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Toobear · 2023-07-04T14:43:49+00:00

On holiday in France with DH, DD11 and DS10. About third of women on beach are topless. DH very keen that I join them (I did happily last time we went on holiday). But I feel that it will embarrass the DC. Am I being prudish given there’s plenty doing it and I absolutely would if DC weren’t there, or am I being respectful of their feelings?

itsgettingweird · 04/07/2023 18:08

It's not about what your dh wants or how your children will feel.

It's your body - do what you want to do.

CuteSleepyDog · 04/07/2023 18:08

I wish some posters would stay on the sex board or just fuck off mumsnet.

Its like they put a call out of something and decide you invade the other boards. 🤢 They’re also all over the anal sex one with the poor OP who has a birth injury. Sick bastards.

CuteSleepyDog · 04/07/2023 18:09

*to invade

TwigTheWonderKid · 04/07/2023 18:09

I would and neither of my teenage sons would care. I really don't understand why Brits are so obsessed with any kind of nudity being shocking and wrong. If we all let it hang out a bit more I think we would all have much healthier relationships with our bodies.

Mikimoto · 04/07/2023 18:10

But don't your children see your body at home?
Have you brought them up to think it's something to be embarrassed about?

Mylifeislikeaboatrace · 04/07/2023 18:10

Another who thinks his keeness is weird, inspite of the update.
You can walk around starkers on the beach for all I care, but huge saggy boobs swinging free and heavily pregnant looking men -urgh. I averted my eyes before I wrote that 😀

lieselotte · 04/07/2023 18:10

Why would you want to? The skin on your breasts is really sensitive. I'd not want it in the sun at all.

As for being a man's world I think men should stay covered up too, or lie on their fronts.

lieselotte · 04/07/2023 18:11

Mikimoto · 04/07/2023 18:10

But don't your children see your body at home?
Have you brought them up to think it's something to be embarrassed about?

The answer to both those questions can be no without being a contradiction.

Monkeypopcorn · 04/07/2023 18:14

We used to have a holiday home in Spain. My mum and dad would use the back patio for nude sunbathing. I was absolutely mortified as a 10-16 year old. Even more mortified as a parent to my own 10 year old!

WonderfulUsername · 04/07/2023 18:19

Toobear · 04/07/2023 17:32

To be clear, DH thinks that I should be me and be confident in front of DC. No question of him being pervy (apologies I can see I didn’t articulate this well). And no question of DC being naked 🙄
Thanks for the comments, I don’t think it’s the right thing to do in front of DC so won’t.

I don’t think it’s the right thing to do in front of DC so won’t.

I don't understand why you asked then.

Surely if you don't think it's right then you thought that all along?

SheIIy · 04/07/2023 18:19

TwigTheWonderKid · 04/07/2023 18:09

I would and neither of my teenage sons would care. I really don't understand why Brits are so obsessed with any kind of nudity being shocking and wrong. If we all let it hang out a bit more I think we would all have much healthier relationships with our bodies.

Good for you, but no way would I be letting it hang in front of my teenage children. I don't think it makes people have a better relationship with their bodies to see their parents naked, I'd say the opposite in my very personal opinion.

TribeD · 04/07/2023 18:19

Mikimoto · 04/07/2023 18:10

But don't your children see your body at home?
Have you brought them up to think it's something to be embarrassed about?

Yes DD sees me, and to a lesser extent DH, naked when we're showering or getting dressed and while we don't dive for cover, she's currently learning about keeping privates private (that's the schools line, not mine). We talk freely about our bodies, and we're certainly not embarrassed but that doesn't mean I would be happy to be topless on a beach whilst with her.

Zanatdy · 04/07/2023 18:20

The fact you said your DH wants you to join them is enough to make me say no. You’re on holiday with your kids, is he really going to be ogling your breasts all day? My mum used to go topless. It didn’t bother me really, but I’m not sure how my brother felt about it. I wouldn’t dream of it in front of my kids, also because at 46 my boobs have gone south! They were always a bit south!

LacieLane · 04/07/2023 18:21

There are many cultural influences too that will play into the usual for families.

In The Netherlands a mum and her 14 year old sharing an outdoor jacuzzi - both naked - is quite usual in the therme.

My DS’s would be mortified, as would I. We make decisions comfortable to us and our family.

MotherofGorgons · 04/07/2023 18:22

Oh good now in addition to all the other things mums have to do, we also have to model body confidence by going topless. Otherwise we are ashamed and modelling shame.

LacieLane · 04/07/2023 18:22

Missed *son - after 14 year old.

Not an issue in some countries.

Oblomov23 · 04/07/2023 18:23

I don't think my older teens would like it, so I don't.

LetsPlayShadowlands · 04/07/2023 18:23

Toobear · 04/07/2023 17:32

To be clear, DH thinks that I should be me and be confident in front of DC. No question of him being pervy (apologies I can see I didn’t articulate this well). And no question of DC being naked 🙄
Thanks for the comments, I don’t think it’s the right thing to do in front of DC so won’t.

😂😂😂 sure Jan! He's such a feminist!

TheSeesawIssue · 04/07/2023 18:23

They’re also all over the anal sex one with the poor OP who has a birth injury. Sick bastards.

There seems to be a few threads that over the last few days that are weird, then others come on to say how great the original thing is, and yes, usernames that are usually on the sex board as a pp said. Yuk.

Mumsneg seem oblivious or happy to ignore.

theDudesmummy · 04/07/2023 18:25

I have never been on the sex board in my life, and naturism has nothing to do with sex.

JennyJenny8675309 · 04/07/2023 18:26

doingthehokeykokey · 04/07/2023 15:51

Ok on reflection, this has got to be a wind up. Had me going there 😂

Yep. 🤭

Gothambutnotahamster · 04/07/2023 18:39

LapinR0se · 04/07/2023 15:47

Why does your DH get a say in this??

I wondered this too?! Nothing to do with him - do what makes you feel comfortable.

Northernsoullover · 04/07/2023 18:40

Yeah right! Chinny reckon 🤔. Absolutely no one goes top less now. Its completely out of fashion.

AgnesX · 04/07/2023 18:40

Do what YOU feel comfortable with. You're not keen then never mind what he thinks.

In a kind of reverse does he want to be a "cool husband" .... something to tell his friends about when gets home?

SayHi · 04/07/2023 18:50

Mikimoto · 04/07/2023 18:10

But don't your children see your body at home?
Have you brought them up to think it's something to be embarrassed about?

I don’t walk around naked at home in front of my DC.

I wouldn’t want to see my mum and dad walking around naked and I’m a grown adult, so I know my teen wouldn’t want to see me naked.

If you’re happy to go to your parents whilst they’re pottering about naked then so be it but most of us wouldn’t.

FWIW I do know someone who regularly walks around naked as her DH thinks it’s ‘natural and nothing to be ashamed of’.
Of course the body is nothing to be ashamed of but I think it’s pretty messed up as I know their kids hate it.