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'I have no problem with trans women using women's toilets'

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CGF · 20/06/2023 10:34

https://metro.co.uk/2023/06/19/i-have-no-issue-with-trans-women-using-the-loos-im-in-you-shouldnt-either-18978018/#metro-comments-container

Just seen this article and had to share - I can't believe the hateful language used by the author:

'High profile people, who I consider transphobic, like some politicians and former role models – who aren’t even worthy of the term ‘TERF’ (meaning trans exclusionary radical feminist) as it has ‘feminist’ in the name, and that they most certainly are not – have made it their mission to stoke a panic over trans people'.

I have no issue with trans women using the loos I'm in - you shouldn't either

Today, I'm sick and frustrated of the obsessive, hateful loud siren voices who act as if they're speaking for all cis women.

https://metro.co.uk/2023/06/19/i-have-no-issue-with-trans-women-using-the-loos-im-in-you-shouldnt-either-18978018#metro-comments-container

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FourTeaFallOut · 22/06/2023 16:58

It's estimated that less than 1% of transwomen have genital surgery. Any ideas on how you'd go about restricting access of the women's toilets to only genitally mutilated men Blossomtoes?

MargotBamborough · 22/06/2023 17:01

Blossomtoes · 22/06/2023 16:52

Is that supposed to make any sense?

It makes perfect sense.

We know they aren't women, because if they were, nobody would be bending over backwards to accommodate them.

literalviolence · 22/06/2023 17:07

Blossomtoes · 22/06/2023 16:52

Is that supposed to make any sense?

It makes perfect sense. Not sure why you're so stressed at the idea that someone would say you're not a woman (not that she said that) when you're busy telling loads of women that they're not women any more.

Florissante · 22/06/2023 17:32

Blossomtoes · 22/06/2023 16:52

Is that supposed to make any sense?

Yes.

Florissante · 22/06/2023 17:42

Maddy70 · 21/06/2023 14:47

I have no issue with trans women using the same toilets ....
They aren't sharing my cubicle.

Good. You can use the men's lavatories then.

Blossomtoes · 22/06/2023 17:46

literalviolence · 22/06/2023 17:07

It makes perfect sense. Not sure why you're so stressed at the idea that someone would say you're not a woman (not that she said that) when you're busy telling loads of women that they're not women any more.

I’m doing nothing of the sort. Although frankly if this thread’s anything to go by I’m not sure I’m particularly enamoured to be a woman.

viques · 22/06/2023 17:47

StephanieSuperpowers · 22/06/2023 16:50

Yeah, you can see that transwomen are men and everyone know it because kindness and empathy go from women to men. Even if we pretend to think that transwomen are women, the way that kindness is supposed to go shows very well that we know they aren't.

So true

new tits yes
hormones yes
voice modification yes
hair removal yes
new “vagina” yes
face feminisation surgery yes
adams apple reduction yes
empathy and kindness awareness course ( mansplaining and manspreading modules included) WTF???? Are you mad? What sort of a woman do you think I am?

ASGIRC · 22/06/2023 17:57

KarmaIsMyBF · 20/06/2023 11:00

I haven't read it but personally I'm not bothered about transwomen using the toilets I'm in but I understand other women are and I understand the reasons they don't want to share their space and I think that should be respected.

Why do transwomens wishes and wants come before a woman's wishes and wants when it comes to their private space?

I think M&S in the town I live in has a perfect solution- there's a communal waiting area and all the toilets are separated into one big bathroom basically and there was about 8-10 of them so only one person could use it at any given time or is a third bathroom an option??

Sorry went on a bit of a rant there however women who don't want to share their space shouldn't automatically be labelled as transphobic - it's their go to argument.

Do away with all the urinals and make every toilet a single fully enclosed cubicle (none of this gap under the door nonsense, and walls that dont go up to the ceiling) and voila!!! All toilets can be unisex and everyone can be happy!

Can have a communal sink area, that is also the waiting area.

ItsFunToBeAVampire · 22/06/2023 18:02

Blossomtoes · 22/06/2023 17:46

I’m doing nothing of the sort. Although frankly if this thread’s anything to go by I’m not sure I’m particularly enamoured to be a woman.

It doesn't really matter how you feel about being a woman, it'll always be true, even with surgery and hormones. Just like transwomen are always men.

MargotBamborough · 22/06/2023 19:45

Blossomtoes · 22/06/2023 17:46

I’m doing nothing of the sort. Although frankly if this thread’s anything to go by I’m not sure I’m particularly enamoured to be a woman.

Yes you are. You're telling us "women" is a word for people who share a certain identity, rather than a word for female people.

That means most of us aren't included within that new definition because we don't identify as anything.

MargotBamborough · 22/06/2023 19:46

ASGIRC · 22/06/2023 17:57

Do away with all the urinals and make every toilet a single fully enclosed cubicle (none of this gap under the door nonsense, and walls that dont go up to the ceiling) and voila!!! All toilets can be unisex and everyone can be happy!

Can have a communal sink area, that is also the waiting area.

So if your elderly mother uses one and has a stroke while she's on the toilet, how long before someone finds her?

And if a man follows you into one, locks the door and sexually assaults you, will anyone notice and sound the alarm?

Redebs · 22/06/2023 19:50

Desdemonadryeyes · 20/06/2023 12:00

I’d prefer not to use a loo that has been just used by a man. In my limited existence they leave the seat up, randomly leave piss droplets around and can be pretty grim.

