How many kids do you have and would you have that number again if you could turn back time?

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I’m not asking if you’d have your actual kids with their identities again. But would you have the same number again if you could start your family from scratch?

I have one and love having one. She’s only five though so my views could change

This question is almost impossible to answer as of course you’ll think of your actual kids and how you couldn’t imagine not having them.
I have two and happy with them. I can’t say I regret having two but tbh I think sometimes how life would be much easier if I only had DC1. They are now 2 and 4, so relatively early days and hopefully things get easier soon. I do feel like a calmer and more quiet life and house would suit my personality better.

1 but I would have liked more but unfortunately unexplained infertility

None and none 😊

I have two and I’m v. relieved that I realized that my earlier daydream of having four children and a dog wasn’t a good fit for me after all!

We did get a dog though. 😉

I have two children and I would go back to 2016 and have no children. Having children is my biggest mistake. I absolutely love them but my ADHD/Autism has nose dived since becoming a mother.

Have 0, wanted 0.

I’m very happily childfree and would definitely make the same decisions again.

Three and yes - absolutely!

I have 1 and never wanted more, so would happily have 1 again!

Two children and very happy to have two.

I have 3. I didn't want any at all until my mid-30s, then just one, and then two max.

Pregnancy 2 was twins.

But now I think 3 is perfect

I have 3 and would have had 2. DC1 was unplanned and raised as an only child when I was a single mum. DC2 and 3 were born when DC1 was an adult and after I was married, so more like 2 different families. If I had planned a family from the outset, I would have planned for 2. I love the dynamic between DC2 and DC3 and it is manageable because we can split lots of parenting between DH and me.m and they still get 1:1 attention.

We have two but Imd have loved a third. Unfortunately, it took a few years for DH to be on board with the idea, but which point it seemed we were too late. Three miscarriages later we gave up trying.

At 31 and 33. Very happy to have 2 - wanted 3 for a while - very very glad I didn't. Also I think I was the perfect age to have them.

I have 3. In all honesty knowing my life now I would have none.

It's a false premise to dream of a childfree alternative life, since before I had them (via IVF) there is nothing on the face of this earth that could have persuaded me not to blindly push on with TTC at all costs. It's only now, that I have what I wanted, that I think 'ah FFS. I don't like it after all'

Maybe I'm just a moaner though.

Have 4 would have 2 or none

I have 2 and I'm happy. But if I'd have had a third one I'd also be happy.

I’ve got three, if I could turn back time I would have had six.

We have four - the fourth was a bit of a surprise! Will be sending the fourth off to University next year. Wouldn't change a thing - they have been and are an absolute delight and enrich our life in so many ways. Never had any teenage drama or prolonged bad behaviour. Yes, they have cost us financially but were worth every penny. I feel blessed.

1. Would definitely do the same if I had my time over.

I have 4 adult children, all in good relationships, good jobs, and I'm a nana to 4 with another one cooking for December. I love them all dearly and wouldn't be without any of them.

However, my personal life story is a lot of damage in childhood. I bought forward into adults and married, and the ex who was too very damaged.

Knowing all I know now, I doubt I would have made the choice to have 4. However, I am one of the very "lucky" ones who were badly damaged to get into good therapy and long-term recovery.

My adult children have come through all this OK as my 2nd late husband was and is the Dad he didn't have to be, so they got to see me young enough emotionally start recovering and to see a good stable loving relationship with my 2nd husband

That is the simplest answer I can give

2 and would have two again. Dithered about a third, but now they’re teens I’m so bloody glad I didn’t go for it .

I have three, if I could go back in time I would probably aim for 4

we didn’t have number 4 as i had a miscarriage between 1 and 2 and by the time we were reading for number 4 we felt the age gap between 1 and 4 would be too big for us

dh didnt want 4 but a few years later he said that he thought that was a mistake and that we should have gone for it

Another with 3
i would probably have 4 if I had the chance again

1 and that's what we planned

Currently pregnant with baby number 9....I'm 37, and they range ages from 20 down to 5.
My eldest is also expecting his first child. So I will become a mum and a nanny in the space of 9 weeks. Would I change it for the world.... I would absolutely not. Would I have any less, absolutely not.