How angry: DD(11) walked through village in swimsuit?

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I'm very pissed off, with DD but mainly with the other parent, at the inappropriate-ness of letting a girl walk home from their house in a swimming costume. DH thinks it's hilarious and I'm over reacting.

DD(11) went to a friends house after school today. Friend lives on a farm on the outskirts of the village (1800 inhabitants), on the edge of the forest. They went swimming in their pool and I'd told DD she needed to be home at 6pm. She walked 5 minutes down the side road from the forest (where a lot of dog walkers park, 5 houses) then 10 minutes down one of the two main roads through the village to the centre where we live, wearing only her swimming costume with a towel around her shoulders.

I don't think this is appropriate and told her off for not getting changed.
DH doesn't see an issue with it.

What would your reaction be?

You're completely over reacting. She's 11!

Why are you sexualising your child?!

You can't seriously believe you have a leg to stand on here?

Did she have shoes on?

It was hot here today. Mind you we live at the coast so all you see is people wandering around in swimwear and uncomfortable looking sandals.

I wouldn't find it a problem. I take it she's not properly developed, so hasn't got breasts?

I definitely would care. I don’t think anyone should be walking around in a swimsuit, no matter their age or sex - obviously, it’s fine on a beach or by a pool. The same as men shouldn’t walk around with no top on on hot days, or a woman popping into the supermarket in a bikini.

To be honest I’d be more concerned that they’d walked home alone especially through part of a forest, I’m quite over protective though. I would have gone and collected them. But that’s just me.

Which bit are you unhappy with? Walking home alone or wearing a swimsuit? If you think she’s old enough to walk home alone she’s definitely old enough to get dressed without a friend’s parent having to intervene.

Don't see an issue

OP I understand, I wouldn’t want DD doing this either, it’s not that you are sexualising her it’s concern about other people and keeping her safe. I’d probably tell her it is t to happen again, explain why and leave it there unless she does it again.
At 11 my DD is tall and has boobs, she looks much older and it isn’t appropriate to wander around in swimwear not by a pool or on a beach.

Having had weird men slow their cars down to look at me when walking alone as a child I would be really unhappy with my 11 year old walking alone around a village in only a swimming costume.

I would absolutely not let my DD's friend walk home from my house like this

Non issue.

My dcs often walk to a relatives pool 10 min away in swimsuit And towel. Quiet roads but not rural.

Nope - wouldn’t have an issue with it

I wouldn't be bothered at all. She had been swimming. A swimming costume is perfectly normal clothing for the occasion

It's a small rural village, not the centre of London.

What exactly is the problem here?

You are massively overacting, I don’t see any problem with it at all.

Wearing a swimming costume I wouldn’t be worried about, children are seen by all kinds of strangers on beaches wearing swimming costumes every day.
Walking home alone on what sounds quite a remote route at that age would worry me more.

You're overreacting.

I keep reading OPs like this recently -- posts strange enough to make me wonder whether they've been written by AI

How angry?
Not angry.

Total non issue.

I’d do the same as your DD myself (despite my ageing mum-bod)… wouldn’t occur to me not to 🤷🏼‍♀️

Did she stub her toe walking barefoot?

What is it you're upset about OP? Her being seen in public in a swimsuit? How is it different to people seeing her at a pool, or on the beach?

Huh? Why would you care? Unless your area is a hotbed of criminal misogynists and you are reacting as angry to demonstrate fear for her?