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Anyone else turned off by bald or going bad men?

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Upcyclerookie · 23/09/2023 20:53

It just seems so common for men to be bald or going bald, it feels like every other guy is bald.
I know they can't help it but it gives me the ick.
Even if they were to shave their heads, they still look bald.
I have never gone out with a bald guy and I'm in my 40s now. I just really don't find it attractive.
I feel like if I was dating them then I wouldn't want to touch their head.
I like to be able to grab their hair (in the heat of passion for example)!
Been on 2 dates with 2 guys who didn't look like they were going bald on their photos, it's like they must know how to hide it well but it was one of the first things I noticed when I met them. And it was a disappointment, like false advertising almost.
Anyone else feel like this? Just curious to know.

I am no supermodel myself so I'm aware some guys may not find me attractive either.

OP posts:
Catsmere · 23/09/2023 23:03

Depends on the bloke. Mostly no, they don’t appeal, but Patrick Stewart for example would be a yes! 😄

Sonolanona · 23/09/2023 23:04

Dh was losing his hair when I met him..mid 20's.
Now our sons are losing theirs. It is what it is! Luckily Dh found me and DS1 found his wonderful wife... who could see what DS1 will look like as he's the image of his dad Grin (DS2 is autistic and single and does not care) They both compensate by having great beards!!!

Uurrjb · 23/09/2023 23:10

Jeez it’s like having blue eyes or a monobrow it’s inherited

but what ever is your thing just be polite

dont rage at People with the wrong hairline

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KimberleyClark · 23/09/2023 23:17

I’ve never been put off by bald men. Patrick Stewart anyone?

Beezknees · 23/09/2023 23:20

I don't tend to fancy bald men. I actually like longer hair on men.

We all have physical preferences, I'm fat so I'm well aware plenty of men wouldn't fancy me and I don't take it personally.

twobluechickens · 23/09/2023 23:57

I love a baldy, love a short beard (less keen on long and straggly), love a hairy chest. Equally I find blokes with a full head of hair attractive. I couldn't say I have a preference for anything in particular because why would I want to narrow my options? I feel for blokes who are losing their hair - it runs in both sides of my family - but as others have said, far better to chop it off than attempt to cover it with what's left. Embrace the bald! Confident baldies are hot 🔥

Also I am middle aged, tall and have grey hair so I'm in no position to judge.

FrozenGhost · 24/09/2023 00:03

We all have physical preferences, I'm fat so I'm well aware plenty of men wouldn't fancy me and I don't take it personally.

Yep same, most men think I'm hideous and wouldn't touch me with a barge pole, and thats fine. So I can't get worried about OP preference for non bald men.

For myself I don't mind either way though.

UnctuousUnicorns · 24/09/2023 00:12

My DH had a full head of hair when I first met him 28 years ago, now he has a small bald patch, and a slight paunch, but hey, I've got stretch marks and a bit of a belly after bearing our three kids, and my tits have headed south somewhat, but he still loves and fancies me, and I him; he's kind, loving and supportive, we're very happy together, so what's a bit of hair? 🤷‍♀️

Highdaysandholidays1 · 24/09/2023 00:18

At 20, it's a choice not to date bald men. In your forties, it's severely limiting your choices, especially if you are fussy about them losing a bit of hair as well (being bald or thinning is a majority of men). I love baldies so this is fine for me. I've also noticed that sometimes men with lots of hair when they are older are a bit wanky and kind of up themselves, as if having a full head of hair is an actual achievement and not just about luck. As for wigs and transplants, nooooooo!

Highdaysandholidays1 · 24/09/2023 00:19

I've just googled, OP, and by age 70, 4 out or 5 men are bald or have significant hair loss. So, I think it's just a natural part of ageing. You can always try to date the 20% though!

spookehtooth · 24/09/2023 01:38

My hair is slowly on its way out, its going a lot slower than I expected tho. Its fine to feel like that, but I also wouldn't recommend broadcasting your physical dislikes.

Anyone broadcasting their dislikes about appearance on a dating profile gets an instant left swipe from me, regardless of whether their dislike applies to me. It makes me worry about how they treat other people generally.

