I’ve just given up.
most blokes in my age range (35-45) either have young kids or want kids. I have a college age teen. Men with kids often want you to meet their kids too quickly and then theres little adult time. One bloke in particular tried to get me to meet his kids quickly and then we never saw each other on his kid free days so he could still do his hobbies. Fuck that.
I’m not a big drinker and smoking anything is a no no. Pub lunch with half a pint. Fine. Working to get shit faced every Friday night. Not fine.
doesn’t read. Doesn’t always have to be novels because some lengthy articles are just as brain nourishing. But lack of desire to read or learn anything new.
wont watch a movie with subtitles.
greed. Specifically doesn’t respect that I may have my own treat box (they can have theirs too) and pilfers all my stuff I’ve got for myself OR scoffs all the nice food out the fridge ruining planned meals and leaving nothing much left . I grew up hungry and often had to hide food to stop it being taken away, I’m significantly better but this is one of those issues I can’t seem to fix and need someone understanding of it. One ex would frequently snack on all the nice bits of food. Eating chorizo as a snack, an entire wedge of Brie on toast half a pack of ham in a sandwich then get mad there was nothing to make a meal.
Also on the food. Has weird food dislikes and won’t eat many things or only eats potatoes and meat.
poor hygiene
watches porn
debts, I’m debt free. I expect him to be as well.
doesn’t drive and/or refuses to us the bus. Sometimes driving is not cost effective or there’s no parking and a refusal to use public transport gives me the ick. You’re not special stop being a snob.