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Why is Rebecca Loos the villian still, she wasn't the one who was married!

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Longingforthesummer · 05/10/2023 15:04

I remember at the time how DB came out of it all smelling of roses and remember Loos said she has no choice but to tell her side of the truth. She's still the villian and he's still come out of it smelling sweet!!!

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BoilingHotand50something · 23/10/2023 08:04

Some horrible comments on here. It’s quite obvious the affair happened as the Beckhams have never denied it or sued. The story was going to break with or without RL, and she was approached to sell her side. She took advice from the awful Max Clifford and made some bad choices as a result which she has owned. There are many details she has chosen to not make public. She has been completely blindsided by this and is once again being slagged off in the press whilst everyone worships him. Horrible.

LolaSmiles · 23/10/2023 08:05

EdgeK
Did anyone actually think the Beckham's were a perfect family though?

At the time most people I knew expressed huge amounts of sympathy for Victoria because it's hard enough dealing with relationship problems and infidelity without it being all over the press. The media's treatment of women was particularly bad at this time too. There was a vulture like culture of wannabe glamour model, aspiring footballers wife sleeping with footballer, selling the story and then the press feast over the betrayed spouse's reactions.

RL was virtually unemployable because she showed herself to be untrustworthy and willing to sell people to the press for 15 minutes of fame. Who wants a personal assistant like that? She could have faded to obscurity if she wanted but she chose to keep herself in the spotlight.

WinterDeWinter · 23/10/2023 08:08

griegwithhimandhim · 05/10/2023 18:47

Of course not. When one moves in certain social circles, one keeps one's trap firmly shut.

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this is hilarious

PixiePirate · 23/10/2023 08:13

illbeinthegarden · 05/10/2023 18:48

I watched that bit of of documentary carefully he was very careful to use language that didn't admit he'd done it but also he was very careful not to say she was lying or she was wrong!

How awful was the backlash when he got sent off against Argentina though, he was only 23 at the time. I didn't realise how long it went on or how awful it was.

This was exactly my take on it too. It felt very clear to me that he wasn’t denying anything and they both acknowledged the impact on their relationship. I think he’s very fortunate that his family remained together.

Flamingos89 · 23/10/2023 08:18

Did she not have an affair with one of the most famous men in the world? So she knew wholeheartedly he was married with two children? She never says she loved him or anything like that so it’s screams to me that she did it for the money and so she could do a ‘tell all’. Which doesn’t sit right with me at all.

Beckham doesn’t smell of roses at all - the only person I feel sorry for is Victoria and his kids. But people are allowed to forgive and move on and it seems they have done that and he has been a much better husband since.

It’s not right to have an affair with a married man then tell the world about it. No shame or humility at all. Don’t like her.

samupnorth · 23/10/2023 08:24

MillicentTrilbyHiggins · 05/10/2023 15:14

Because a woman's place is always in the wrong.
Because she knew he was married, so while he was more wrong, she was still wrong.

This.

User767463 · 23/10/2023 08:31

I daresay that more marriages actually end up with affairs than those that don't. So regardless of judgement, the Beckhams are relatable. They are eye-wateringly wealthy but have human problems like everyone else.

There's nothing extra special or villainous about Rebecca, she's just one of thousands of girls/women out there who are happy to sleep with someone else's (high net worth) husband.

HoldOnMiGenna · 23/10/2023 08:34

Pertaining to Mr Beckham, his affair with Rebecca Loos is far from his worst assignation.
Just look at the crowd that his best mate Dave Gardner openly rolls with and who are known to be Bargain Bucket Bohemians , vintage clothing, country houses, London pied a terres used to show up at the odd "blues"dance and all.
The worst that I personally heard involved one of them, a sexually incontinent ex captain of a London team and Golden Balls himself, allegedly.
Victoria will NEVER leave David. They love each other, her more than him and that is that.
There is a reason behind her eating disorder that she adhered to even when socialising. No spitting out food for her. Ultimate Control.
Couldn't be me. But I'm just a prole without hundreds of millions to split if I split from my partner.

LushFloral · 23/10/2023 08:43

they’re slipping from the public eye as they get older and need the publicity

^This 1000%
And because nobody is very interested in the Beckham’s very normal and talent-free children which is fine. Why do we have to care about them? The Beckhams shouldn’t be pushing their poor kids into the public eye as if they should be worshipped because they are their offsprings anyway. So I think that also explains the timing of this sanitised documentary.

I cannot fathom anyone bashing Loos - who I had completely forgotten about until this thread- for chasing her tiny five minutes of fame and fortune.

The Beckhams are desperately doing it for an entire career and they still are. That’s literally what this documentary is. He’s a retired footballer, she’s a clothes designer who has rarely if ever turned a profit with her design work. Why are still talking about them and their lives? Why do we know so much about their kid’s lives and relationships?

Why don’t we often hear about other retired successful footballers, or other retired Spice Girls’ lives? And why aren’t these others all making airbrushed documentaries about themselves?

Because the Beckhams are absolutely craven attention seekers and sponsorship grifters, and they always have been, not because Rebecca Loos is.

crumblylancs · 23/10/2023 08:43

They both came off badly because both of them acted badly- hasn't she been back in the press talking about it again this week too

Elderflower14 · 23/10/2023 08:45

Will never forget the bitchy comments to RL from Sharon Osborne on the celeb music show. Something about telling RL to wear knickers to warm up her vocal chords!! 🤯 🤯 🤯 🤯

DeepFriedBananas · 23/10/2023 08:57

They're both as bad as each other.

