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Yepyepye · 2023-08-09T17:27:54+00:00

Is there a chance she could get pregnant? She absolutely does not want to be pregnant but for some reason thought that taking MAP once would protect her from all unplanned pregnancies this cycle. She is in a right state. She's 18 and her boyfriend is lovely (also 18); they both agree they are too young for parenthood. She would have an abortion if she was pregnant but would obviously rather not have to go through this. The unprotected sex (apparently the condom fell off) happened only a few days after her period finished, so she took it at the most effective time from what I can tell. She's now coming up to when her period would normally be due but has been told it might be late. She had unprotected sex the second time about 2 weeks after the first time / after she took the MAP. I can't find out if Levonelle stops ovulation entirely or just delays it, different websites saying different things, so I don't know what to say to her! I could weep with the stress! Thank you

BlastedIce · 13/08/2023 13:09

Jumpingthruhoops · 13/08/2023 12:38

As I've said elsewhere on this thread, contraception is as reliable as the person using it.

The fact you consider reliable to be 'smug', says a lot more about you than it does about me...

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Not true at all, as previous PP stated, I’ve no reason to believe she’s lying?

Jumpingthruhoops · 13/08/2023 14:02

Rathouse · 13/08/2023 12:51

@Jumpingthruhoops they may be a bit of truth to what you are saying. A big factor is some people are much more fertile than others.

Oh totally!

Balloonhearts · 13/08/2023 14:34

It stops ovulation but not for the whole cycle. Two weeks after taking it is likely bang in the middle of her most fertile window. That's when she would be ovulating after the pill delayed her.

She probably couldn't have picked a better time that cycle to get pregnant if she tried.

Jumpingthruhoops · 13/08/2023 14:38

BlastedIce · 13/08/2023 13:09

Not true at all, as previous PP stated, I’ve no reason to believe she’s lying?

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Not suggesting people are lying, just that they might not be as protected as they think they are, due to other factors I've listed upthread.

But obvs this is only relevant to someone taking the pill. In the case of OP's daughter, it sounds like these aren't mistakes, more 'bad habits'. Habits that she and her boyf need to break swiftly before something goes horribly wrong. That's if it hasn't already...

saffy2 · 13/08/2023 16:05

Jumpingthruhoops · 13/08/2023 12:50

No one said it did. Just that it is possible.

I hear lots of people say: 'I took The Pill religiously and it still failed'.

But did it though?

Or did the woman take it once outside of the 12hr window thinking it would 'be OK'?

Or did the woman have D&V and not use additional contraception for 7 days thinking it would 'be OK'?

Did the woman take a herbal supplement that affects how the pill is absorbed still thinking it would 'be OK'?

There are countless more scenarios I could add to this list that could result in an 'accident'.

No need to get 'irritated' because some of us know what they are...

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I did take it religiously, absolutely perfectly, as I had for the previous 20 years almost without it failing. And it did fail.

Jumpingthruhoops · 13/08/2023 16:19

saffy2 · 13/08/2023 16:05

I did take it religiously, absolutely perfectly, as I had for the previous 20 years almost without it failing. And it did fail.

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Sorry to hear that - but like I said it could be any number of things. There would have been a reason it failed. At some point you would have been 'unprotected' for at least 7 days in order to have ovulated.

saffy2 · 13/08/2023 16:40

Jumpingthruhoops · 13/08/2023 16:19

Sorry to hear that - but like I said it could be any number of things. There would have been a reason it failed. At some point you would have been 'unprotected' for at least 7 days in order to have ovulated.

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Definitely not a user fault. There is absolutely no possible way that I didn’t take it for 7 days and had unprotected sex. You don’t know me, so I will tell you. There is no possibility that this contraception fail was down to me.

Jumpingthruhoops · 13/08/2023 16:58

saffy2 · 13/08/2023 16:40

Definitely not a user fault. There is absolutely no possible way that I didn’t take it for 7 days and had unprotected sex. You don’t know me, so I will tell you. There is no possibility that this contraception fail was down to me.

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You've misunderstood me. I'm not saying you didn't take it for 7 days. I'm saying that you were still taking it, religiously, yes. But something else was at play, like the things I've mentioned above; you might have had D&V, you might have been taking another medication or herbal supplement. I used to avoid consuming any Vitamin C around the same time. And countless other things. All of which affect the absorption of the pill and would mean you would have needed to use condoms too.

BlastedIce · 13/08/2023 18:07

Jumpingthruhoops · 13/08/2023 16:58

You've misunderstood me. I'm not saying you didn't take it for 7 days. I'm saying that you were still taking it, religiously, yes. But something else was at play, like the things I've mentioned above; you might have had D&V, you might have been taking another medication or herbal supplement. I used to avoid consuming any Vitamin C around the same time. And countless other things. All of which affect the absorption of the pill and would mean you would have needed to use condoms too.

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Oh give over @Jumpingthruhoops, you’ve been told by the PP it wasn’t down to her.. now move on with your medals and it’s your fault attitude!

it’s boring.

saffy2 · 13/08/2023 18:17

Jumpingthruhoops · 13/08/2023 16:58

You've misunderstood me. I'm not saying you didn't take it for 7 days. I'm saying that you were still taking it, religiously, yes. But something else was at play, like the things I've mentioned above; you might have had D&V, you might have been taking another medication or herbal supplement. I used to avoid consuming any Vitamin C around the same time. And countless other things. All of which affect the absorption of the pill and would mean you would have needed to use condoms too.

