DD took morning after pill then had sex again!

[Yepyepye]

Is there a chance she could get pregnant? She absolutely does not want to be pregnant but for some reason thought that taking MAP once would protect her from all unplanned pregnancies this cycle. She is in a right state. She's 18 and her boyfriend is lovely (also 18); they both agree they are too young for parenthood. She would have an abortion if she was pregnant but would obviously rather not have to go through this. The unprotected sex (apparently the condom fell off) happened only a few days after her period finished, so she took it at the most effective time from what I can tell. She's now coming up to when her period would normally be due but has been told it might be late. She had unprotected sex the second time about 2 weeks after the first time / after she took the MAP.
I can't find out if Levonelle stops ovulation entirely or just delays it, different websites saying different things, so I don't know what to say to her!

I could weep with the stress!

Thank you

Really nasty comments, she's 18! Barely an adult, we've all done stupid things as teenagers AND as adults ! Also, she wasn't having sex with herself... there is a boy with a dick involved here too remember !

She needs to test. And then look into other forms of contraception.

FWIW I don’t think that your daughter is stupid, they have just done a stupid thing.

OP, you must be a brilliant mum/have a brilliant relationship with your DD that she can talk to you about this. Well done! My DD isn’t long into double digits so I’m a way off being where you are (I hope) but I just wanted to say that I hope my DD will be able to talk to me when the time comes. I don’t have any constructive advice — sorry — but hope it all works out okay. X

Ok a condom falling off or splitting can and does happen to 1000s of couples. However I think deep down they must be wanting a baby otherwise they wouldn't be taking such risks. Its not like there are no contraceptives available. We're not living in the 1800s, are we.

No. OP needs to educate her DD also she needs flo app too. Her bf doesn't sound too good either.

Good grief… I am horrified at the comments on here…. As the mum of a bright, well educated, extremely well informed 19 year old daughter… I can confirm that she and her friends have made some spectacularly poor decisions when it comes to sex… and they beat themselves up about it afterwards… OP - you are to be congratulated that your daughter comes to talk to you about such matters. I hope all is ok…

She was silly, we all can agree on that but I am sure she will learn from this!

Lets just hope she isn't pregnant. You seem to have an excellent open relationship with her, there is no way I would have spoken to my mum about this. And I took the MAP a few times.

Maybe go through more reliable contraceptive options, I had the implant for years and loved it.

Using a condom is risk-taking behaviour?

No but they had unprotected sex not long after having the MAP.
That's hardly a couple who thinks pregnancy would be a disaster is it.

I would strongly suggest that your DD rings her local sexual health clinic for contraceptive advice. If she does not want to become pregnant then condoms alone are probably not the best option as they have a high failure rate. I had the implant throughout my late teens and twenties, not suitable for all but it is 99.9% effective.

Your daughter and her boyfriend both need to do lots of reading about contraception. Then they need to go to a sexual health clinic and discuss their options. Until they’ve done that and got something in place, they need to stop having sex.

They do both sound incredibly naive and immature so really shouldn’t be having sex at all.
I’m not sure how ‘lovely’ her boyfriend sounds

Yes, she could be pregnant. Hopefully she isn’t. Either way, this should be enough to make them both realise that they need to be responsible.

Ignoring all the nasty comments (because everyone makes mistakes)

• The morning after pill can prevent or delay ovulation. So there is a risk that she could be pregnant.
• She’ll need to do a test around 14-16 days after the second incident of unprotected sex (and again if her periods don’t return to normal next cycle). Her period is likely to be at a different time this cycle anyway (because the MAP can alter it), so she needs to check 14-16 days after conception could have occurred.
• If she had unprotected sex less than 5 days ago then she can have a IUD (coil) fitted to prevent pregnancy. This obviously needs to be done as soon as possible- it can be done either at the GP or a sexual health clinic (she’ll need to explain when she books the appointment that she needs an urgent appointment and why so they can ensure she sees the right person and they have a coil available).
• It doesn’t sound like exclusively using condoms is working for them. If that’s their preferred method then there are condoms in different sizes (both smaller and larger than standard) that reduce the risk of damage and it slipping off. Using lube and ‘extra strong’ versions can also reduce the risk of it splitting.
• It also might be worth suggesting that she has an appointment at a sexual health clinic or with a GP to discuss whether other options for contraception are. The coil and implant are both good options for long term contraception that she doesn’t have to think about (although they don’t suit everyone). There are also lots of different types of pill as well as several other options (this is a good overview of all the options: https://www.brook.org.uk/topics/contraception/)

🤞🏽this is just a scare. But it’s probably a good idea for her to discuss and consider her contraception options going forward even if she’s not pregnant this time (it sounds like she may not fully understand how they all work or what would be best in her circumstances- a sexual health clinic has people who specialize in this and can give advice and information to help her and her partner with choosing an option that works best for them).

If she’s within 5 days of the last unprotected sex she might be able to get a copper coil inserted as emergency contraception.

I find the punitive (misogynist) tone of this comment (and some others on the thread) absolutely jaw-dropping. Ignore them OP! We’ve all done stupid stuff (or at least I certainly have) and I wish I’d been able to talk to my mum about it.

Im going to have leave mumsnet me thinks. What absolutely disgusting comments about an 18 year there are on this thread. Making a comment about sterilisation because she made a silly mistake. You should be utterly and completely ashamed of yourself.

If at 18 she cannot figure out how the MAP works she has no business having sex. In this situation a unplanned pregnancy is more of a question of when not if. Please educate her

The morning after pill and abortion aren't standard contraception methods. They are last resort methods for exceptionap circumstances.

She needed the MAP because of a condom failure

If they do not even understand basic contraception and conception information then they are too you g or too stupid to be having sex.

I think it is great that your daughter “comes running to you” & I really hope my DD feels she can speak to me about things when (not if, when) she fucks up in young adulthood.

This this and this.

Disgusting to suggest she needs sterilising because she’s been foolish at 18.

This is factually incorrect. Condoms do not have a high failure rate. They are 98% effective. The combined pill is 99% effective. Women do not have to put hormones in their body if they don't want to. Condoms are reliable. They just need to be fitting correctly.