How many kids do you have and would you have that number again if you could turn back time?

[Fishandchipsatthebeach]

I’m not asking if you’d have your actual kids with their identities again. But would you have the same number again if you could start your family from scratch?

I have one and love having one. She’s only five though so my views could change

Same here! My eldest was 2 when I the twins...10 years later its getting easier, but so much stuff is geared up to families of 4....

I have 4. Happy with 4.

I have 4. The last was a surprise and as there's 5 years between her and number 3, I'd have had another so she had a closer sibling to play with but age was against me so she's the baby. I'd accepted I wouldn't have kids of my own by the time I met my husband so to have 4 is a massive blessing and I wouldn't change it

I would only have one if I could do it again. It makes more sense to set up one child for success with all resources channeled towards them.

I have one, born just before my 43rd birthday. Would not change a thing.

2 can only afford 2
But saying that everything else aside would still have 2

I have 4. I look back to the time of when I just had 2 as being the happiest of my life, so I probably would stick with 2. I obviously don't regret my youngest two though (even though my third gives the devil a run for his money).
I could never have had just the one, so two is the "ideal" to me.

1 and 1 too. Perfect for me!

I have three. Happy with three.

Had I realised how much I'd enjoyed motherhood I wish I'd had them sooner.

I had them aged 33, 35 and 38. I think aged 28, 30 and 32 would have been much better. But then our work and housing situation was more precarious at that time.

One and done - very happy with this

I have 1, we live in a very rural area with a tiny school. She's lonely and would have loved a sibling 😔

Just the one! A girl (13yo). Never wanted any more than her 😊

I wouldn't have twins as my first at age 31 again but v glad we braved bringing their younger sister into the world 5 years later. They are a lovely tribe.

I have 2 - and feel very happy and lucky with that. Would've had them a couple of years younger if being picky but that's about all I'd change (conceived at 31 and 34

3 and would of had 4 easily

I have 3 but would have had 1 or 2 if I could have chosen (I had twins second pregnancy so not much choice about having 3!)

1. Would have 4 again.

If finances/personal circumstances/births were different I would have probably had 6.

Previous question about rooms, ours share.
DC1 and DC2 had their own rooms until DC2 was 6 but they wouldn't stay in their own rooms. They are a bit like a pack, even as teens etc they don't generally seek out their own space. If we had 5 bedrooms I think they would choose shared rooms with communal spaces/games rooms.
We are very lucky. I imagine life would be quite different if they didn't choose to spend time together.

I have noticed when I say I have 4 in my current frontline role which deals with people on benefits that I get gasps of horror so much so that I try not to say unless asked directly.
Just about to move to a job where I think its more professional and posh, when pushed on my trial day I said I had 4 and no eyebrows raised at all.
So yes I guess money is a big factor. We are now quite broke obviously what either 4. 2 were oops.
I'd not do it again given the state of the world but personally I'd find an abortion an extremely hard option.

I have 3 I love having 3, but the world is better set up for families with 2 children so I can't deny life is easier with 2. I don't think I could manage with just 2 though. I enjoy 3 too much for the negatives to outweigh the positive.

I have two born a year apart one of each and happy with my lot.

I have three. I'd have had four or five if dh was game.

Got 3. Would have 4 if money and house and body and patience allowed. I keep having lovely dreams about having another but my body can’t do it. The kids get on so well - ages span 7 years.

I’m going to be one of those annoying people though and say that any number is good though… had 4.5 years with just 2 kids and that was just getting to be soooo easy and fun and SIMPLE. 3 feels like a lot but number 3 is still very small here.

Also when I just had 1 kid I remember thinking I could have a perfectly fulfilled and happy and satisfied life with just him.

Wanted 3, had three.

I think if I'd started younger I might have had more. But I didn't want to start younger!

1. I love having 4.

I wish I'd had my older two with my current partner though. It's hard being essentially a single parent to two and not to the other two.