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But given you’re not the only person in the world who understands how the pill works 🙄😂 I am telling you that none of those things occurred. I had taken it for 20 years previously, are you really so obtuse you believe that I don’t understand what can affect its reliability?! 🙄 you’re so patronising!! 😂😂😂

BlastedIce · 13/08/2023 18:34

saffy2 · 13/08/2023 18:17

But given you’re not the only person in the world who understands how the pill works 🙄😂 I am telling you that none of those things occurred. I had taken it for 20 years previously, are you really so obtuse you believe that I don’t understand what can affect its reliability?! 🙄 you’re so patronising!! 😂😂😂

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Oh but @Jumpingthruhoops midy know better than you, it’s never happened to her, so on earth could it possibly happen to anyone else?

Maybe she had a lot less sex than you, for a start off!

saffy2 · 13/08/2023 18:39

Jumpingthruhoops · 13/08/2023 16:58

You've misunderstood me. I'm not saying you didn't take it for 7 days. I'm saying that you were still taking it, religiously, yes. But something else was at play, like the things I've mentioned above; you might have had D&V, you might have been taking another medication or herbal supplement. I used to avoid consuming any Vitamin C around the same time. And countless other things. All of which affect the absorption of the pill and would mean you would have needed to use condoms too.

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Also, it’s VERY worrying that you seem to not understand the fact that these contraceptives ALL state they are not 100% effective. Even when used correctly. The pill is 99% effective with perfect use (exact wording from MHS website…). So that still leaves 1 out of 100 women that take the pill who will get pregnant while taking the pill perfectly.
You seem to be unable to believe that…which doesn’t mean the rest of us are stupid, it means that you are!!! No contraception even with perfect use is 100% effective and they literally tell you that. Just because you seem not to believe it doesn’t make it true 😂

Luke1054 · 13/08/2023 22:44

I think we all know she’s pregnant

Jumpingthruhoops · 14/08/2023 02:00

BlastedIce · 13/08/2023 18:07

Oh give over @Jumpingthruhoops, you’ve been told by the PP it wasn’t down to her.. now move on with your medals and it’s your fault attitude!

it’s boring.

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Right, so there's ZERO validity in anything I've said above!? Yep, contraception taken religiously just suddenly stops working!?

OK, well, I guess people can ignore it and find out for themselves, eh? I'm sure they'll find your 'there, there' approach much more useful.

Must go now... off to polish my medals! 🥇😁

Jumpingthruhoops · 14/08/2023 02:13

saffy2 · 13/08/2023 18:39

Also, it’s VERY worrying that you seem to not understand the fact that these contraceptives ALL state they are not 100% effective. Even when used correctly. The pill is 99% effective with perfect use (exact wording from MHS website…). So that still leaves 1 out of 100 women that take the pill who will get pregnant while taking the pill perfectly.
You seem to be unable to believe that…which doesn’t mean the rest of us are stupid, it means that you are!!! No contraception even with perfect use is 100% effective and they literally tell you that. Just because you seem not to believe it doesn’t make it true 😂

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I wouldn't say it's 'worrying' at all because I understand that NO manufacturer/organisation will ever claim something is 100% effective because that would be a guarantee - and they're not in the business of giving guarantees. You know that, right?

Interesting that I've had ZERO issues in 28 years... but apparently I'm the 'stupid' one. 🙄
People can acknowledge what I've said, or not. Couldn't care less, frankly.

Jumpingthruhoops · 14/08/2023 02:24

CurlyhairedAssassin · 11/08/2023 15:05

It's a fair point that that poster made, Blasted. Having sex as a young adult brings young adult responsibilties, and that is making sure you're not going to get pregnant. Pill, implant, condoms. We all need to take personal responsibility for it, NOT your parent. Yes, when we are teens SOME of us may make a silly mistake, have unprotected sex and seek out the morning after pill. But most of THOSE people don't then make exactly the same mistake again a little bit later. The fact that mum is now having to advise on this just shows that they really weren't ready to have sex in the first place.

Thank you. And what you've said about the situation is spot on.

The daughter and her boyfriend are clearly not grown up enough to have a grown up relationship.

But 'teens will be teens', so we're not supposed to guide them in any way.

Sorry, but it's that sentiment that's ridiculous!

BlastedIce · 14/08/2023 05:47

Jumpingthruhoops · 14/08/2023 02:13

I wouldn't say it's 'worrying' at all because I understand that NO manufacturer/organisation will ever claim something is 100% effective because that would be a guarantee - and they're not in the business of giving guarantees. You know that, right?

Interesting that I've had ZERO issues in 28 years... but apparently I'm the 'stupid' one. 🙄
People can acknowledge what I've said, or not. Couldn't care less, frankly.

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Hundred of thousands of women have had no issues, you’re not special but again, it didn’t mean there are no no fault accidents.

BlastedIce · 14/08/2023 05:53

Jumpingthruhoops · 14/08/2023 02:24

Thank you. And what you've said about the situation is spot on.

The daughter and her boyfriend are clearly not grown up enough to have a grown up relationship.

But 'teens will be teens', so we're not supposed to guide them in any way.

Sorry, but it's that sentiment that's ridiculous!

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How do you suggest you stop them
having sec? You cannot set up some “time” you’ve decide on? They’re acting within the law and therefore will obviously continue having sex.

Hellodollydaydream · 24/08/2023 19:52

She’s 18 in a sexual relationship I imagine she knows all she needs to know 🤦‍♂️so what are you going on about… Initial point stands Hun

DD took morning after pill then had sex again!

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