Never again would I date a man who.....

[Strawberryfieldsforeverrr]

Drinks. For me I've wasted too many years with someone whose desire to drink trumps any desire he has to make me happy.

What would you run a mile from in your next relationship?

Has champagne tastes and beer money wages or beer money tastes and champagne wages!!

Is grumpy, and allows their mood to impact those around them.

And reading is very important. If nothing else, it shows a healthy curiosity and a desire to keep learning and broadening the mind.

Keep their own home/clothes/body sufficiently clean and tidy without a woman helper to do it for them

Lives in a filthy house like a student.
Is tight with putting the heating on.
Is obsessed with football.

The list would sink mumsnet.

Yes, I would imagine being with a non drinker was better than an absolute flaming alcoholic who ruins your life. Obviously. Fortunately, I've never experienced being close to an alcoholic. I've never really known any - other than acquaintances - not close friends or family members.

But yeah, being with a man who's a complete teetotal is actually really, really, fucking tedious. And I really don't think a relationship can work long term if you're a drinker and he is a teetotaller ...

It's like two completely different religions in my opinion - trying to rub along together. I think if one is (for example) a Christian - and the other follows a completely different religion - it just won't work long term. (IMO.)

A social drinker/someone who enjoys their booze, (and likes a drink once or twice a week, and likes to get tipsy/pissed once a month or so,) and a teetotaller, cannot work long term I don't think....... The teetotaller is always too judgy - (and IMO boring.)

Anyone obsessed with the 4 'F's

Football.
Fishing.
Fighting.
F*ing.

Football, cause they'd be buggering off all the while to watch it and get drunk and be obnoxious.

Fishing because I find it such a dull and boring pass time that even typing this is making me want to defenestrate my phone.

Fighting because so many men are so obsessed with 'being hard' or putting on that front because they're insecure, I've no time for it, grow up.

F*ing because I'd rather not thank you. I'd rather a nice scone and cup of tea. No silly face pulling, grunting and sticky gussets .. plus, nice scone and cuppa, far more satisfying.

Smokes
Unemployed
Had a bad relationship with ex/children.

If this one fails I'm done. I'd just get some cats ( can't now he's allergic).
I like cats and being single is actually easier.

Treats his mother poorly or is rude to her

Lack of curiosity about the world around him, other people, things, places

Thick

Inabilty to reflect on own personality and behaviour

I'm so happy single it would take something very special for me to get involved anyway, but absolutely no chance if a man isn't nice to waiters, retail staff etc.

Any man without any form of qualification or professional accreditation. But top of the stack is any man with debts, who moves from place to place regularly or doesn't pay their fair share on holidays/ days out/ shopping etc. Anyone without financial responsibility gives me the big ick, and I have dodged quite a few wanna-bee cocklodgers over the last decade.

They need to drive

I used to say this, but then I took up with a blind man. To be fair, he'd drive if they let him. He really misses it. (I have discovered you can do track days for the visually impaired though.)

I'm with the no excessive gambling, drinking, drugs. Being nice to other people including "staff". Curiosity about life and sufficiently intelligent and educated to have a decent conversation. Does not have to be superfit, but a general interest in keeping healthy is good. Can keep up with me in bed. I'm early 50s. I'm not interested in a new relationship with someone who has ED.

Hey, I get what you're saying about the rest of the things... but 12 roast potatoes is a PERFECTLY reasonable amount

You tell no lie - especially if it's a restaurant carvery and I've been pacing myself for two days in anticipation of it!

The never-reading one is absolutely not a minor issue (not liking eggs is different, unless one of you is a vegan, maybe). Unless somebody has a severe learning difficulty or is blind, I cannot for the life of me understand why they would actively choose not to make that an ordinary part of their everyday life.

Lazy 🤡

I used to say this, but then I took up with a blind man. To be fair, he'd drive if they let him. He really misses it. (I have discovered you can do track days for the visually impaired though.)

That's completely different, though, when it's impossible for somebody because of a disability/medical issue, rather than just being too lazy to bother learning.

Can't be arsed to work hard.

@Iateallthechocolate my ex was allergic to cats too. Literally two weeks after he buggered off we got our first one. Now have three, they are the best 🥰

Not remotely interested in another relationship but as per pp my list of traits to avoid is so long I'd be here all day. Lying is at the top of that though. My ex couldn't lie straight in bed.

Oh, thank goodness you turned up.
Any other points/feelings you'd like to critique and set straight 🙄🙄🙄

Votes Tory
Doesn't drive
Doesn't work
Smokes
Doesn't read
Mansplains

This all pre dates DH, but never again would I date:

• someone with no friends,
• a bad relationship with his mum,
• a long list of ‘crazy’ exes (turns out they all had a common denominator),
• someone who says he doesn’t lie,
• someone who doesn’t make me laugh * someone who is threatened by me making other people laugh,
• someone who thinks he can tell me how to spend my money and I’m an idiot for buying this brand when that brand is just as good and 3 pence cheaper

LindaCrochet ·

Is a man 🤣🤣

Lacks intelligence.
Lacks spontaneousness.
Lacks independence.
Lacks honesty.
Has an addiction.
Has debt.
Is greedy.

Never-ending list (I am 50+)
but skinny, tight and jealous are high up.
P.S. Great thread

Never again would I date any man.