My mother has died and I'm away on holiday

[Devastatedx]

My sister rang. She found her. I'm devastated. I don't know what to do. I feel sick and am in a terrible panic. My beloved mum. Oh god....

Hugs, how far away are you? I’m sorry for your loss x

I'm in Norway. Suppose to be leaving Friday morning. My sister said there's nothing I can do and to come back as planned.

Shit

Oh OP, I'm so sorry. What a terrible shock. Do you need any advice, can we help you at all? Can you manage to get home? Are you alone or with someone? X

Can you get home? Afford sooner flights?

I know I would want to be home.

I'm sorry for your loss

So sorry for your loss. 💐Are you with anyone? Perhaps they could help you make arrangements to get back home (assuming that's what you want to do). If you're travelling with a company they will have someone who can help you. Let everyone else listen to what you want then get on with it without disturbing you. I really am so sorry xx

so sorry to hear this

stay until you planned to, as your sister said, there’s nothing much that can be done now. Do you both have support?

Oh op I’m so sorry. What a shock.

are our away by yourself? If that were me I would want to get home.

I'm so sorry to hear about your poor dm.
The same happened to me last year, we'd just landed to find out my DM had died, I panicked and flew back the same day, had to wait 8 hrs for the next flight, absolutely nothing I could do when I got home.
Do what feels right for you ❤️

Sorry to hear your sad news. If your mum's death was entirely unexpected then your insurance company may be able to help you get back sooner.

@Devastatedx so sorry for your loss. Does your Sister need support? If the death is unexpected there will be a PM so registering the death will not be possible until after that. Is your Dad still present? It’s a horrible situation to be in.

I’m so sorry. I hope you aren’t alone on holiday. 💚

I'm here with OH and DS. There's going to be a post mortem. My sister said to stay.

My dad died a few years ago.

@Devastatedx I think you should do what you want to do and feels right regardless of what anybody else thinks. I found straight after the loss of my parents that launching myself straight into the practical arrangements helped with the bereavement process. We are all different though.

Is there anything you’d like to tell us about your Mum?

She was a lovely mum. She was called Jean. I loved her so much. I don't know how I'm going to get through this.

So sorry for your family OP.

Aww @Devastatedx big hugs. It does sound to me like you might be better off at home? You are allowed to be upset and do whatever makes you feel better. Jean is a lovely comforting Mum’s name for someone of my generation. I’ve never met an unlikeable Jean. Spend your time now going through your photo roll and choosing the loveliest photos of her. Many funerals now have a visual tribute set to music which is a lovely part of the service. Maybe think about the music she loved or reminds you of her?

So sorry for your loss xx

I'm so sorry for your loss. What a terrible shock for you.

There's no right or wrong answer but you might find that you will feel better if you are with your sister.

My partner's Dad died a few years ago. We were on holiday at the time (myself, DP and our dd who was in her teens).

My Mum phoned to let me know. DPs Mum said that there was nothing we could do so she wanted us to enjoy the rest of the holiday.

We decided to come back and that was the right decision for us. It helped DP and his Mum to be together.
You might find that being with your sister helps you both.

On a practical level, we were in South East Asia and it took a couple of days to actually get home.
We paid for flights etc at the time, kept receipts or email confirmations and claimed back on the travel insurance afterwards.

I’m sorry for your loss, Devastated. I too wonder if it might be better for you to be with your sister, even if there is no immediate practical need. My own lovely mother died earlier this year. I think I’d have welcomed a sister’s presence, just to talk and remember. My condolences.

RIP Jean

I’m so sorry for for the loss of your beloved mother, Jean.

I'm sorry to be reading this.

I've no words of advice regarding staying or going home.

RIP Jean - a lovely Mum.

No words xx

Dear OP,

I’m so sorry for your loss.

My mum died suddenly and unexpectedly in January. She lived in France where I grew up. The funeral didn’t take place within the usual three days so I didn’t go back home for a week after she died.

It actually really helped me in many ways, giving me time to grieve on my own and process things.

I’d say take a bit of time to work out what you want to do. Maybe try and get some sleep and things might be a bit clearer in the morning. There’s no right or wrong way to things. I

i really feel for you. This is such a shock.

Warm hugs.

I knew a Jean who was one of the kindest people I have ever known (with the wickedest twinkle in her eye). So sorry for your loss

I’m so sorry for the loss of your dear mum. You’ll be reeling from the news. Just do what feels right for you, whether it’s stay or go home sooner. There’s no right or wrong.

Be kind to yourself.