Teacher friends in summer...every single time...

[Nursenance]

I'm not a teacher. I have a lot of teacher friends.
Every single summer I get texts saying 'let's get together over summer' , 'we need some days out over summer'.
Similar texts every school half term/Easter/Xmas.

It drives me nuts! I am still at work and in my routine. My weekly routine continues through the year. It's like an assumption that cos they not busy noone is!

For the rest of the year its always they too busy to text, can't meet cos working/marking.

I wouldn't be a teacher for all the tea in China but just drives me insane when they don't seem to realise that the rest of the world does not exist for school holidays.

It's not just weekends. Maybe it's because I have a wide pool of friends of SAHMs, shift workers, flexi workers etc. and obviously the 9-5ers as well.

Things I miss out on most of time are midweek dinners and cocktails or similar, morning coffees, days out far away, random "I'm in the area , can I pop in/can you go for a coffee" and so on. Some people have got so used to it that they don't even ask term tome anymore which is ok. I'm just reminding them that it's the holidays so all that is back on the table.

Exactly. Surely that's honest people meet up with their friends! One person says when they're free, the other person works
out if they have any time during that period when they are also free.

If they do, they meet up. If they don't, they don't.

We've established that everyone who works full time is busy. We all understand that people have busier periods when they're less likely to be able to meet up. Everyone knows that other people.have other commitments that need to be factored in.

This is only a problem because the friends in question in this case are teachers.

My friend works shifts. She either does earlies, afternoons or lates. We tend to only see each other during school holidays because of the timings of her shifts I'm never available when she is and vice versa.

Neither of us is bothered. It's just the way it goes!

I get you OP - but from a different perspective. When DS was younger, I used to work a term time contract (public service admin) and loved all the get togethers during school holidays. But somehow I keep forgetting that I no longer work this contract, and indeed I am often busier as I'm covering for other staff now off with school-age DC, so I spend the first half of the year planning all the things I'll do during the summer and all the people I'll see - and then July and August arrive and I have less time than usual. I haven't had that contract since 2016 but I've not learned yet! I have still got friends working in education or otherwise on term-time contracts but it still doesn't seem to have seeped in that I no longer have.

I am replying in the same patronising tone many of the non-teachers have taken. Bloody annoying, isn’t it? I just felt some help was needed given the double standards at work

The timings during the day don’t work for you. Oh well. Your suggestions during term time probably don’t work for her. Say no and stick to your other friends if you find it so annoying. @Squirrelsnut has it spot on.