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Sara Sharif

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mauvish · 20/08/2023 18:42

Sara, aged 10, was found dead in the family home.

The police "want to speak" with Sara's father and his partner, who flew to Pakistan the day before Sara's body was found, and then phoned (don't know who) from there:

The call led officers to the house in Woking where they found the body of Sara who had sustained "multiple and extensive injuries", likely to have been caused over a sustained period of time.

Another child suffers at the hands of those who should care. I hope they get them back from Pakistan but I wonder what the chances of that are.

RIP, Sara.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-surrey-66563430

Sara Sharif

Sara Sharif murder inquiry: Girl known to authorities, council says

Surrey County Council says it is "working tirelessly" to understand what happened to Sara.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-surrey-66563430

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cato40 · 05/09/2023 00:45

Well the BBC report today demonstrates how abused children are left with the abusers, and womwn flee the UK for their safety. Given the mum of the girl is Polish and white-other are not even recognised as a minority group, I imagine the poor lady lost her kids and had no other choice than escape.

Ehla · 06/09/2023 09:21

Why were the children given sole custody to the father ?

Lonelyandupset · 06/09/2023 10:49

They're scared for their life. Poor them.

They're so terrified of the authorities in that country that they chose to flee there.

Rinoachicken · 06/09/2023 11:03

Interesting that the father says nothing in the video - it’s all the stepmother.

So the words can’t be used against him in court later? ‘You described it as an incident…I never said that’

Taylorscat · 06/09/2023 11:06

I was so shocked by this video, not one word of sorrow for Sara’s death and her father’s body language is awful.
I hope they are caught soon.

Taylorscat · 06/09/2023 11:10

Thekidsarefightingagain · 25/08/2023 11:33

Seems to be a common thing in domestic abuse situations where the person being abused (usually the mother) is the one who gets put under huge scrutiny, especially if they develop depression or anxiety because of the abuse, rather than the perpetrator. I would never have believed it until I saw it happen to others. I just can't get my head around why this happens.

I had an abusive marriage and was so worried that I would lose dd that I made her see her father for 5 years until she turned 12 and her voice would have been heard in court - then I gave her the choice and she cut contact. The system is fucked.

cato40 · 06/09/2023 11:11

That video is dreadful, no emotion or sorrow from a family that was supposed to love her. A child has died and all they care about is the damage poor Sara has caused to their extended family in Pakistan, that is all they care about. Monsters of the worst type.

TokyoSushi · 06/09/2023 11:12

Oh my, the video is awful. I wonder if she means to say that Sara's death was an 'accident' rather than 'incident,' poor Sara.

itsmylife7 · 06/09/2023 11:23

I've just seen the video too.
I'm speechless watching it.
Poor little Sara what she suffered in her short life. 😪

Bramblecrumble22 · 06/09/2023 11:28

The video makes no sense. What are they asking for? Also, why are they upset that the media is lying about a statement that she fell down the stairs and broke her neck. Surely the forensic report of long term injuries and saras mother's criticism is worse.

medianewbie · 06/09/2023 11:32

FerryPink · 20/08/2023 23:15

We dont know the full facts yet , but it's safe to say

a) dad played a part in her death

And

b) there are many instances of abusive men blocking children from seeing their mothers who have done nothing wrong except try and flee abuse.

Indeed I only managed to flee my husband with my children because the police helped me. And her certainly made up some horrifically spurious allegations - I was just lucky to have medical evidence to disprove them

So for now my heart breaks primarily for that little girl but also gives the benefit of the doubt to the mother.

My ex put my son's life at risk (again) last week and lurking in the back of my mind was the knowledge that, whatever I tried to do to stop it, some Mumsnetters would still decide it was my fault if the worst happened .

Even if mum wasn't able to mother, for whatever reason, her daughter's death is not her fault.

Well said @FerryPink
This poor child was certainly failed but her death is not the direct result of her Mother's actions (or inactions). Her Father left his daughter's body in the house & fled the country. Appalling.

xsquared · 06/09/2023 11:37

Utterly gobsmacked by the lack of emotion for Sara's death other than blaming her for their departure.

I hope she gets justice poor child.

Magnoliainbloom · 06/09/2023 11:43

Desperately sad. Appalling body language from the father. Interesting how the SM is taking the lead here, no doubt, under pressure. As terrible as this video is, at least they have surfaced and are showing some willingness to cooperate.

I’m sure there’s some sort of political posturing going on between the two countries to bring these cunts to face justice. Bad publicity for Pakistan. To their credit, the Pakistani police have been active and vocal.

The pic of Sara in the DM where is wearing a black and white dress reveals bruises on her arms and legs.

I hope there is justice for little Sara, and this case shines more light on our abusive family court system. Strength to all those having to go to through it. Flowers

Notmytotoro · 06/09/2023 11:44

GoingGoingUp · 20/08/2023 22:43

Hmm, that bit of an odd response. I never said anything to suggest the other side was more believable, so not sure why it must be a case of one or the other side must be telling the truth. I simply said I would rather it’s from the police for me to believe it.

Personally, I find it odd the mother sold her story just days after her daughter died, but grief makes us behave in strange ways so I’m not going to judge her for it. But I’m also not going to assume her version of events must be true because she’s the mother whereas the father is an alleged killer. There’s three sides to every story - each party’s version of events and then the truth. I would rather hear it from an independent third party such as the police.

Even if it was true, we don’t know what the falling out was over. Perhaps the step mum wanted Sara’s mum out of the picture and facilitated an argument. Or perhaps Sara’s mum was too unstable and the step mum felt her behaviour was hurting Sara. It’s all speculation and unsubstantiated allegations right now.

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Yes Sarah's step mum was the perfect step mum hitting her and leaving her to die meanwhile she fled to Pakistan. Dad and step mum were abusive, I believe mum lost custody because of it. Dad might saud she was crazy, mum maybe got depressed after the separation, maybe was homeless because of separation, who knows..

MoustacheTwirler · 06/09/2023 12:55

Gobsmacked by the video! No emotion or sadness expressed about Sara's death. That poor little girl.

Interesting that they are disputing the reports that she fell down the stairs.

BigMandsTattooPortfolio · 06/09/2023 13:58

That video is chilling to me.

A child dies in their ‘care’ and now they’re attempting to play the victim. 🤬

Just speechless.

sentinent · 06/09/2023 14:21

BigMandsTattooPortfolio · 06/09/2023 13:58

That video is chilling to me.

A child dies in their ‘care’ and now they’re attempting to play the victim. 🤬

Just speechless.

Exactly! No mention of losing their girl or their grief. Just about their unhappiness of being found guilty! I wonder if the father ringing the police and not participating in the video suggests that the stepmum did it.

TheBeesKnee · 06/09/2023 14:23

A child is dead and they're upset that their extended family are being "harassed" i.e., questioned Confused

Taylorscat · 06/09/2023 15:27

sentinent · 06/09/2023 14:21

Exactly! No mention of losing their girl or their grief. Just about their unhappiness of being found guilty! I wonder if the father ringing the police and not participating in the video suggests that the stepmum did it.

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Or she’s being controlled by him

Crikeyalmighty · 06/09/2023 15:28

What a pair of c*s !!

Bramblecrumble22 · 06/09/2023 16:43

Either of them could be the abuser. I wander if the 999 call was instigated by the grandfather. He sounds not happy with them. I really hope the children are recused and returned.

klarawajs · 06/09/2023 17:46

Silly of you, if the father was more money organised it was obvious that the mother would lose the custody of both children

Rosh127 · 06/09/2023 18:06

Think it’s obviously the step mum.