My beloved husband just bought me beautiful earrings

[AvaCallanach]

He really did buy me beautiful earrings for my birthday. This is not a complaint. It makes me smile. He tries so hard. He took the kids shopping, did me proud.

But bless him, he bought these beautiful earrings which he has bought me 4 times before. Twice in blue, twice in green. This is the third blue pair. They are obviously his style!

He adores me ( played me To The End by Blur after work, we are off on holiday without the kids next week). I love him. He's wonderful. But why can't he remember these earrings and yet keep choosing them, lol.

I found them easily enough.

Oh yes, the charm bracelet, the gift that keeps on giving. I wonder how many people have an unwanted charm bracelet, that's been added to every Christmas, birthday, Mothers Day etc etc for years to come.

Snap! I have enough Obsession to sink a battleship, metaphorically speaking. I am admit very very hard to buy for beyond good chocolate and Molton Brown so when I once bought Obsession and liked it he latched on to it.

Laziness and safety.

If someone bought something and you said you like it they feel safe buying it again. Especially if someone is hard to buy for. That's why some people always follow a formula of gifts for certain people.

My dad was a grump and terrible to buy for, when I was younger he once liked a mug I got him. so I then bought him a few more over the year until he opened on and declared 'not another fucking mug'. Its a shame because I love gift buying and finding new things but hes so impossible to please.

It's also in a lot of cases laziness of not having to put any thought or actual effort into coming up with something new. Its nothing to do with 'forgetting' its actually the fact the remember.

1 pair of blue and knowing you like them then 1 pair of green is fine... a replacement if a pair get damaged might be fine but repetitively buying the same thing is ultimate lazy and piss taking. It will keep happening unless you point out its taking the piss at this point.

Go on, everyone, own up, when did you last clean your earing

I do mine several times a year, because I visit food factories for work and many don't allow jewellry to be worn. So every time I have to take out the half dozen or so studs in my ears and every time I'm horrified at all the old skin and dried up conditioner clogging up the posts and backs.

Jyst saying OP's DH is my brother in law, I have known him for thirty years and he is indeed a lovely man. Nearly as nice as my own DH 😁

I clean my earrings alot... mainly with hand sanitiser I guess. Probably every time I put a new set in. My ears are sensitive and the bars of the earring need to be scrupulously clean.

@Windercar pretty sure it’s not illegal to return pierced earrings, although totally understand why some shops may prefer not.

I was trying in pierced earrings in Tiffany a couple of weeks ago, the sales assistant didn’t hesitate in offering.

What a lovely post.

OP, ignore the nasty girls.

Having explained to him that you now have several pairs of similar earrings, could you suggest that next year you go shopping together and choose a different style or choose something different altogether?

"I clean my earrings alot... mainly with hand sanitiser I guess."

I'd be wary of hand sanitiser. I've read that with time, it can strip the white gold layer and reveal the yellow gold.

John Lewis don’t allow returns of pierced earrings, I don’t think most places do, unless faulty/damaged.

Awww love this

@HumanBurrito

Would you by any chance like a lovely pair of blue and silver earrings for your birthday later this year? I know a guy.... 😂

Not quite in the same league as your earrings but over the past 21 years my DH has bought me 3 copies of the film 50 First Dates on DVD. Many, many years ago I loved the film and he bought a copy for my birthday...and then repeated it a few years later...and again!
Plus, he must have mentioned to his mum that I liked it and I received a copy from her too!
It's now a standing joke in our house!

@AvaCallanach was about to start dropping hints about blue being my colour 😉

In a 34 year relationship the examples I could give of my husband being lovely would fill a thread. However...

Picture the scene, Autumn 1989, a Northern mill town. A first year student with a hippie Indian skirt on enters a halls of residence party with friends. A shy guy who she has met a couple of times before, friends of friends, detaches himself from the melee and comes over. He warns her not to drink the "punch" that someone has mixed up in a huge black plastic bin. He has heard a rumour that one of the flatmates pissed into it. Instead, he shows her where his stash of beer is hidden, inside the lining of an upturned chair, and tells her to stick with that because it's safer.

Several hours later it's sleeting and she hasn't brought her big coat. She wraps herself in her cardi and makes to leave. He says he will see her safe to halls and gives her his Withnail and I style second hand coat to wear. He insists he isn't cold, walking along in his t-shirt. She has drunk too much beer and really needs a wee. They duck into a park where she hides behind the bushes to go Al fresco and he says he hasn't ever met anyone who wouldn't care about weeing in a park before, and that she is as cool as fuck.

They stop off at an old bar where a guy is playing the piano, and find a booth, and talk and talk.

34 years later he tells me how much he loves me every single day. He tells me I built his world. He cries at soppy lovesongs. He brings me tea in bed every morning. If the world ended tomorrow I would know with absolute certainty that this man loves me and that we have been happy together. The scale of our shared history and everything we are to each other is not going to be knocked off course because he is forgetful over presents and spends way more than I would!

Oh, it's a creative writing project. (I think the hubby as devoted puppy trope has been done to death, OP.)

Oh bugger off @GardeningIdiot . Love ya C and you and J are a great couple.

May you receive back from the world all the generosity of spirit and happiness you share, a thousandfold, dear gardeningidiot.

Just for balance, he is a pain in the arse about cleaning, obsessive about clothes washing, grumpy argumentative and critical when in the company of his mother. We had hard times when the kids were small ironing out parenting differences. And he is not great at presents!

But overall he is a good guy, and I have many many faults too.

Funny how you write a post asking why your otherwise very loving, caring DH might buy the same gift repeatedly and end up having to defend your whole relationship!

There's only 10 of those earrings left in stock on the website! Your husband needs to get in quick!

It is 100 percent a break up song. (Huge Blur fan here.) And it's about the break up of an unhappy, failed relationship where both people are "infatuated only with themselves" and don't mean anything they say to each other any more...

I dunno, the internet seems to be split 50:50 on whether they made it or not. Half of the references are about a couple who have survived a dodgy patch.

@Superfood but what's your point? It seems pretty clear that OP's DH thinks it's a "you and me forever doing", and OP receives it in this spirit. Is it so important for you to be (possibly) "right" about what some random Blur geezer was meaning? Seems so weirdly mean-spirited to be pooh-poohing this sweet little bit of their relationship!

How can you be livid? Genuinely? Baffled at his lack of recall of what he has previously bought, yes, but how livid? I don't understand that

I would assume she means livid at the lack of thought and respect from someone that’s meant to love her.

And to all the posters claiming anyone that disagrees that buying the same present ever year is anything other than cute is ‘nauseatingly jealous’ and other similar slurs. This is a pretty misogynistic put down to women meant purely to shut up and shame them.