Parenting trends that can get in the bin

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Permissive/passive parenting labelled as gentle - no, little Jimmy not wanting to play with your DC is not a natural consequence for squirting him repeatedly and directly in the face from 2ft away with a super soaker, despite being asked to 'stop please darling, he doesn't like it, oh look, he's crying'....a natural consequence would be removing the super soaker

Never saying 'no' as a principle- fair enough (not really), but if you're DC is being violent, I sure as hell will tell them no

Neutrals neutrals neutrals and no plastic tat - let them have some stuff they like! Buy it second hand of you want to be eco but let them have the odd bit of tat/character pyjamas that make them happy, why not 🤷🏼‍♀️

Thank you! You’ve summed up for me why I have been feeling uneasy about this constant need for children to “snack”. I haven’t been able to put my finger on it before, but you are so right.

Yes 👍🏼

Proud and performative judgement of other people's parenting choices that really don't affect you. Its a baby shower Barb, its fun, it won't kill you. The bizarre pretence (I assume it's a pretence because surely no one is that ignorant?) that all children and families and situations are the same and all children require and respond to the same approaches and techniques. The fetishism of previous generations parenting. All can get in the biiiiin.

Oh my word there are some miserable sods on here! 🤣

Also very glad I stopped caring (too much) about the opinions of others a while ago...

DC1 responded brilliantly to gentle parenting. Dc2 is a tasmanian devil who is that kid running round sainsburys tearing things off the shelves and doing knee slides down the aisle. When he was smaller we could physically stop him but now he's larger we just have to avoid taking him anywhere. He doesn't respond to any form of reprimand or explanation as to why we want him to stop. I sometimes think I might buy one of those dog collars that sprays water in their face (I'm joking....mostly)

Parents who think you want to look after their child whilst you’re eating your lunch, even worse when you’ve only managed to get rid of your own for the day. Piss off back to mum and dad.

overfeeding your children or not looking after their teeth. I know someone at primary who was guilty of both. Acted like it was their problem, not hers.

Telling children they need to be ‘grateful’ all the time. My friend once lectured her children, the youngest was 3 about her doing all their cooking and cleaning. They didn’t ask to be here, you decided to have 6 children.
I went on a coach trip now and there were some grandparents and a GC, they told her ever 5 minutes how she needed to be GRATEFUL for this trip, how lucky she was. I bet she wished she stayed at home.

Older generation bullshit. Specifically my MIL who thought babies were ‘manipulative’ and should be locked in rooms and ignored.

This

Wow so much judgement. People do make parenting mistakes. There's no manual.

I know this thread is lighthearted so I'm sorry for being "that poster" but my DD has misophonia so she can't stand the sound of chewing, if we are on holiday or a very rare meal out, she has an iPad with headphones so she can't hear us chewing.

I say rare because it's just easier for everyone to not inflict that on her but sometimes it can't be helped.

I hate it and feel so self conscious about it, but it's the only way to get through a meal, it's utterly miserable for us I promise you

Well said

An outfit like this?

Agreed. Even the thought of what could happen makes my anxiety hit the roof.

I would never tell anyone not to if they told me but inside I want to scream - please, please just stop!

Way too many sad stories surrounding co sleeping

Baby led weaning of cunting chokey foods. Oh lalala they won't choke they've got a reflex that prevents it. Yeah OK, so if they do I sue the health visitor can I? Not that that would be any comfort.

Falling asleep with your baby on a sofa is significantly more dangerous than planned co sleeping. You are much more likely to fall asleep on a sofa with your baby if you aren't co sleeping.

No, the poster said leggings with a short top.

That's a hideous outfit too, but for different reasons. It's so loud it's giving me a migraine.

I remember older people disapproved of colouring books in restaurants because children should be able to sit still and quiet when ordered to do so. Same with church, you sat with one hand on each knee and faced the front in silence. No creche or breakout room. Corporal punishment was used regularly and some kids still got the belt at home. 80s/early 90s not the Victorian era. I'm glad the importance of emotions is now more recognised and normal childhood behaviour acknowledged instead of punished and shamed.

Great minds 😂

I did actually first write 'do as you're fucking well told' and then took that bit out!!

I wasn't sure how short she meant! This one?

SIDS is awful isn't it.

Personally, I couldn't take the risk. I know someone who's baby passed with co sleeping so I guess I'm extra cautious.

I did hear recently they have changed the NHS advice around co sleeping now which is good for people who do do it as theres more available guidance on it.

"All the science says not to"? No it doesn't.

Having an opinion is absolutely fine, but making up "facts" to suit your opinion is wrong.

I took it to mean a crop top, but I guess only she can say what she was thinking of.

Crop tops in general would be awful on children!

Mine loved toys when out at that age. They particularly liked throwing them or dropping them and then whining because they didn't have their toys anymore.

I don't mind kids wearing hideous clothes if that's they're thing. They've got the rest of their lives to dress sensibly.

Baby led everything. Often to the point the mothers mental health suffers.

No thanks. In the bin here and routines/sleep training for the win.