Inaccurate and unfair? Who knows, I've not researched it. Thing is profile information is all I have to go on, and I'm look for clues about values and behaviour, which are really important to me. Its easier to be more forgiving and less judgemental after meeting and I know a person better

EBearhug · 24/09/2023 02:09

Not bothered either way, but I'm not keen on a tonsure type, where they maintain a ring of hair round the back of the head- if you get to that point, you might as well shave what's left IMO.

My own hair is quite thin ("really fine, like silk," according to partner,) and going by the women on the paternal side of my family (which is the side I inherited my hair from,) it's likely to get much, much thinner and wispier once I'm through menopause, so I'm not in a position to judge.

Wednesdaysotherchild · 24/09/2023 02:19

Not a fan of bald men no. Love thick head of hair, beards, chest and back hair. Would get the ick if he shaved his pubes. It’s just personal preference, we all have it.

DinnaeFashYersel · 24/09/2023 07:37

Bald men are fine.

Your outlook on life though OP gives me the ick. It's not attractive at all. Repulsive actually.

Netcam · 24/09/2023 07:48

Many of us here I'm sure will have committed to spending our lives with a wonderful man who had a full head of thick hair when we met them. Part of growing old for all of us is accepting the inevitable changes that will happen to our own bodies and those or our partners we have chosen for life. Just as I hope my DH loves me now at 53 post menopause, I also love him with his thinning hair. If he goes bald eventually I'll still love him, as I hope he will love me if I go grey.

Puffypuffin · 24/09/2023 08:14

Well you can't help what you like, but it's a shame that you won't get to know someone based on their hairline. I was always with men who had a full head of hair until I met DH when I was in my 30s. He shaved his head (he was going bald) and 22 years later it didn't/doesn't bother me one bit.

Up to you of course.

koalaknickers · 24/09/2023 08:17

According to the American Hair Loss Association:

  • Approximately 25 percent of men who have hereditary male pattern baldness start losing their hair before the age of 21.
  • By the age of 35, approximately 66 percent of men will have experienced some degree of hair loss.
  • By the age of 50, approximately 85 percent of men will have significantly thinner hair.

You are attracted to what you are attracted to, but as a PP said your options will narrow as the years go by (and remember you too will be getting older).

Kinsters · 24/09/2023 08:17

I have a weird thing for bald men. Idk what or why but there's something about it that I find attractive! It's not a deal breaker though, DH has a full head of hair and if he's like his dad he won't be losing it any time soon.

WinchSparkle80 · 24/09/2023 08:21

Bruce Willis mmmmmm

HoliHormonalTigerLillyTheSecond · 24/09/2023 08:39

It wouldn't bother me particularly op.

But your post has made me think that bald women probably don't advertise the fact on dating sites much either. I can't imagine any man saying "I really fancy bald women!" In the way some women do about bald men......

So anyway, you do you.

tiger2691 · 24/09/2023 08:47

Yes, I hate myself, only joking! Since male pattern baldness set in I've had some right off key comments, the worse one was a customer who came in the charity shop I was working in and asked me whether I was a cancer victim, cheeky cow.

WandaWonder · 24/09/2023 09:02

So if a man said he was turned off by women showing their age, having saggy bits or any other number of things would this be OK to admit too?

But no I don't get turned off by anything natural on a man, I would get turned off by fake tan and any unnatural change

fruitnutz · 24/09/2023 09:06

I find it repulsive too. I don't know why everyone is so upset. You can accept men have no control over it and still find it a turn off. Problem is OP, by a certain age, most British men are bald. How about dating a younger man? Or East Asian? Far fewer EA men bald.

Mumofmarauders · 24/09/2023 09:09

I wouldn't say baldness repelled me but I do often look at my husband (mid 40s) lovely thick crop of heavy hair and think how glad I am he still has it! I'm sure if/when it does start to go I'll still find him attractive but of course it's different when you already love the person. I think it's normal to have some things which aren't gross per se but which don't float your boat, I wouldn't say it's unreasonable tbh

Puffypuffin · 24/09/2023 09:39

fruitnutz · 24/09/2023 09:06

I find it repulsive too. I don't know why everyone is so upset. You can accept men have no control over it and still find it a turn off. Problem is OP, by a certain age, most British men are bald. How about dating a younger man? Or East Asian? Far fewer EA men bald.

'Repulsive'? It's fine if you have a personal preference, we all do, but steady on love. 😂

I can just imagine if a man posted on here that he found women with small breasts 'repulsive'.

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