How many kids do you have and would you have that number again if you could turn back time?

[Fishandchipsatthebeach]

I’m not asking if you’d have your actual kids with their identities again. But would you have the same number again if you could start your family from scratch?

I have one and love having one. She’s only five though so my views could change

Have 2 and would stick with 2. They are 11 and 8 now and getting much easier

Three. They weren’t planned. I hated being pregnant and I was sterilised at 28.

I love them to pieces, of course, but not sure looking back. Difficult question to answer.

Have two. Would have loved four but I don’t have the financial or mental wherewithal.

I have two children, born when I was 25 and 27.
I am perfectly happy with two, and when in my life they were born.
I only ever wanted two, didn’t mind what gender, I have one of each 😍

I have 4. I've loved bringing them all up but I never really realised how you never ever stop worrying about them. Even my son in his thirties.

I don't regret having them though. I've 9 grandchildren now! Christmas is getting expensive lol

All the people who have had 4/5/6 children, are you very well off financially? Asking because for that number of children each to have their own bedroom you'd need a large house, a big car, what about the costs of putting say 5 children through university, cost of holidays etc?

I have 3 DC with a big age gap between 2 & 3 (all with my DH). If i could change it I would have had a 12 month gap between them all rather than just DC1 & 2. 3 under 3 would have been fine for us.

I have none and that's the perfect amount for me.

Two - same sex and they broadly get on which has made life so much easier. When small they played together nicely and they are happy coming on family holidays even as later teens as there is an in built “friend” to hang out with.

3 and what I wanted. I wish I'd had them earlier though but it's hard when you're working professionally in industries that look down on motherhood and you're trying to save for a property in the south east.

They all have/had their own room. It just works out.

I have 3. Sometimes I would have none some days I see family’s with 2 and think how easy 2 would have been. And other days I love my 3.
I do really wish however that I had them all at least 5 years earlier.

I have none but not through choice. I'd have absolutely loved one, two or three if I had been lucky.

3 and wouldn't change a thing. 3 works brilliantly for us and couldn't imagine it any other way and wouldn't want it any other way.

I’m not 100% sure.

I left it very late as thought I’d hate it and so have one, I absolutely love it though and sometimes wonder if I might have wanted a larger family. So I think I am 70/30 as to whether I’d stick at 1.

But there doesn’t feel like there is anyone missing either and I am not broody for another (although wasn’t broody for DD either).

My mum has quietly revealed she was happy with one and if she had her time over wouldn’t have had two. That makes her sound awful, she really isn’t but my DB has been a challenging child and adult and if he had been first there wouldn’t have been another. She was cajoled into a second.

Haha, likewise! 😂 Although I'm expecting number 5 in November and our eldest two are teens. Wish we didn't have such a gap between number 4 and 5, I could've squeezed a 6th in! But we were definitely done, got the dog..... until we weren't 😆

4 and would have loved more.

It’s a difficult question to answer. I have 3, probably still happy saying 3 although two would have been more sensible.

Rather than the number, if I could change anything it would be the age I had them at, 32-36. I wish I had been younger with each, 6 years each time.

I have 1. If I could go back in time, I wouldn't have any.

I have 6, but if If I had chance at life again I’d have none! I love them dearly but I am so jealous of people who chose not to have kids and are happy with it.

This will probably sound garbled but as I said earlier, I'd have the same number of children. I wouldn't want it any other way. I love my children, I wouldn't want to be without them. If I was told I could reconsider the number and I wouldn't get given the same children, I might choose to have one, two or none. The only reason I say that is that I've got more life experience and seen some of the harshness of the world. I'm not sure it's a world I want for my children. However, my children seem generally happy to be alive, so would I be wrong in that judgement on their behalf.

I regret the world I brought my children into by not my children, who I would have over again, if that makes sense.

I have two. I adore them both and most days I’d say two is perfect for our family. But when I have either of them solo and can give them my full attention it’s so easy and lovely that I do occasionally think one might be the perfect number.

One when I was very young. I'd do the same again.

I have 2 with a big age gap due to secondary fertility. I'm tempted to say I would have just had 1 with the benefit of hindsight as life was far easier before 2nd was born.

I have 3. I would've liked to have more but I split with dds Dad and was a while before I got together with DP so it's just the way life worked out.
I have a big age gap between my 1st and the second 2