collections (shells in glass jars/ figures/ favourite books/ headphones/ water bottle).

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Shithole101 · 27/10/2023 20:59

GladysHeeler · 27/10/2023 20:50

Have you got any crates for that Trofast in the first photo?

To me it doesn't look like they have too many things. It's a lovely big room.

I need to get new boxes for that and the runners . If they do replacements. Ikea is far for me I don't drive and delivery is expensive. They have more toys in the drawers under the bed.

It's definitely a lovely room. Just needs to look like a child's room . After Xmas hopefully

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StSwithinsDay · 27/10/2023 21:00

Colour on the wall. Ikea have lovely posters for kids' rooms.

FuckingHellAdele · 27/10/2023 21:00

Extra storage is always helpful, but to be honest, looking at the before and after pics, the problem looks to be more like 'mess' and less like 'not enough storage for stuff'.

To me, it looks like a end of the day tidy up routine would be helpful- though I appreciate it can be hard going Flowers

Wallywobbles · 27/10/2023 21:01

How about a shelving unit like kallax for dividing the room. With boxes in to make the bottom more solid.

Wallywobbles · 27/10/2023 21:01

Forgot pics

Bedrooms are trashed. Finding it hard see pics
Bedrooms are trashed. Finding it hard see pics
Catsfrontbum · 27/10/2023 21:02

Yes posters would be good.

Or get creative with paint and do a cool zigzag around the room?

Peachonthebeach · 27/10/2023 21:03

Put some fairy lights up first and some nice tunes on. Do a few loads of laundry .
put things in piles of things. Piles of cuddly toys. Piles of shoes, etc. Sort some bin bags for charity. You’ll get there 😊

GladysHeeler · 27/10/2023 21:04

The runners are just slots on Trofast I think. I'd look into the price of delivery for the boxes as you will fit loads of stuff in. It won't be the same price as furniture delivery.

www.ikea.com/gb/en/p/trofast-storage-combination-light-white-stained-pine-orange-s99335565/

Woush · 27/10/2023 21:06

Most of the stuff on the floor looks like clothes- is that right?

Chest of drawers each (easier to put clothes away in drawers thsn wardrobe) and a set if pegs for in-use clothes. Plus a laundry basket.

Aldicrispsareshit · 27/10/2023 21:07

Make the room welcoming for them. Paint on the walls, pictures, a nice rug. Go and raid IKEA with the kids and help them make it a space they want to keep clean. Lots of KALLAX and TROFAST units or scaffolding board shelving if you've got the DIY skills to put them up.

Aldicrispsareshit · 27/10/2023 21:08

I'd also put something like voile on the window along with blackout curtains to give them some more privacy. They're a bit goldfish bowl in there, especially the kid right up to the window

Comedycook · 27/10/2023 21:11

Oh I was expecting much worse. That's totally sortable.

maybe a nice rug? A bean bag to sit on. do they have laundry basket for dirty clothes?

To keep kids rooms in some sort of order, I do a little five minute sweep every day. Bin bag to collect any rubbish. Shake out duvets. Pick up any dirty clothes etc

menopausalmare · 27/10/2023 21:12

Each evening, we read to our daughter and she uses that listening time to put away her clothes and tidy away her knick knacks. That's a good use of time and rarely causes fuss.

mauvish · 27/10/2023 21:13

I'm going to go a bit leftfield here.

How old is your other son? If he's old enough to help, maybe you SHOULD enlist him to do so?

You say he's struggling with his MH. Maybe he will find it easier to chat if you're doing something together? Maybe if he helps you it will make him feel useful and good about himself? You could ask him his opinion about any room decoration etc, that might make him feel valued? (I'm not suggesting that you don't value him otherwise of course!). It will give your time together a non-threatening focus too.

It might actually work really well if you work on this together.

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