yes, we got the ducks because oldest son wanted them for ages, and then like a typical teen he lost interest. I'd say grr but actually I've fallen in love with them!
Mine are 9 and 15 now. We were asked by school to get the youngest assessed and they recommended an independent lady rather than the big local organisation. She was so good, saw to the core of him and how he ticked, that I took the oldest there as I -knew- there was something different about him but the big organisation locally had misdiagnosed him.
The youngest was running into serious problems at school - he felt (correctly) that he was different from the other kids, even though he was accepted as he was and had friends. He was refusing to work more and more and needed special attention, and ofc the teachers have 30 kids to handle. After much searching for some years we finally found a school with a specialized unit for kids who are bright-but-different. I don't understand how they work, they don't seem to do anything as far as I can see, but the children are happy and tend to move to middle-school with top results so whatever they do is fine by me.
primary we had amazing support from school (different funding model so LA not needed) and he thrived, had friends and highest results in school and so caring
Isn't it clear how much the right environment and right support helps. From my heart, hoping that the LA can come up with something for your son.