DH has ruined the house

[Rabbitingonandon]

He's tidied and cleared out the garage, so he can put an office in there. But we are left with a load of garage crap dumped in the house. I currently have suitcases at the bottom of the stairs, boxes and bags of stuff in the kitchen and on the sofa. The dining room table has water pistols and tennis rackets on it. I'm supposed to be wfh. I can only hope he plans to sort all this stuff but to where I don't know as there is literally no where for it to go

You could take it to the tip yourself. Quit moaning about it a stick it in the boot of your car and deal with it.

Yes, take the issue created by the husband and make sure that he doesnt have to follow through with his grand plan or deal with the consequences of his (in)actions. Know your place woman!

FFS.......do people really still think like this?!

Men do yes.

I'd stick boxes of toys, books & sports equipment at the end of the driveway with a note telling people to help themselves. Then I'd call a house clearance company to clear the rest.

Just throw it back into the garage, literally.
If he tries to put it back in the house, tell him that it either goes in the tip or back into the garage, NOT in the house

No, but I do find posts bitching about other halves a bit weird and tedious. The posts where there is a genuine conundrum/moral dilemma are much more interesting.

Spouse-bashing posts are never really a conundrum - if you hate your other half's ways so much, either discuss it with them or divorce them. Simple...

The thing that is pissing me off is that most of the "solutions" offered on here, involved hard work on the part of theOP. Tip runs, skips, house clearance etc, its all coming down to the OP sorting it out. She didnt create the problem so why the ever loving fuck should she be the one to sort it out?!

This is why I favour the "Put it all on his side of the bed/in his car" solution. Yes it does involve some work for her, but it makes the point that he cant just crash through the house scattering crap all over the place and expect it all to be magicked away.

And for those saying "err....just talk to him" like its the obvious solution, the OP has in fact explained that his attitude is shitty to this too and is probably part of his way of making sure she just gets on with clearing up after him instead of him having to do it himself.

I have done a few of these projects over the years. Getting rid of stuff is hard! It has taken me from April till now (actually I'm not quite done) to get rid of stuff generated by a redo of our DD's bedroom plus a repaint of landing, hall and stairs.

I have taken stuff to charity shops, recycled, used Freecycle, sold a few boxes of books to Ziffit, recycled stuff within the house and given some away directly. Plus made DH do one tip run and help me carry books to Oxfam - but it was my idea, so I did most of the work.

I’d repeatedly dump it back in the garage until he takes action and sorts it out.

Put it back in the garage

If its all stuff you need to keep, then maybe get hubby to get a garden shed for it. It takes time to get sorted when doing these things and converting the garage to an office sounds like a good idea and will increase the house value anyway if done properly and better than having work computer and papers strewn around the house. He may have a plan already for the mess. Maybe approach the subject positively and say great idea doing the conversion and then throw in about where will everything go. Could also be an opportunity to have a clear out.

I'd just say "what are you doing with the stuff in the hall? We can't leave it there so need to find a place for it all." Let him say what he wants done. Then make a plan for when you (plural) are going to do it. I really don't see a massive issue here.
If he's aggressive then thats a whole different issue. But from what I know about my own DH, they don't think the same as women. They don't see 'mess' the way we see it.

If the stuff is “ joint stuff” can you have a quick look through for obvious “donate or sell” stuff and take it then plan in a slot to go through the rest together.

Give him a deadline to sort through and shift it. If he doesn’t, then dump it in
his car, on the floor on his side of the bedroom or even on his side of the bed; I have been know to do this. My husband is a pain for hoarding/ not sorting so if asking, reminding, getting cross doesn’t work then I make sure the inconvenience is his not mine.

By the way, you can get a skip flat pack from Hippo Skips, throw all the stuff in it (putting aside anything you actually need) and then book a collection when ready.

It focuses the mind!

I have one of these...likes to leave tools and all sorts of shitnin the house and won't tidy them away. So I now gather it all up and stuff it in or around his cupboard area so he has to sort it out and it inconveniences him mostly not everyone else tripping over the random stuff left everywhere. It's a losing battle though in my case he just doesn't get fazed by it

This weird lack of communication is why so many relationships have problems.

You don’t have to have a go at him. You can speak to him in a nice way. Just something like, “oh btw where shall we put all of this stuff now you’re converting the garage? Will there be space for it go back in there, or perhaps we can squeeze it in the loft?” or whatever.

Leave your anger out of it and just ask him in a genuinely friendly and non-confrontational way.

And if he gets annoyed at that then he’s being a dick and you guys probably need some therapy or something. If he has no plan for the junk, you need to discuss it calmly together and arrange something.

Don't they say all behaviour is communication? He IS communicating with his wife, he is saying it is her problem to deal with and he's alright, Jack

This. I don't understand how couples do stuff without talking to each other. There is no way my OH would cleat the garage into the house without discussing with me first and then deciding what's best together. And if he did it on a whim when I wasn't around he would either have a plan in his head and tell me when I arrived or he would ask me what my thoughts were since I wasn't around to help then.