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Anyone else turned off by bald or going bad men?

154 replies

Upcyclerookie · 23/09/2023 20:53

It just seems so common for men to be bald or going bald, it feels like every other guy is bald.
I know they can't help it but it gives me the ick.
Even if they were to shave their heads, they still look bald.
I have never gone out with a bald guy and I'm in my 40s now. I just really don't find it attractive.
I feel like if I was dating them then I wouldn't want to touch their head.
I like to be able to grab their hair (in the heat of passion for example)!
Been on 2 dates with 2 guys who didn't look like they were going bald on their photos, it's like they must know how to hide it well but it was one of the first things I noticed when I met them. And it was a disappointment, like false advertising almost.
Anyone else feel like this? Just curious to know.

I am no supermodel myself so I'm aware some guys may not find me attractive either.

OP posts:
LadyWithLapdog · 23/09/2023 21:15

OP, I hope you check before the throes of passion, in case that full head of hair you want to grab is transplanted and a bit fragile.

SweetAndSourChick3n · 23/09/2023 21:17

I'm not a huge fan of the receding hairline look but I love a bald man. Hate beards though.

InterFactual · 23/09/2023 21:21

Good luck finding a man who isn't balding the older you get. What a sad post, I genuinely feel sorry for you as you will be narrowing down your options significantly as the years go by. You will also be showing the effects of ageing and men might be turned off by your laugh lines or grey hairs.

If I were you I'd start getting comfortable with being alone.

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Upcyclerookie · 23/09/2023 21:22

Definitely did not want to offend anyone with my post and apologies if I did. It's just I always hear women saying how they love a bald guy and wondered if there was anyone like me . Guess I'm on my own with that one!

OP posts:
Janieforever · 23/09/2023 21:24

Doesn’t bother Me. Would you be offended if a bloke posted he didn’t fancy fat women? Or do you think it’s ok for women to behave as you do only?

cryinglaughing · 23/09/2023 21:24

Ooh, I love a bald head!

GoogleMeNot · 23/09/2023 21:25

BettyBallerina · 23/09/2023 21:02

I’d far rather date somebody who was bald than someone who was unkind.

This :) Flowers

Whoiscomingtosaveyou · 23/09/2023 21:25

Solar panel for a sex machine (in DH’s case) 😁

Original poster
Upcyclerookie · 23/09/2023 21:25

@Janieforever I would respect that that's his preference and what he's attracted to and accept what he finds unattractive

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schnubbins · 23/09/2023 21:25

I am married to a man with a big thick head of hair but do not think that bald men are not attractive .TBH I don't even notice it anymore if a man has a bald head or not. A happy face is more important!

NowWhattt · 23/09/2023 21:26

BettyBallerina · 23/09/2023 21:02

I’d far rather date somebody who was bald than someone who was unkind.

Exactly.

Rather shallow post I feel.

Women go through the menopause , put on weight, lose their looks etc ..

Can you imagine if it was guy posting he didn’t fancy fat, unattractive women.

There would be an uproar on here .

Oblomov23 · 23/09/2023 21:28

I'm not keen either. I like a full head of hair.

Lilyargin · 23/09/2023 21:29

Totally agree. I find it as unattractive as most men find a bald/balding woman. Does not look good.

ImBoilingJackie · 23/09/2023 21:32

My beloved DH is hairy. My celebrity crush is bald. I don't have a 'type'.
I haven't ever based my attraction to anyone purely on how they look.

Dacadactyl · 23/09/2023 21:34

For me it totally depends what the rest of their face and body/clothing is like.

ElizaWinter · 23/09/2023 21:34

In my experience it's mostly men with blond or fair hair who go bald.

blackheartsgirl · 23/09/2023 21:35

Nope I quite like bald men, a shaved bald head is quite sexy especially if the rest of them looks smart, well dressed etc

what I can’t stand is the comb over or bald and straggly bits, my bil has this, he looks ridiculous (bit of a prat anyway) My mum who’s 74 and no filter met him at a funeral recently and turned me in horror and loudly whispered in the church .. dear god Blackheart who’s that man, he looks like something out of a horror film.
i did laugh I’m ashamed to say.

Whataretheodds · 23/09/2023 21:36

NeverDropYourMooncup · 23/09/2023 20:57

As the dating pool you're looking at will have roughly 50% of men already balding by 50 and 70% after that, you're somewhat narrowing down your options there. Especially when you take into account that some of that remaining 30-50% won't want a woman as old as you or will find saggy breasts, grey or dyed hair, wrinkles and a 'Ewww, aren't bald men disgusting!' attitude less attractive.

This. You'll do yourself a lot of favours if you can reframe how you think about it. What's the point in meeting the love of your life with a full head of hair now if you're going to have gone off it in 10 years when he's lost it?

Xrays · 23/09/2023 21:36

I think you should just go on dates with people and see if there’s chemistry, you can’t always tell from a pic etc - even if they’re bald you might end up fancying them. Honestly. I think as we get older you have to try and see past the initial “do I fancy them” and think is there potential… and then just see if you click.

I mean I fancy the chef guy from The Bear, he’s got tons of nice curly ish hair but he’s not likely to turn up on my doorstep (dh would be surprised 😆) but bald dh and I make each other very happy.

AmazingSnakeHead · 23/09/2023 21:37

Doesn't bother me. I think calling trying to downplay hair loss in photos "false advertising" is a bit much though - they're people, not products. I wouldn't consider wearing make up or taking a photo from a flattering angle "false advertising" either.

Zampa · 23/09/2023 21:38

When I met DH he was already bald at 38. Weirdly, since meeting him, I am now more likely to find a man with no hair attractive then not. But they have to have any remaining hair closely cropped. I am not one for contrast.

itsmyp4rty · 23/09/2023 21:39

Wow OP imagine if you were in a 20 year relationship and your OH went bald - what would you do then I wonder? Dump him because you no longer find him attractive?

Sunshinenrain · 23/09/2023 21:41

I’ve always liked men with bald heads or very shaved heads.
I love giving them a head massage.

Most men I’ve met with more hair usually had greasy or smelly hair which I can’t stand.

I notice many women over 30ish have thinning hair too and for some people it’s just something that can’t be helped.

VanillaFlotilla · 23/09/2023 21:42

OP were you hoping this would turn into a bald-bashing thread?!

You're allowed to like or dislike whatever you want. But there's something to be said for courtesy and respect to others.

AdoraBell · 23/09/2023 21:42

If it gives you the ick you’re not unreasonable but many men go bald as they age.

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