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Why is Rebecca Loos the villian still, she wasn't the one who was married!

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Longingforthesummer · 05/10/2023 15:04

I remember at the time how DB came out of it all smelling of roses and remember Loos said she has no choice but to tell her side of the truth. She's still the villian and he's still come out of it smelling sweet!!!

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StowOnTheWold · 06/10/2023 19:46

Rebecca Loos is not the villain. There has been a lot of water under the bridge since 2004 in every respect for all of us. The Great Recession, Covid and the start of WW3 is knocking on the door.

News reports I have read - which may be wrong - suggest she walked away from the celeb world having learned from a position of naivety. Her gods are different ones now and from what I can see she has made a great low key life for her family in Norway. And no, I have no connection to her. I make my own mind up.

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Longingforthesummer · 07/10/2023 00:06

Im sure I remeber Loos saying she had text messages from DB and she had the mobile locked away in a safe

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MyNumber1Rule · 07/10/2023 02:42

No sympathy for her, if it's true obv he was out of order of course but I don't understand why she would sell her story, there are only 2 reasons for that, either money or to ruin his life, possibly both. Quick way of becoming famous I guess.

AhNowTed · 07/10/2023 14:34

For once I totally agree with Amanda Platell.

Brand Becks should get a red card for cashing in on Rebecca Loos
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Spambod · 07/10/2023 15:17

Becks was the employer and in a position of power over loos. When she lost her job she wanted a pay off. They refused or didn’t offer what she wanted so she went with plan b to go nuclear to the press. There will I suspect have been many women he was able to pay off. It is rumoured he had a child with a nanny. He comes across as boring, fake, miserable and miserly.

Tambatamba · 09/10/2023 19:15

I remember this too! Vanessa Feltz saying she should have gone with him and it was therefore her fault and he couldn’t go longer than 8 weeks without sex 🙄. She stayed at home so that Brooklyn and Romeo wouldn’t have to move schools.

OliviaBean · 22/10/2023 18:14

Well Rebecca had her say today in the papers. Basically she's quite irritated that it's all been brought back up again.

The Beckhams should have left this alone.

Tambatamba · 22/10/2023 18:46

It's because they couldn't reasonably make a series of tv programmes about their 'real' lives without discussing the affair. Which they did by skirting over it and that pretty much amounts to admission.

RL also says that whilst she was having the affair with DB, he was bedding models which made her upset and jealous. A tangled web...

Boudicasbeard · 22/10/2023 21:46

She’s milking it for more money. They didn’t mention her by name, made no allegations and both talked about how it was the hardest time of their lives.

You would have to be a pretty emotionless arsehole to take that as your cue to start selling salacious details to the press, again.

I’m not really mad for DB. He made his bed. But VB was really clear how badly it affected her mentally. RL was their PA. She sold horrible details about private convos she had with VB, really intimate stuff. She knew their kids and his wife and shagged him anyway. And then made a mint selling her story to the papers. What a bitch.

Tambatamba · 22/10/2023 23:45

Oh come on now - everyone knew that was about RL! The Beckhams are the ones motivated by greed imo, since they are willing to drag this all up again whilst they still have a child at school. No money is ever enough for them! RL had her own reputation to protect at the time since she comes from a well known family.

Revenants · 23/10/2023 00:09

StowOnTheWold · 06/10/2023 19:46

Rebecca Loos is not the villain. There has been a lot of water under the bridge since 2004 in every respect for all of us. The Great Recession, Covid and the start of WW3 is knocking on the door.

News reports I have read - which may be wrong - suggest she walked away from the celeb world having learned from a position of naivety. Her gods are different ones now and from what I can see she has made a great low key life for her family in Norway. And no, I have no connection to her. I make my own mind up.

^ This 100%.

DysonSpheres · 23/10/2023 05:20

I’m not really mad for DB. He made his bed. But VB was really clear how badly it affected her mentally. RL was their PA. She sold horrible details about private convos she had with VB, really intimate stuff. She knew their kids and his wife and shagged him anyway. And then made a mint selling her story to the papers. What a bitch.

But the person who left you vulnerable to all this and let that person in to publicly humiliate you is your own husband, whom you're still with. Furthermore, having seen the profoundly negative effect the entire saga had on your mental health close up, the distress it caused you hasn't been enough to prevent him (allegedly) cheating again many times and risking causing you further public humiliation. Payoffs are risky business, stuff could still come out years from now. Look at the Smiths!

RL may be a bitch, but one thing about her she didn't accept a payoff. Wealthy women who agree to their husbands pumping and dumping women and paying them off like prostitutes in order to preserve and sell a fantasy marriage for social and financial benefits (happy family media spreads, documentaries, reputation) are also milking it by-proxy and benefitting indirectly from another woman's humiliation and/or disgrace.

Don't get me wrong, I have no sympathy for women who knowingly have affairs with married men, but I can acknowledge that their mental health is affected too. Which is probably why RL is pissed they have brought this up again in a way in which David takes zero responsibility. Again.

pinkfondu · 23/10/2023 05:44

Because when push comes to shove, 'men cannot help it'. She knew he was married and should have stopped it. It's the whore mentality. Women and sex bad, men and sex it's not really his fault.

