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Anyone else turned off by bald or going bad men?

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Upcyclerookie · 23/09/2023 20:53

It just seems so common for men to be bald or going bald, it feels like every other guy is bald.
I know they can't help it but it gives me the ick.
Even if they were to shave their heads, they still look bald.
I have never gone out with a bald guy and I'm in my 40s now. I just really don't find it attractive.
I feel like if I was dating them then I wouldn't want to touch their head.
I like to be able to grab their hair (in the heat of passion for example)!
Been on 2 dates with 2 guys who didn't look like they were going bald on their photos, it's like they must know how to hide it well but it was one of the first things I noticed when I met them. And it was a disappointment, like false advertising almost.
Anyone else feel like this? Just curious to know.

I am no supermodel myself so I'm aware some guys may not find me attractive either.

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SomeCatFromJapan · 23/09/2023 20:54

You like what you like OP.

MerryChristmasToYou · 23/09/2023 20:55

Going bad as in rotten?

Scruffington · 23/09/2023 20:56

I'd say I have a preference for a full head of hair, having said that some men really suit being bald and I personally wouldn't rule them out. It's not an ick for me. Long fingernails is an ick.

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TomatoSandwiches · 23/09/2023 20:56

Baldness has never bothered me in men, receding hairline or attempts to hold on to hair sometimes looks a bit daft but fully bald men or ones that shave the rest off to be bald look fine to me.

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Upcyclerookie · 23/09/2023 20:56

@MerryChristmasToYou sorry it was supposed to say bald not bad, it won't let me change it

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theduchessofspork · 23/09/2023 20:57

You can’t help what you find attractive.

But I hope you never say it in real life.

Strawberrypicnic · 23/09/2023 20:57

No I've always had a thing for bald men!

NoWayNarc · 23/09/2023 20:57

What’s the point of this post? Y’all would be fuming if it was any aspect of female aging, geeze, guys can’t help it can they!

NeverDropYourMooncup · 23/09/2023 20:57

As the dating pool you're looking at will have roughly 50% of men already balding by 50 and 70% after that, you're somewhat narrowing down your options there. Especially when you take into account that some of that remaining 30-50% won't want a woman as old as you or will find saggy breasts, grey or dyed hair, wrinkles and a 'Ewww, aren't bald men disgusting!' attitude less attractive.

Tanyaaah · 23/09/2023 20:57

Doesn't bother me at all.

Lamelie · 23/09/2023 20:58

You can like what you like but it’s best not said out loud or online.

MerryChristmasToYou · 23/09/2023 20:59

@Upcyclerookie , couldn't resist. And that's the bald truth.

littleripper · 23/09/2023 20:59

It's a solar panel for a sex machine. Or so I am told. 😂😂

punnetofcherries · 23/09/2023 21:00

I'm the same with men with beards....they really do give me the ick (as well as bald men!!)

Xrays · 23/09/2023 21:00

My dh has gone mostly bald since we’ve been together, nearly 15 years now. He used to have lovely shiny dark hair and now he’s like a little prickly cactus 😆 he laughs about it but I know it bothers him, I still find him attractive. He shaves his head now which I think is better than when men leave the not so bald bits. The difficulty is that it’s really normal for men to go bald as they get older - it’s a bit like women going through the menopause and putting on weight (very common too). If you don’t fancy them, you don’t fancy them but you’re doing yourself out of a huge pool of men to choose from at 40 plus!

HedgehogB · 23/09/2023 21:00

Everyone is different! DH is balding and was losing it when I met him 14 years ago, but I happen to find it attractive because it’s on HIM not because I’m particularly into it or not into it. I think you get used to who you love and their features …. Whatever they grow to be. DH happens to have dark hair and tans, he has a nice shaped head as well it just suits him I guess. I wouldn’t be into all bald men by any means. I think it’s ok to have a preference but not to make it too obvious what your reasons are ! And not to shame any friends whose partners might be losing their hair so my advice is, it’s ok to not like it but just keep it to yourself . Dating photos should be accurate I do agree, but there’s no guarantee that s guy you meet with tons of hair isn’t going to go bald later! How old are you OP?

NoWayNarc · 23/09/2023 21:01

And “know how to hide it well” you mean how women wear makeup or pose to make themselves look slimmer or wear certain styles of clothes to hide lumps and bumps. Grow up OP, yes some men going bald might want to hide it, because it’s a change to their body perhaps they still need to come to terms with themselves.

PostOpOp · 23/09/2023 21:01

Well it's like everything, some will find it a turn off, some will notice but not care, some won't notice and others will find it a turn on!

I don't think it's that hard or controversial.

There a difference between saying "I'm not attracted to X" abc "All men/women with X feature are horrible so I'd never date one". The former is reasonable, the latter definitely not.

Safe to say though that many men who are losing their hair are extremely self conscious about it and aren't doing it deliver, so there's no need to be unkind. It would be like being unkind to someone because they're aging.

Not that you are being unkind in what you say, but I'm sure if I was self-conscious, balding man and I came across this post I'd find its existence pretty upsetting.

Tryingtokeepcalmandcarryon · 23/09/2023 21:02

As someone with a lovely partner who is very self conscious about going bald and would do anything to keep a thick head of hair as he ages, this post makes me feel a bit sad

BettyBallerina · 23/09/2023 21:02

I’d far rather date somebody who was bald than someone who was unkind.

Wallywobbles · 23/09/2023 21:04

Love bald men.

Echobelly · 23/09/2023 21:05

I think it's a bit of a shame, but it doesn't give me the ick unless they're handling it really badly like having a combover or wearing it long. DH was losing his when we met but I was still attracted to him, he wears it shaved and luckily that really suits him.

Blueeyedmale · 23/09/2023 21:06

Each to their own OP can't really say I've seen that many bold men but maybe bold men find the idea of a grown woman using the word ick to describe them not very attractive

CathyorClaire · 23/09/2023 21:06

There is no contest between a modern no.1 all-over and a 70's combover.

Expand your horizons, OP!

Xrays · 23/09/2023 21:07

littleripper · 23/09/2023 20:59

It's a solar panel for a sex machine. Or so I am told. 😂😂

Dh and I have just giggled at this 😆