LadyBird1973 · 23/10/2023 09:10

I really don't blame her for doing interviews now - she was minding her own business when the documentary dragged all this back up. The papers have done stories on where she is now etc - that's got to be horrible when she's grown up and moved on.
If DB is going to put out a documentary then other people have the right to put all the facts out there. Especially if he's glossed over a lot of his own wrongdoing.

LolaSmiles · 23/10/2023 09:13

I really don't blame her for doing interviews now - she was minding her own business when the documentary dragged all this back up. The papers have done stories on where she is now etc - that's got to be horrible when she's grown up and moved on
Same here.
I 100% agree with people criticising the actions of yet another wannabe celeb doing a kiss and tell and her actions at the time.

In 2023 when she has faded to obscurity and was getting on with her life, I support her doing interviews when it's the Beckhams who brought the whole thing back into the public eye.

ClairDeLaLune · 23/10/2023 09:14

Because she didn’t care how much she hurt Victoria, she just wanted to be famous and make a load of money.

Tambatamba · 23/10/2023 09:15

But people are allowed to forgive and move on and it seems they have done that and he has been a much better husband since.

That's hilarious. He's a serial cheat and always has been. When he was at Real Madrid, lots of women were coming forward to the Spanish tabloids to say they'd slept with him.

LadyBird1973 · 23/10/2023 09:15

Wasn't Ozzy married to someone else when Sharon came along?

I think Ginger Spice enjoys a bit of publicity but in her shoes I wouldn't want to draw too much attention to how she and CH got together. His own parents didn't go to their wedding iirc

LadyBird1973 · 23/10/2023 09:19

Ultimately though, it's David's responsibility to not hurt Victoria. While kiss and tells are gross and undignified and reflect badly on everyone involved, it's the husband who has enabled it all to happen

DysonSpheres · 23/10/2023 12:42

Boudicasbeard · 23/10/2023 07:24

@DysonSpheres And you know that they tried to pay her off how? Unless there is a corroborating witness then I am never going to believe it. RL is a self serving twat.

And I love how blaming the mistress is considered misogyny but blaming the wife trying to keep her family and life together is not. Great victim blaming there. Boo hoo I fucked someone else’s husband and he didn’t pick me.

Nope, I would never blame a wife for choosing to keep her family together.

I do blame a wife for downplaying their husbands part in what happened, whilst inferring it's solely the other women's fault for putting them through a difficult time, know full well there have been more women since RL (allegedly). So why refer to her as if she is the only one and there hasn't been subsequent drama's since? Had they admitted David's part, described how difficult it was, and said they had put it all behind them, I'd be on their side to a degree... But they don't do that. In a bid to present the image of a perfect family and keep the $£ rolling in, they are happy for all the approbation to fall entirely on Rebecca Loos, despite it literally no longer being relevent. They are also happy to (allegedly) pay other women to stay silent to maintain this image. That's exploitation, without the vehicle of the press. You could argue that the press paying for a kiss and tell story is morally better, as it allows the other woman to at least own her story. Why is David being presented as 'going through a tough time' and Rebecca as a bitch who thrived over a decade later? That's blatant misogyny

griegwithhimandhim · 23/10/2023 14:39

WinterDeWinter · 23/10/2023 08:08

this is hilarious

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Not so hilarious when you know personally some of the people involved. I'm sure you'll understand that is why I don't talk about it. If something is not in the public domain because they haven't said anything, then it's not coming from me.

Cyborg23 · 23/10/2023 14:41

DysonSpheres · 23/10/2023 12:42

Nope, I would never blame a wife for choosing to keep her family together.

I do blame a wife for downplaying their husbands part in what happened, whilst inferring it's solely the other women's fault for putting them through a difficult time, know full well there have been more women since RL (allegedly). So why refer to her as if she is the only one and there hasn't been subsequent drama's since? Had they admitted David's part, described how difficult it was, and said they had put it all behind them, I'd be on their side to a degree... But they don't do that. In a bid to present the image of a perfect family and keep the $£ rolling in, they are happy for all the approbation to fall entirely on Rebecca Loos, despite it literally no longer being relevent. They are also happy to (allegedly) pay other women to stay silent to maintain this image. That's exploitation, without the vehicle of the press. You could argue that the press paying for a kiss and tell story is morally better, as it allows the other woman to at least own her story. Why is David being presented as 'going through a tough time' and Rebecca as a bitch who thrived over a decade later? That's blatant misogyny

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Why is it anyone's business?

ginasevern · 23/10/2023 15:00

If he didn't want a kiss and tell story he should've kept his golden balls to himself. Someone that famous knows damn well the consequences of shagging around or having an affair. He didn't care much then about hurting the sainted Victoria or his kids did he. RL sold her story, serves him right - what did he honestly expect? If he hadn't fucked her there wouldn't be a story to sell. He and only he is responsible for his wife and kids happiness not RL and he failed them at every level.

LadyEloise1 · 23/10/2023 15:03

Growuppeople · 05/10/2023 18:55

They are both disgusting. She knew he was married could’ve said no, he should’ve kept it in his trousers. It was both of them!

I agree.

LolaSmiles · 23/10/2023 15:36

If he didn't want a kiss and tell story he should've kept his golden balls to himself
That sounds a bit victim blamey like you're famous so you should expect someone to splash personal details to the press. Not sure it's fair to take the approach that if we don't like someone's conduct in their private life then it's somehow ok for their private life to be dragged out in the press when it's irrelevant to their job.

He is responsible for shagging another woman.
He isn't responsible for the kiss and tell storm caused by a needy wannabe celebrity wanting her 15 minutes of fame.

TrashedSofa · 23/10/2023 15:43

He is responsible for shagging another woman.
He isn't responsible for the kiss and tell storm caused by a needy wannabe celebrity wanting her 15 minutes of fame.

Exactly.