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Work letter of concern

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TD7 · 16/07/2023 12:45

Does a letter of concern from work mean you will be sacked my anxiety is through the roof

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TD7 · 19/07/2023 09:11

Over40Overdating · 19/07/2023 09:07

It’s a horrible condition and unless you’ve lived it it’s so hard to know just how all consuming the thoughts can be but it can be brought under control, I promise @TD7.

When I was at my worst I felt like I had gone totally mad and could never see a time when I wouldn’t be like that but it does change.
I still have odd moments of anxiety and it almost feels comfortable to go back to being obsessive and seeing the worst but it’s like a habit now to break the thought loops before they settle in and take over.
Good luck!

Thankyou …just one question do you take medication for it too like I am

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Over40Overdating · 19/07/2023 09:20

@TD7 No I don’t - at the time of my diagnosis I was too anxious to even be able to take medication!
Even the thought of taking it caused a huge panic attack.

I managed it with talking therapy, diet, exercise and very patient friends. I cut out all caffeine and alcohol as they made it much worse. Getting into a proper sleep habit too made a difference. It took longer than it would have with meds for sure. I’m now in a place where if it did feel like I was sliding and had no control I would be able to take the meds now.

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TD7 · 19/07/2023 11:08

Over40Overdating · 19/07/2023 09:20

@TD7 No I don’t - at the time of my diagnosis I was too anxious to even be able to take medication!
Even the thought of taking it caused a huge panic attack.

I managed it with talking therapy, diet, exercise and very patient friends. I cut out all caffeine and alcohol as they made it much worse. Getting into a proper sleep habit too made a difference. It took longer than it would have with meds for sure. I’m now in a place where if it did feel like I was sliding and had no control I would be able to take the meds now.

That’s great good for you …I’m now starting to understand the word catastrophizing I’ve been doing all my life getting on ppls nerves for reassurance constantly it drives me mad let alone anyone else there is also OCD and maybe ADHD ..I’m too having talking therapy starts this week thankyou for understanding

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TD7 · 19/07/2023 12:55

MrsOvertonsWindow · 18/07/2023 12:10

OP.
Try not to worry - you now have a plan to address the concerns:

  1. You've seen your GP in relation to your anxiety.
  2. You've started on medication.
  3. You (by the time you have the meeting) will be able to demonstrate that you will not shout / over react to colleagues if they behave badly.
  4. Part of the plan should also include you asking your employer to ensure that "banter" does not include you being targeted in any way by that colleague. No removing of personal items etc. You will guarantee to your employer that you will respond calmly to all conversations, your employer needs to ensure that conversations in the work place are work appropriate.
As long as there are no complaints about work related issues (following rules, hygiene, safety etc ) then this should be straightforward .

Try to enjoy your break. Flowers

Thankyou so much

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Twentyfirstcenturymumma · 19/07/2023 23:54

TD7 · 19/07/2023 09:11

Thankyou …just one question do you take medication for it too like I am

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This is such good advice for OP, and given with real empathy and experience.
@TD7 In addition to the excellent website resource given by another poster you may find this book helpful. It gives real, practical, scenario-based tips and shows tgat breaking free from crippling anxiety and all that goes with it can be achieved with a CBT approach 'Breaking Free from OCD'
https://reading-well.org.uk/books/books-on-prescription/11067479

'Anxiety for Beginners' by Eleanor Morgan is helpful too.

These may help you to take control of your feelings, rather than falling victim to them, and teach you ways to interrupt unhelpful thought processes whilst you wait for the medication to start working and your talking therapies appointments. It could be that you begin to enjoy your well deserved break from work soon.

Break Free from OCD: Overcoming Obsessive Compulsive Disorder with CBT | Reading Well booklists | Books | Reading Well

https://reading-well.org.uk/books/books-on-prescription/11067479

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TD7 · 20/07/2023 09:26

Twentyfirstcenturymumma · 19/07/2023 23:54

This is such good advice for OP, and given with real empathy and experience.
@TD7 In addition to the excellent website resource given by another poster you may find this book helpful. It gives real, practical, scenario-based tips and shows tgat breaking free from crippling anxiety and all that goes with it can be achieved with a CBT approach 'Breaking Free from OCD'
https://reading-well.org.uk/books/books-on-prescription/11067479

'Anxiety for Beginners' by Eleanor Morgan is helpful too.

These may help you to take control of your feelings, rather than falling victim to them, and teach you ways to interrupt unhelpful thought processes whilst you wait for the medication to start working and your talking therapies appointments. It could be that you begin to enjoy your well deserved break from work soon.

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Thankyou so much I will get on this today with the help,of everyone I’m really starting to understand my mental health better what it is and how and why it’s controlling my life I’m determined to break free of this horrible anxiety

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