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Help my adult son is missing

297 replies

Aliceinunderland · 23/09/2023 21:47

My son is 23 and he has been missing since 11th September. I reported him missing the same day as it was out of character for him to miss work. He walked out of the house with nothing other than his bank card. His phone hasn't been turned on since the night he left.
So far I have:
Contacted all of his friends and contacts
Done a social media campaign
Battled with the police and filed two official complaints due to failures to investigate
Worked with missing people uk to do a media campaign
Handed out posters in the area that we have had one sighting. Unfortunately this is not our local area so it is difficult to go every day.

What else can I do? I've emailed and called every service I can find to share his photograph. Is there anything else anyone can suggest? I'm beyond devastated and will try anything at this point. Thank you for reading.

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IslandsInTheSunshine · 24/09/2023 11:38

@Aliceinunderland Do you know anyone who uses Twitter- now known as X?

That can be quite good because it can reach a lot of people. They could post the photo and #hashtag the places he's been seen in.

Longdistance · 24/09/2023 11:48

The homeless hang out on London road in Luton as the church there helps them. This is down the road from Stockwood Park. Also, Park street is another area to explore. As I’ve said before NOAH is a good one to contact.
Bedfordshire Police has a fb page.

I’m about to go out in my car to Sainsbury’s so will look out for him on my travels. I’ll also be passing the hospital area later this afternoon.

cavalier · 24/09/2023 12:28

I am so sorry to hear this
have the community been helping you ? Every social media network could get it out for you
please keep us updated dear lady .. praying for your precious son’s safe and speedy return ❤️
Is his passport missing ? Luton airport ?

Augustus40 · 24/09/2023 12:36

Can you hire a private detective/tracing agent if you have sufficient funds at all?

AliceOlive · 24/09/2023 12:50

Willmafrockfit · 24/09/2023 11:30

thinking of you
have you messaged his dad, you might have to @Aliceinunderland

Please do this.

hellohelp · 24/09/2023 13:12

I also think you should ask his dad

I hope he is home safe and soon x

Original poster
Aliceinunderland · 24/09/2023 13:25

Longdistance · 24/09/2023 11:48

The homeless hang out on London road in Luton as the church there helps them. This is down the road from Stockwood Park. Also, Park street is another area to explore. As I’ve said before NOAH is a good one to contact.
Bedfordshire Police has a fb page.

I’m about to go out in my car to Sainsbury’s so will look out for him on my travels. I’ll also be passing the hospital area later this afternoon.

Thank you very much. I will follow up with everything you have said here. I have actually visited NOAH on our first trip and they were indeed very helpful. I emailed them the missing poster but will go back with some hard copies

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skinnytobe · 24/09/2023 13:37

Have shared for you hope he's found safe and well soon

treacledan71 · 24/09/2023 13:49

https://www.facebook.com/groups/434868813369564/ this is spotted Luton. Might be good to post on that.

Facebook

https://www.facebook.com/groups/434868813369564

Cally098 · 24/09/2023 13:57

Why is the date interesting?

Cally098 · 24/09/2023 14:01

As awful as the situation is for you, and I really do understand the challenges you are facing - have the police discussed with you that he may have intentionally gone missing? If his phone hasn't been on, is it possible that he's chosen to go away for a bit for some time and space away from everything an
d everyone? I know that's not something any mother wants to imagine her child doing, at whatever age they are. The police can be less inclined to allocate resources if there's no indication initially that any harm has / may have come to the individual, and they've just taken themselves away for a while.

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Aliceinunderland · 24/09/2023 17:09

Cally098 · 24/09/2023 14:01

As awful as the situation is for you, and I really do understand the challenges you are facing - have the police discussed with you that he may have intentionally gone missing? If his phone hasn't been on, is it possible that he's chosen to go away for a bit for some time and space away from everything an
d everyone? I know that's not something any mother wants to imagine her child doing, at whatever age they are. The police can be less inclined to allocate resources if there's no indication initially that any harm has / may have come to the individual, and they've just taken themselves away for a while.

Yes they have, I think this was the conversation we had several times in the first few days. I absolutely agree that he may have chosen to do this. However this would be really out of character for him and left without anything other than a mobile phone and his bank card. My fear is he is suffering with a mental health issue so I have to advocate for him to be found to make sure he doesn't need any help. If he's found and is safe and well but still doesn't want to be in contact then I will have to respect that and come to terms with it and would always be here for him if he ever changed his mind.

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PollyAmour · 24/09/2023 20:45

Any news this afternoon? I hope he gets in touch, does he have a phone charger with him?

mauvish · 24/09/2023 21:03

Looking at your FB page, you've drawn a projected route which appears to end in Sheffield. Is that where his dad is?

(I'm in Sheffield btw, I've no great knowledge of homeless services here but I can share what little I know if it would be any help).

I hope he is found alive and well xx

Blackandwhitemakesgrey · 24/09/2023 21:15

Cally098 · 24/09/2023 13:57

Why is the date interesting?

I think the poster meant because he left on Sept 11th.

Longdistance · 25/09/2023 15:45

He has now been posted on Facebook by Bedfordshire police. Just seen him in my feed.

ThreeRingCircus · 25/09/2023 16:55

I really hope he's found soon OP, you must be going through hell.

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Aliceinunderland · 25/09/2023 18:51

Hello thank you again for all your help and support. We've been busy following up the suggestions here. We still have no news about my son but I had a very helpful telephone call with the police dealing with my complaint. They have agreed things have not been handled well in terms of communication with us and we have an agreed way forward. Fingers crossed we hear something soon. I didn't know Bedfordshire police had put an appeal out too so thank you for bringing that to my attention.

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Loopyloooooo · 25/09/2023 20:00

Bump..been thinking of you and your boy OP. Hope you hear from him soon xx

MatthewsMumFromTikTok · 25/09/2023 22:18

Your don was shared on my Fb page by someone today

He's getting out there....word is spreading...

MatthewsMumFromTikTok · 25/09/2023 22:18

*son

CherryCone · 25/09/2023 22:29

Also been thinking of you and your son x

LarkLane · 25/09/2023 22:33

Giving this a little bump. Thinking of you and hoping that he is found safe Flowers

gogomoto · 25/09/2023 22:38

I have connections to homeless outreach services in Leicester, in case he's making his way north I will alert them. Sorry i can't help more. Unfortunately people do disappear by choice, happened in my family and it's so worrying. It was about 8 months later my relative resurfaced, he did it again years later but only 2 weeks

HowDoesThisWorkPlease · 25/09/2023 22:42

No FB but bumping here for traffic.

Saying a prayer too