Anyone else turned off by bald or going bad men?

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It just seems so common for men to be bald or going bald, it feels like every other guy is bald.
I know they can't help it but it gives me the ick.
Even if they were to shave their heads, they still look bald.
I have never gone out with a bald guy and I'm in my 40s now. I just really don't find it attractive.
I feel like if I was dating them then I wouldn't want to touch their head.
I like to be able to grab their hair (in the heat of passion for example)!
Been on 2 dates with 2 guys who didn't look like they were going bald on their photos, it's like they must know how to hide it well but it was one of the first things I noticed when I met them. And it was a disappointment, like false advertising almost.
Anyone else feel like this? Just curious to know.

I am no supermodel myself so I'm aware some guys may not find me attractive either.

Most Mumsnetters would go bonkers. They do with every body image thread. But some people have strong dislikes. I find hairy men repulsive too. Lots of men do find small breasts, especially near flat-chested women like myself, repulsive.

IMO you're only a twat if you tell someone you find their body repulsive, but general discussion on a forum?! It's what they're for! I don't get why people get so worked up.

What good does it do to know other people find X body trait repulsive? Do you think you’ve found your tribe? Once you’ve established that you find X repulsive, where do you go from there? It’s pointless IMO and needlessly bitchy.

People slag off fat people all the time here. This isn't any different.

Yes, it would be fine to admit to.

As I said, I'm fat, with saggy boobs, I don't care if men find that repulsive, I'd actually rather know if they did so I'm not wasting my time with someone who wasn't attracted to me.

I have noticed that men slowly look older and older than their partners so it looks like the women are going out with their dad lol. Women self preserve better.

I don’t join in with that either. Nor do I do it with my friends.

@Beezknees , generally, fat people can lose some of the fat, but there's not a lot you can do about baldness, although I know a couple of men who have had hair transplants.

I get that, but that doesn't mean that people can force themselves to be attracted to someone if they aren't, for whatever reason.

If OP is truly "repulsed" by bald men, it's her choice, there's no rule that says she has to date anyone she doesn't want to. As long as she's aware that it will severely limit her options as she ages and doesn't moan about being single, it doesn't matter.

I agree on some of your points.

However, I would add that for most people, a general forum is for discussion and debate, not slinging hyperbolic insults around knowing that they may deliberately upset someone, you see it time and again on here. But so many seem to get a kick out of that, which is not really my thing.

Someone can get worked up about what they like, it's not really for anyone else to tell them otherwise IMO. Strangely, it's normally the people who accuse others of that very thing, that seem to get themselves in a bit of a tizzy. You can normally spot them with overuse of exclamation marks.

What interesting post, I always think that women don’t care about Baldness as much as men do

I don't think anyone is suggesting that someone 'force' themselves to be attracted to someone, are they? Apologies if I've missed those posts.

@Puffypuffin , I wasn't suggesting anyone force themselves.

No, but people are berating her for it.

I'm not in a tizzy. I'm an animated speaker/typer. I hate these stupid passive aggressive, suddenly above it all responses you get on MN. Why react to my post in the first place?

Im a man who has very thick ginger hair even now in my 40s but I do remember shaving my head bald once years ago for charity and some people said I really suited it but it was nice to not hear any ginger jokes for a few weeks lol.

I suppose it helps that im tall and athletic with broad shoulders so being bald probaly made me look more masculine.

I dont understand why some people here are calling OP shallow because we all have preferences.

What are you going to do when you get into your fifties, sixties, seventies etc and all the men of the same age are either bald or badly thinning on top?
Stay single? Make them wear a wig?

What would you do if you met the most wonderful man and had the perfect relationship and he then lost his hair?

I find bald men very attractive.
My DH was losing his hair when we met at 22, he has a confident personality so it never bothered him. I fell in love with his kindness and his sense of humour, looks didn't come in to it for me. (Though I love his beautifully shaped hands and gorgeous forearms, a big turn on for me!)

Also personally not a fan of balding or bald heads, or beards.

I remember an old thread I read where some of the women said they didn't care if potential dating partners were bald as they had enough hair for them both! It sounded like they were going to supply a toupee from their surplus 😀. I have very long hair, so always thought that's why I didn't like bald men.

You're right. It wouldn't, or shouldn't, matter.

No. Beards however, puke.

I remember an old thread I read where some of the women said they didn't care if potential dating partners were bald as they had enough hair for them both! It sounded like they were going to supply a toupee from their surplus

Bald is surely preferable to a toupee... A toupee is an active choice, not genetic heritage.

I don’t mind a well kept beard. Not bushy or straggly.

I don't think they were actually going to supply a toupee, to their bald partners, made from their own hair. At least I hope not 😱

I'm turned off by their personalities. Lots of bald men I've met seem to be assholes. I have lots of awesome, kind, sensitive male friends too and only one is bald - he's one of the minority.

Does going bald turn lots of men into assholes? Like the insecurity about their looks makes them bitter and angry?

Or are assholes more likely to become bald (compared to kind sensitive men), perhaps they have too much testosterone. Or perhaps the genes for baldness also predispose a man to have an aggressive personality.

Most of the bald guys I know are the type to be really into football and sneer at overweight or unattractive women. Truly ugly personalities.

It's definitely the bald guys' personalities I find repulsive and not the lack of hair. Patrick Stewart in his 40s is exactly my type: articulate, sensitive, intelligent - a deep thinker - bald men like him are the exception to the rule.