DD took morning after pill then had sex again!

[Yepyepye]

Is there a chance she could get pregnant? She absolutely does not want to be pregnant but for some reason thought that taking MAP once would protect her from all unplanned pregnancies this cycle. She is in a right state. She's 18 and her boyfriend is lovely (also 18); they both agree they are too young for parenthood. She would have an abortion if she was pregnant but would obviously rather not have to go through this. The unprotected sex (apparently the condom fell off) happened only a few days after her period finished, so she took it at the most effective time from what I can tell. She's now coming up to when her period would normally be due but has been told it might be late. She had unprotected sex the second time about 2 weeks after the first time / after she took the MAP.
I can't find out if Levonelle stops ovulation entirely or just delays it, different websites saying different things, so I don't know what to say to her!

I could weep with the stress!

Thank you

But as you pointed out when bragging that you’ve never made a mistake because you are reliable, the pill is only effective if she remembers to take it.

Firstly, I'm so happy to see a parent and child relationship like this with open conversation.

The MAP won't potential stop an additional unwanted pregnancy just due to the length of time sperm lives.

I would advise wait for her usual cycle date and then a week later pregnancy test even if period arrives.

Once negative tell her to look into other contraception there's so many other than the pill which she may easily forget to take.

I hope you continue to have such a open and honest relationship 💗

Only on Mumsnet would saying you know how to use contraception properly be considered 'bragging'... 🙄

No, using contraception properly is basic. You were bragging with your ‘I’ve not made a mistake in 25 years and I sorted MYSELF out’ crap.

Again, I don't see why that's 'bragging' and 'crap'... it's just what happened. Surely this is behaviour that should be commended? Baffled as to why anyone would see it as a negative...

Why do you need to be commended? It’s not your thread?

I'm not saying it must be commended - I'm merely saying I'm not sure why it would be viewed negatively and considered 'bragging'. Just bizarre...

What like you are? Hypocrite!!

@curaçao erm you're a little late love. Been out, got smashed, went to bed and now I'm up, keep up babes

Not one person is interested in what you did though, do you want a pat on the back for never having had a contraception fail? So what? Millions haven’t, we know that, but the OPs daughter has and it’s that situation we are trying to help with.

Using capitals doesn’t make your point any stronger incidentally.

So, here is your medal 🏅, for being fabulous and managing to not have an unplanned pregnancy (neither have I either, by the way, but I don’t feel the need to tell everyone), now wear it with pride and let’s get back to the OPs question and stop being so smug

If your DH came in and said, when I was reversing into a space in that car park on the high street, I hit a post. Would you say “well I’ve parked there a 100 times, I’ve never hit a post”, that’s how smug you are coming across on this post.

Fuck sake. Can posters stop fighting and point scoring?! What’s the point? Vent thine spleen elsewhere, it’s boring as shit for everyone else, and unhelpful to the OP.

are you the Mumsnet police? If you get so upset about posts, then I’d advise you don’t read them? If it’s boring as shit, then perhaps do something else? Honestly it’s your choice to read or not.

Have a nice day and perhaps take a walk in the sun to reduce your anxiety and rage over a forum post?

So do they hence the condom and MAP. Did you read any of it??

Blimey! I really have touched a nerve, haven't I?

No, I don't need a medal (I already have several, thanks! 😉). This thread is about contraception - I was offering my personal experience of it. Is that not what people do on these threads?

I was merely highlighting the fact that people can avoid 'accidents' if they try hard enough. Seems people don't want to hear the truth - instead just leaving endless posts to the OP saying 'how wonderful your daughter feels she come to you' etc.

Might I suggest that, if OP had instilled more warnings about the dangers of unprotected sex, her daughter wouldn't now have such a relaxed attitude to contraception. There, I said it!

I am one of 3 sisters and have 4 daughters myself. My parents were very weird about sex stuff and strict and 'bags packed' type of attitude. 2 of us ended up pregnant as teenagers (I had my first daughter at 16) and my youngest sister has nothing to do with them. It was awful parenting!
I love my relationship with my daughters they trust me and tell me anything and everything. We solve problems TOGETHER

not touched a nerve, just find your smugness of “well it never happened to me” really irritating! So what that you never had an accident, they do happen, most co reception is not 100% reliable.

Which is far better way of parenting.

I got pregnant by accident at 34 after a contraception fail that we didn’t even know about and therefore didn’t get the MAP 😂😂😂 we didn’t know about it because it was the pill, which I had taken as I should and not skipped any and it still didn’t work…it happens.
maybe I should be sterilised and never have sex, I’m obviously not responsible enough 😳
it’s literally hilarious the amount of perfect Peter’s on this thread, and the amount of really shitty parents.
op well done for being a decent mum 👍🏼 I hope she isn’t pregnant but it’s good to know she has someone helping her if she is. However, my mum had me at 19 and we had a great life, and she’s now living her best life as a child free 50 odd year old. At 50 I will still have teenagers living at home. Not all plans work out as you want but it doesn’t always make it a bad thing.

Exactly this! Not having a contraception fail does not mean you’re a super hero 🦸‍♀️

Advise her on long acting contraception such as the implant or coils. One is more likely to make mistakes with the pill such as forgetting to take it.

This is exactly how I got pregnant when I was young and stupid.

That is completely different to the OP’s daughter because you HAD planned a reliable method of contraception and used it as it’s supposed to be used.

in this case, OP’s daughter had a mishap with the contraception the first time then took the MAP. Commendable. But then, rather than be petrified waiting for her period, they then chose to have sex AGAIN that cycle, only this time using absolutely nothing at all. Nothing. This is nothing like Saffy2’s situation. The daughter and her boyfriend had one case of one contraceptive failure and one of, well, just stupidity. There is no other word for it and I totally understand why OP is pulling her hair out, and why other posters are saying they’re just not responsible enough to be having sex. This is in line with the “you can’t get pregnant standing up” ignorance of old.

As I've said elsewhere on this thread, contraception is as reliable as the person using it.

The fact you consider reliable to be 'smug', says a lot more about you than it does about me...

No one said it did. Just that it is possible.

I hear lots of people say: 'I took The Pill religiously and it still failed'.

But did it though?

Or did the woman take it once outside of the 12hr window thinking it would 'be OK'?

Or did the woman have D&V and not use additional contraception for 7 days thinking it would 'be OK'?

Did the woman take a herbal supplement that affects how the pill is absorbed still thinking it would 'be OK'?

There are countless more scenarios I could add to this list that could result in an 'accident'.

No need to get 'irritated' because some of us know what they are...

@Jumpingthruhoops they may be a bit of truth to what you are saying. A big factor is some people are much more fertile than others.