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Anyone else turned off by bald or going bad men?

154 replies

Upcyclerookie · 23/09/2023 20:53

It just seems so common for men to be bald or going bald, it feels like every other guy is bald.
I know they can't help it but it gives me the ick.
Even if they were to shave their heads, they still look bald.
I have never gone out with a bald guy and I'm in my 40s now. I just really don't find it attractive.
I feel like if I was dating them then I wouldn't want to touch their head.
I like to be able to grab their hair (in the heat of passion for example)!
Been on 2 dates with 2 guys who didn't look like they were going bald on their photos, it's like they must know how to hide it well but it was one of the first things I noticed when I met them. And it was a disappointment, like false advertising almost.
Anyone else feel like this? Just curious to know.

I am no supermodel myself so I'm aware some guys may not find me attractive either.

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LifeIsHardAlways · 23/09/2023 21:42

I personally hate bald men, just can’t bear it. Unfortunately for me, my husband is losing his hair 😂 he’s not fussed but it does bother me as he just doesn’t have a face that can pull off being bald…

Scruffington · 23/09/2023 21:42

SweetAndSourChick3n · 23/09/2023 21:17

I'm not a huge fan of the receding hairline look but I love a bald man. Hate beards though.

I quite like a beard. A shortish one, not those Victorian beards nearly every bloke seemed to be sporting in 2017, but they can be scratchy.

TicTacNicNak · 23/09/2023 21:45

My brother started going bald at 19 but he had good confidence and his lovely wife fortunately saw his good qualities and not the baldness.

We all have things we like or dislike but I'd much rather a man was bald than mean or abusive or just lacking in personality.

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RomeoMcFlourish · 23/09/2023 21:46

I don’t mind baldness, as long as they just bite the bullet and shave the whole lot. Can’t be doing with the ‘bald head with big bushy beard’ look that’s trendy either though, always makes me think that they look like their head is upside down, it really gives me the ‘ick’ for some reason. If a bloke’s gonna be bald, I want him properly bald!

Throwncrumbs · 23/09/2023 21:46

No, I’m more turned off by a flapping comb over😂

GiveYourHeadAWobble · 23/09/2023 21:49

I honestly don't care.

TooningOut · 23/09/2023 21:52

@Tryingtokeepcalmandcarryon tell your partner to start finesteride!!
I know someone whose mental health was in tatters because of his balding so he decided to do something about it. That was 15 years ago and he hasn't lost another hair since. He actually gained hair once he started treatment.

FedUpOfItA · 23/09/2023 21:54

Trying to hide it gives me the ick. Personally, I would rather date someone with no hair. It just looks more normal past a certain point and I think men can get away with it.

Unicorn2022 · 23/09/2023 21:58

To be honest I do find men with a full head of hair very attractive. It's quite rare to see a man in his 40s or older with a full head of hair nowadays.

Daz57 · 23/09/2023 21:59

Lamelie · 23/09/2023 20:58

You can like what you like but it’s best not said out loud or online.

Well said. This post left me fuming. OP sounds very shallow.
My lovely grandson went prematurely bald and I hope he finds a lovely girl who loves him for who he is and not how much hair he has or doesn’t have.

FallGall · 23/09/2023 22:00

I don't mind bald men but excessively hair men on the other hand, with big hairy chests! Yuck!

I also don't mind short men. But don't like too skinny or too fat men. We like what we like. We can't help it!

mjf981 · 23/09/2023 22:11

It’s been proven that hair loss is one of the most traumatic things a man can go through. It can hugely affect their confidence.
So think what you like, but please keep it to yourself.

bluedomino · 23/09/2023 22:13

Prefer a bald man to one who spends a fortune, £100s a time, on weird smelling magic hair growing stuff (that doesn't work on receding hairline) and sprays on fake black hair fibers, which smell horrible, run down their face and ruin pillow cases. Especially when the rest of the family have to go without basics to pay for this vanity. Bald man anyday, especially if he just makes jokes about it.

Scruffington · 23/09/2023 22:19

bluedomino · 23/09/2023 22:13

Prefer a bald man to one who spends a fortune, £100s a time, on weird smelling magic hair growing stuff (that doesn't work on receding hairline) and sprays on fake black hair fibers, which smell horrible, run down their face and ruin pillow cases. Especially when the rest of the family have to go without basics to pay for this vanity. Bald man anyday, especially if he just makes jokes about it.

they all head to Turkey now for a 5K transplant.

echt · 23/09/2023 22:21

Doesn't bother me at all. But worn with confidence, not apologetic. And definitely no comb-overs or disguising hats worn indoors.

Nat6999 · 23/09/2023 22:22

I love bald men, never been in a relationship with a man with hair.

Nat6999 · 23/09/2023 22:25

Exh had a bit of hair for about a month before I persuaded him it looked better without, late dp at 29 had already lost all his & I didn't want him doing the same as his dad & wearing a weave.

Lollywillowes · 23/09/2023 22:27

I think it's the trying to cover up the baldness that gives me the ick.

I was on a fourth date with a guy once and we'd been at the beach. We went to the pub and he spent the whole time looking at himself in the mirrored wall behind me horrified and desperately trying to re-style his hair so the bald patch wasn't visible.

There was no fifth date.

SallyWD · 23/09/2023 22:34

Really doesn't bother me. I often don't even notice if a man is bald or just has shaved/very short hair. I know some very attractive bald men.

TheLeadbetterLife · 23/09/2023 22:38

I'm the opposite OP, I love a cue ball. Bruce Willis in the 90s... yes please.

Trickytimer · 23/09/2023 22:41

Unicorn2022 · 23/09/2023 21:58

To be honest I do find men with a full head of hair very attractive. It's quite rare to see a man in his 40s or older with a full head of hair nowadays.

I do too which is lucky because my husband still has and very curly too, from a brunette to shades of grey, so lovely and he’s mid 60s, his dad also had full head of hair in his 80s

Grumpyoldpersonwithcats · 23/09/2023 22:47

I'm a bald man, my hair started receding in my late teens. I've also got a beard which is apparently another verboten trait on MN.

Personally I always tended to be attracted to people based on their personality rather than individual bodily features, but even if I weren't I believe that I have better manners than to comment about individual features of women that 'give me the ick'.

BCBird · 23/09/2023 22:49

Bald is my preference😁

GigiAnnna · 23/09/2023 22:52

I don't fancy bald men either. Maybe if I found myself single when I was older I'd consider dating a bald guy the same age but at the moment I'm only in my 30s and most men round my age have hair.

DiscoBeat · 23/09/2023 22:52

I'm the same!