Exactly

And sometimes hidden cameras

Redebs · 22/06/2023 19:53

viques · 22/06/2023 16:36

and for a long time it was a two way street, with most women being more than generous in turning a blind eye to trans women who generally kept their own counsel and were discreet . But all that has changed, and certainly speaking for myself my attitudes have changed too because I am not prepared to be called names like cis, TERF, bigot , Menstruator, chest feeder and all the other spiteful names one minute and then being expected to share my spaces , see my spaces abused, see vunerable women denied safe places like single sex counselling sessions for victims of sexual abuse, refuges, hospital wards, changing rooms, women only social groups - even prisons and the WI, be mocked, have the language I use about myself twisted into meaningless gobbledegook, be told I don’t understand basic biology by men who claim to have a cervix, periods and go through the menopause.

Bugger off is the politest way I can express my feelings these days. It’s like asking the gazelles to be a bit kinder to the lions and stop running so fast. This gazelle has armed herself with armour plating, stickers, ribbons and is considering an uzi. ( not really with the uzi, I am not a man defaulting to violence as the way to achieve my aims)

Well said!

ASGIRC · 22/06/2023 20:36

MargotBamborough · 22/06/2023 19:46

So if your elderly mother uses one and has a stroke while she's on the toilet, how long before someone finds her?

And if a man follows you into one, locks the door and sexually assaults you, will anyone notice and sound the alarm?

WTF?! So no one should have any privacy because you're afraid of ghosts?!

Surely, if you're waiting for your elderly mother, and she doesn't come out in due time, you'll try to find ou what has happened.

And how exactly is a man following me into the toilet?? Because if it's busy, there will be people outside. And if it's not, the guy could follow me into the ladies just as well.

Also, LOADS of public toilets have the exact cubicles I'm talking about. Fully enclosed and private. Can confirm I have not been locked in one by a man 🙄🙄

MargotBamborough · 22/06/2023 20:58

ASGIRC · 22/06/2023 20:36

WTF?! So no one should have any privacy because you're afraid of ghosts?!

Surely, if you're waiting for your elderly mother, and she doesn't come out in due time, you'll try to find ou what has happened.

And how exactly is a man following me into the toilet?? Because if it's busy, there will be people outside. And if it's not, the guy could follow me into the ladies just as well.

Also, LOADS of public toilets have the exact cubicles I'm talking about. Fully enclosed and private. Can confirm I have not been locked in one by a man 🙄🙄

What are you struggling with, exactly?

Nobody said anything about ghosts.

If someone has a stroke, time is of the essence. My husband's 94 year old grandmother had one but because she was with family at the time they called an ambulance immediately and she was in the hospital within 30 minutes. She has made a good recovery. If she had been lying on the floor of an enclosed toilet for hours before anyone found her it would have been a different story.

As for being followed by a guy, if the toilet is fully enclosed and he's allowed in the surrounding area, he only needs seconds to follow you into the toilet and lock you in there. That's much easier than if he has to go into a women's toilet where he isn't allowed to be and hope that there is only one woman in there, and that nobody else comes in while he's busy attacking her.

I know these toilets already exist in many places. They are less safe for women than single sex toilets with regular cubicles.

lifeinthelastlane · 22/06/2023 21:13

ASGIRC · 22/06/2023 17:57

Do away with all the urinals and make every toilet a single fully enclosed cubicle (none of this gap under the door nonsense, and walls that dont go up to the ceiling) and voila!!! All toilets can be unisex and everyone can be happy!

Can have a communal sink area, that is also the waiting area.

Why would this make me happy? I'd rather jot use a toilet regularly used my men at all. Unless a lot or cleaning takes place! I certainly don't want to leave my cubicle to find a man washing right beside me. Separate toilets for men and women is just fine.

thebabessavedme · 22/06/2023 21:33

Just imagine though, if we were to have cubicles that could accommodate man sized women they would be designed so much better, you know, doors that open outwards, room to get in and shut the door without having to brush at least one leg against the toilet, perhaps room for a hook on the door, maybe enough actual space for one of those sanitary bins that are usually wedged between the wall and loo making it impossible to clean the floor properly etc. Utopia!

SqueakyDinosaur · 22/06/2023 21:55

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literalviolence · 22/06/2023 23:56

Blossomtoes · 22/06/2023 17:46

I’m doing nothing of the sort. Although frankly if this thread’s anything to go by I’m not sure I’m particularly enamoured to be a woman.

I think you are showing very well how women can have nothing in common except biology. I don't share your ethics. I'm not a far right woman hater. I believe in sexism. I believe in breaking down gender stereotypes. No reason why you'd think like me just because we both have female bodies.

However if the word woman actually means anything other than biology, you ate indeed telling loads of women that they're not women. You really can't have it both ways.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 23/06/2023 08:46

What is so magical about this piece of paper? You can't change sex. Neither the existence of the GRA or people calling me vile have ever convinced me that you can. Find another solution for vulnerable males.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 23/06/2023 08:48

What kind of due diligence do you think actually goes into granting a GRC? They've been granted to extremely dangerous rapists. The number of dangerous men with GRC is estimated to be disproportionately high for the few thousand people that it is.

FrancescaContini · 27/06/2023 14:12

Ereshkigalangcleg · 23/06/2023 08:48

What kind of due diligence do you think actually goes into granting a GRC? They've been granted to extremely dangerous rapists. The number of dangerous men with GRC is estimated to be disproportionately high for the few thousand people that it is.

Probably very little?

Florissante · 27/06/2023 14:28

None.

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