Parenting trends that can get in the bin

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Permissive/passive parenting labelled as gentle - no, little Jimmy not wanting to play with your DC is not a natural consequence for squirting him repeatedly and directly in the face from 2ft away with a super soaker, despite being asked to 'stop please darling, he doesn't like it, oh look, he's crying'....a natural consequence would be removing the super soaker

Never saying 'no' as a principle- fair enough (not really), but if you're DC is being violent, I sure as hell will tell them no

Neutrals neutrals neutrals and no plastic tat - let them have some stuff they like! Buy it second hand of you want to be eco but let them have the odd bit of tat/character pyjamas that make them happy, why not 🤷🏼‍♀️

Maybe more of an extended family trend rather than a parenting one but insisting on watching children open the presents you give like it's a performance. I mean fine if you're there at the time but otherwise why make things tricky logistically just because you insist on watching the child?

Naughty step

Judging others on a half hour glimpse of someone else's parenting. .

Gender reveals then shared with the world as if anyone else is bothered in the slightest

I’m going to get a marmite response to this but elaborate gender reveal parties.

Don’t get it.

I was very much of the school of thought of “If I’m going through that much pain I might at least have a surprise at the end”, so I didn’t even find out at all but I don’t get the big song and dance thing. Celebrate when it’s safely here! You can reveal the real thing then!

Parents ignoring their ferals and becoming gobby when someone else tells the kid off.
Gentle parenting 'don't do that darling it isn't kind' as dc is beating up someone else's kid.
Climbing on / standing on seats on public transport resulting 'adults' putting their shitty feet on seats where people have to sit.
Massive explanations to a toddler who doesn't understand diddly squat what is being said to them.
"I know my rights!" parents shouting at others, dc learn their rights at the breast.
Tbh, most modern parenting belongs in the bin. Common sense and understanding how your child ticks is the way forward. you are the adult, they are the child and no means know. Stop being so wet with the I'll count to three and then not seeing the 'punishment' through.
I wasn't perfect but I managed to raise six to adulthood with very little drama and they function as law abiding citizens, working and being decent members of society.

All of it...having kids used to be a thing that people just did, rightly or wrongly, they just did because it was expected and the norm. They got on with it and did their best.

Now it's a special club. Everyone wants to be praised for it. Everyone wants privileges for it.

I sound like my mother but it isn't doing kids any favours.

There are some principles of gentle parenting I can get behind but I've never been able to take those scripts proponents give you seriously. Also the long monologues about feelings.

All of this apart from the potty training thing. Genuinely think it has to be a physiological thing for some kids as my son had no idea he was weeing until after he was 3. We managed to train him in a week with a fair few accidents!

Soooo many people on MN really don't understand what gentle parenting is. If your kid is getting away with murder and you're just standing by and letting them, you're not bloody doing it right!!

Knowing the audience here I’m going to get eviscerated for this but co sleeping.

it’s been known to increase the risk of SIDS for years and risky and all the science says not to.

I was once told that putting reins on a toddler was de-humanising, & infringing his human rights.

How about stopping him getting killed & traumatising a driver for life ?

People attempting gentle parenting and Montessori approaches. They never do proper research, do it badly then wonder why they end up shouting at their kid everyday. Speak to anyone working in childcare and they can tell you the basics of montessori, much better than putting a mattress on the floor and letting your kid make their own dinner without knowing why you're doing it.

Also parents that use full sentences to speak to their toddler/baby. "Jimmy we both know how dangerous it is to run at mummy with a knife, so could you kindly please pop it down on the astroturf and regulate your emotions." Just say no or stop, then explain in kid friendly terms!

Thinking that leggings are trousers and can be worn with a short top. Also thinking they are ok on boys

Performance parenting!

I have no need to know how AMAZING your child is when sharing a public space such as a train or cafe.

What do you think an 18 month old does if you turn Peppa Pig off and (the holy grail of good parenting when out 😂!) give them a colouring book and some crayons?

Oh, right.

I never gave mine colouring things at that age. I had a few toys I kept in my bag that they could play with. A fold-up farm with lots of soft toy animals was a favourite. Also didn't ignore them to have only grown up talk. They were part of the event.

What? 😂 My 5 year old boy wears leggings. There's no issue in the slightest....🙄

I did exactly this 11 years ago when potty training my first born. It was only for the first couple of weeks and everyone in my NCT group did the same from what I can remember!

What? This isn't a new thing either! I wore leggings with regular tops as a child in the 90s.

When my oldest was a baby I used to torture myself only feeding him organic food when it wasn't widely available. Now he's 19, and I can plainly see as he dips another toxic tortilla into Nandos chemical sauce what an utter waste of effort that was.

Oversimplification, but how about : -

"Darling, don't hit your baby sister with that toy on her fontanelle, it might make her cry"

Grab hand and scream "STOP THAT"

WWYD ?

I had DC in the 70s, then more in the 90s. Parenting styles were incredibly different. Definitely smacking in the 70s.
Naughty step in the 90s. Positive Parenting as well.
Now with my GC different styles again.
Most parents muddle through & do their best.
It’s mainly common sense. Some DC are more awkward than others. All people have different tolerance levels.
Some parenting styles today are plainly bonkers as they were 30 years ago. As long as the DC turn out reasonably well, there’s no point in judging.

iPads shoved in front of kid’s faces at meal times. Just talk to the poor thing, teach them how to converse and enjoy their food. And if they can’t behave for long enough for a meal, don’t take them again until they are a bit older. I get it, I have a toddler and entertaining her can be haaaard. But jeez, I dread to think what this brain rot is doing to our children’s attention spans.

Controlled crying
a lazy parents way to attempt settle their child
I had 3 under 3 …so a 2 year old and 2 babies ,didn’t resort to such a cruel practice

Yes, but it looks awful and is so exposing

No, it's not new, but it's a really awful fashion. Nothing to do with being revealing, skinny jeans or a short skirt wouldn't look so bad. It just basically looks like you cut the feet off your tights and then forgot to get dressed.

Just look awful without a long top