Never again would I date a man who.....

[Strawberryfieldsforeverrr]

Drinks. For me I've wasted too many years with someone whose desire to drink trumps any desire he has to make me happy.

What would you run a mile from in your next relationship?

Plays computer games. You will never compete.

Tells me he loves me. Dont make me fall for you then disappear in every way that matters.

Wore shit shoes - I nearly didn't have a second date with DH as he had the nerve to wear walking boots on our first date (a muddy hill walk!) We've been together 25 years now and luckily his shoes all fit the bill!

If I was dating again now, I couldn't be with someone who:

• Didn't drive
• Didn't drink
• Didn't do any exercise
• Didn't know how to manage their money

Calorie & macro counting.

My ex girlfriend became obsessed with counting macros (calories) and progressively sucked the joy out of our relationship as everything was reduced to a number - which was often 'bad for you'. Everything had to be scanned and logged on her bloody app on her phone!

She wasn't even remotely overweight.

The end came when I found myself on holiday in Rome where every time we went to a bar she'd order a glass of mineral water and then go on about how 'bad and calorific' the negroni I was drinking was for me. She'd also adopted some very rigid routines of getting up at 4.00am so she could do pilates and read her wellness books. By 6pm, she'd be very cranky. Seeing her screaming at the hotel receptionist about 'living your best life' - she felt that everyone around her wasn't doing this - and how all her demands weren't being met, was the breaking point that made me realise that 'empowerment' can also be just another word for tyranny.

Plays or watches any sport
Thinks that every weekend must be spent going somewhere...even if it's just wandering around IKEA
Doesn't do anything around the house
Was in the armed forces

For those that are saying they wouldn't b with a man who doesn't drive....what happens if the man you are with is unable to drive anymore due to medical reasons, would you just leave?

My list would be waaaaaay too long.

My H has a life limiting illness, but it's been a shit marriage all the way through. Assuming he does go before me then no way would I look for someone else.

I have a list that's so long 😞. Many have already been said here such as not driving (though illness related situation as mentioned above would be different). A couple to add, that I have learnt through experience that haven't yet been mentioned:
Men whose fridges are filthy when you first visit,
Who have lots of empty toilet rolls balanced on windowsills and empty shower gel containers as though they were bathroom ornaments.

Never again would I date a man.

Just that.

Men: done with them completely.

the blokes who stomp onto mumsnet threads and think they need to Explain and Lecture and Patronize are absolute sterling examples of why I will never have anything to do with a man again. Neanderthals, weak creatures who demand one pretend they’re oh so much smarter and stronger.
hint: you’re not. Men, you are neither stronger nor smarter. You are, in fact, complete egoistical bores.

what I truly hate is that men ask me if I’m single. AS IF the only thing standing in their way of being with me is some OTHER MAN… when what is standing in their fucking way is my standards.

Who is both obsessed with wrestling and slightly deaf. The commentators (and contestants tbh) are so annoying and shouty and he always has it on so LOUD.

I may be slightly grouchy after DH has been up all fecking night with wrestling on full blast in our teeny flat so I've barely slept either and apparently our promised roast today has fallen by the wayside as he's too full of crisps (and tired obvs). I wouldn't mind so much but he's actually watching a recording of the same matches he recently saw live in Wembley 😳

Probably quite a niche 'never again' haha

Ive been single for years and love it .
I would not let a man in with me ever again .
Agree with a lot from thread .
I can do what i want when i want i was a single mother with my children i done better parenting on my own . there adults now .
I dont miss anything that a man can give best of all i dont have to put up with his family .
And no clutter dont have to cook no man child no walking on egg shells the list goes on .
I have no plans to find a man as i never want one .

I was 16-19, so extremely!

I'm 34 now and I've stuck to my rule, though.

😅

If you think the walking boots are bad my DH turned up to our first date wearing Superman high tops. And a Superman t-shirt. And, it eventually turned out, Superman boxers. Just as hilarious as it sounds (i.e. not at all - he was pushing 40 ffs 😆)

I very nearly dumped on the spot. Thankfully his 'fashion sense' (that term is used very loosely...) has improved under my guidance haha.

My DH doesn't drive but I don't love him any less. He doesn't expect to be take everywhere, he walks or get the bus to work, and same again home. If I'm not busy I will sometimes meet him halfway if he's walking but he by no mean expects this. Yes I'm the driver everywhere, but neither of us drink hardly so I don't feel like I'm ever missing out.

I've only ever been with DH so it's hard to know who I wouldn't date, but anyone who games all the time would be a no no for me I think.

Definitely agree with the non-driving with no medical reason! The audacity of someone treating you as if you’re a taxi driver…sitting on their phone whilst I drove for hours, complaining about the costs of “your car” whilst happily being driven everywhere, grrr.

Never date someone without their own home, rent or mortgage I don’t care but no lodgers who continue to act like a lodger even with partner/kids/home/garden to deal with. Remember ex would magnanimously (and heroically) do the washing up after I’d cooked, taking an hour closed in the kitchen, and always leave it piled for me to put in cupboards as if he was in a stranger’s house where he didn’t know where anything belonged. After years of living together!