Boudicasbeard · 23/10/2023 07:17

@pinkfondu

It’s actually worse than she knew he was married. She knew VB, work with her and the kids- had access to their personal day to day and then used that as a weapon to beat VB with once the story broke.

I do think the man is to blame- women often don’t know someone is married or have no connection to the wife. But RL knew. She bloody knew how it would cut up VB and the kids to be so public about it and she did it anyway.

You’d have to be a totally selfish prick to betray someone on so many levels.

pinkfondu · 23/10/2023 07:20

Boudicasbeard · 23/10/2023 07:17

@pinkfondu

It’s actually worse than she knew he was married. She knew VB, work with her and the kids- had access to their personal day to day and then used that as a weapon to beat VB with once the story broke.

I do think the man is to blame- women often don’t know someone is married or have no connection to the wife. But RL knew. She bloody knew how it would cut up VB and the kids to be so public about it and she did it anyway.

You’d have to be a totally selfish prick to betray someone on so many levels.

I really don't disagree. But he was the one that was married. Let's face it over the years he must have has thousands of women throwing themselves at him. He has all the responsibility for breaking his vows. She definitely was, and still is, viewed worse than him

Carmargo · 23/10/2023 07:24

It's sad how women blame themselves for their husbands' infidelity.
I think it's because we think men think like us.

We tend to be unhappy with our dh's if we cheat but men literally want a bit on the side and not a replacement.
It's perfectly possible VB realises this, too.
They seem really happy imo. All this talk about staying together for the brand seems nonsensical to me. They'd still be extremely rich and successful if apart.

Maybe VB is just wise and not going to throw an otherwise good dh away for a fling.

Boudicasbeard · 23/10/2023 07:24

@DysonSpheres And you know that they tried to pay her off how? Unless there is a corroborating witness then I am never going to believe it. RL is a self serving twat.

And I love how blaming the mistress is considered misogyny but blaming the wife trying to keep her family and life together is not. Great victim blaming there. Boo hoo I fucked someone else’s husband and he didn’t pick me.

LolaSmiles · 23/10/2023 07:25

I don't think DB came out of it smelling of roses. He was rightly viewed negatively as a cheater.

RL came off badly because there's something classless and tacky about the way she sold the story and stuck the knife into his wife.

The papers were full of the footballer kiss and tell stories at that time and there was a enough women who thought this was a way to launch a career and make some money. Every week there was some aspiring reality TV star or glamour model ready ready to talk about who they shagged last weekend.

Somewhereovertherainbowweighapie · 23/10/2023 07:29

She saw an opportunity to make money and have another 15 minutes of fame.

Boudicasbeard · 23/10/2023 07:42

@Somewhereovertherainbowweighapie

Exactly. And there does seem to be some vicious beef with VB as well. Why stick the knife in so deeply (sharing private convos she had with VB about how VB felt she wasn’t attractive enough for David). I wonder if perhaps she thought she was going to be the next Mrs. Beckham. Would certainly fit with why she was so furious about finding him with that model.

It is all so like a Jilly Cooper novel that it is hard not to think of RL as one of her grasping, self obsessed female villains.

EdgeK · 23/10/2023 07:42

Because Beckham PLC, oops, perfect family of the century, is hugely powerful and will do anything to perpetuate that myth.
RL came across as intelligent and articulate, and more importantly very honest.
She was virtually unemployable after her ill-judged actions. I can't imagine she had much choice in her job offers after that so why not take the reality TV cash?
I wish her well.

Tontostitis · 23/10/2023 07:53

*couldn’t fucking cheat on his wife without your help could he?

And instead of crawling away when he got bored of you, you decide to sell your story thus hurting and humiliating his wife all over again.

Now Loos has grown up and got a husband and kids of her own she has looked back on her behaviour and cringed but instead of owning it, she’s playing the victim.*

Well said

Cyborg23 · 23/10/2023 08:00

She knew he was married AND decided to rub it in to the press.

Trashy and unethical.

Tambatamba · 23/10/2023 08:01

Carmargo · 23/10/2023 07:24

It's sad how women blame themselves for their husbands' infidelity.
I think it's because we think men think like us.

We tend to be unhappy with our dh's if we cheat but men literally want a bit on the side and not a replacement.
It's perfectly possible VB realises this, too.
They seem really happy imo. All this talk about staying together for the brand seems nonsensical to me. They'd still be extremely rich and successful if apart.

Maybe VB is just wise and not going to throw an otherwise good dh away for a fling.

This isn’t just one fling. It’s well known in media circles that he is completely unable to keep it in his pants.

Tambatamba · 23/10/2023 08:03

And there does seem to be some vicious beef with VB as well. Why stick the knife in so deeply (sharing private convos she had with VB about how VB felt she wasn’t attractive enough for David)

Where did she say this? I missed that…