Someone who hasn’t bothered to learn to cook by their forties!!!

I wouldn’t date a man who can’t put up shelves. Had two nasty exes who weaponised their incompetence, and seemed to hate women who could just get on with everything because they had to. I taught myself how to do DIY, even took out entire old kitchen and replaced on my own.

Agreed!

id date a bloke that is into fishing. With the expectation he brings home some bloody good fish!

football fans are something else though. I know men who obsessively watch every game and the thought of enduring an entire season where every weekend there’s football on the radio/tv and have to go to every home game and it is t a couple of hours it’s an entire day and then some to recover too.
Same with cyclists. It becomes obsessive and not something joyful.

the best bloke I dated was into metal detecting. his hobby made a bit of money on the side selling scrap. I could still join him and do my own thing (art or photography) we’d take a picnic of sorts and it worked. Together but still separate. We didn’t always go together and that worked great and he didn’t always want to be in a field detecting and we would do other stuff too.

Oh god, too many to list.

I'm single and happy with it but a friend is on the dating scene and tells me about her dates/relationships. So many rubbish men! She's kinder than me and gives them plenty of chances because she'd love to be in a relationship but jeez so many twats and wet rags! She's lovely: attractive, clever, funny, dynamic.

Doesn't put in the same amount of effort.
That constantly talks about exes
Gets drunk too often
Doesn't drive - yes I have tried and not fun when they live an hour away.
In debt
Commitment phobes to not stay around those that have every excuse to why they can't commit to you, I am not just a date on a long term basis or up for 'fun' for the benefit of a man.
Not interested in dating a man that doesn't have his own place as in not a house share or living with parents/lodger, no fixed address types.

Mine would be men who only see their DC every other weekend ( or not at all) and look on or talk in a bemused/patronising way at you when you're trying to sort school bags,dinners for the week,all the kids stuff on top of the usual life admin. Whilst they have any free time for themselves.
That's why I havent even touched a man for 5 years. These men have no idea.
Also men in debt and still love the high life.
Men who cant enjoy simple pleasures like weeding the garden and always have to be going on weekends away or day trips.
Fussy eaters and wont eat my salads.
Men who claim the ex is a loon.

At age 56, I’ve decided to remain single, and have been for 4 years (never say never though!)
based on past experiences I would never date a man who…
drinks to excess, in fact, mine was a deeply in denial abusive alcoholic
smokes
on the rebound
doesn’t have a relationship with his children
no friends
questionable past history that doesn’t add up
says anything remotely or overtly racist or homophobic etc.

I agree with most of the points on this thread.
I would add yucky bathroom habits to the list. Things like leaving soap scum or bristles all round the hand basin, rings round the bath, toothpaste on mirror, etc.
And don't get me started on the loo…

Single for the past 17 years and forevermore.

Cuckoos. Men whose source of residence are relationships with women who have their own homes, lives, interests and ideals. The men move in and adopt everything even changing food preferences, clothing style, political beliefs, life choices to blend in.

Then do it all again for the next relationship.

I have a lovely partner, however I am in agreement with pp who said if the current relationship fails they'd get a cat.

No to anyone who can't manage their money and somehow thinks I am their person cash machine.

No to anyone who thinks that I am their personal short order cook and unpaid social worker.

No to anyone who is always the victim.
No to the work shy.

Yeah, maybe two cats 🐈 😻

I forgot about yucky bathroom habits!
Absolute deal breaker (again I speak from personal experience)
leaving puddles of piss on the floor - the in denial abusive alcoholic claimed it was because he had a double urethra or some nonsense, not that he couldn’t aim straight because he was shitfaced. 🙄
Add to that, leaving the toilet in a disgusting state.

Most of mine have already been mentioned.

But never, ever ever again:

A man who reacts defensively (30 seconds worth is allowed, but only if its something serious) when pulled up on something, then goes on the attack.
I'm too old for this shit - how do you not know by this age (I'm I'm my 30s) that you don't need to act like a teenager during an argument??

And actually:
A man who has never once thought 'hmm, this (emotional/personality/communication trait/reaction) I have isn't great, I'm going to work on that to try and be a better partner)
Might be a wildly specific bar, but I'm sick of making excuses for men who just go 'I'm not good with this stuff'
I don't expect perfection, but I do expect growth!

All the below would be red flags for me, maybe that’s why I’m single and intend to stay that way for the foreseeable.

Lazy
unemployed - without good reason
bad hygiene
does drugs
drinks a lot
obsessed with football / any sport
constantly wanting to meet his friends
controlling
misogynistic
thick/ ignorant / not open minded
hates his job
not kind hearted
bad with money
no drive
cannot drive
sarcastic
Has a very high opinion of himself
abusive either mentally of physically
Has a lot of emotional problems
vegan
Too woke
thinks he’s better than you when he isn’t
speaks down to you
No qualifications in anything
Overly confident
Very insecure
Begrudger
incapable of tidying up after himself
Tight without good reason
Dosen’t do share of housework
Needs a woman to look after him