Is everyone on MN no contact with at least one of their family?

[Lentilweaver]

It seems like it sometimes. As all the advice is either go NC or do something so ill-advised you might as well go NC ( like refuse to answer the door to your MIL or present your mum for a bill for food she ate or something)

I am not NC with any of my family, btw. Yet. Though if DH snores any more, I might be.

I am no contact with more than one member of my immediate family. It's not fun, but there's no alternative.

I’m not, but I have a tiny family and thankfully they’re all lovely.

I’m NC with my mum’s brother and his children /grandchildren.

Not me.

Maybe the next question should be: did yoy go NC after advice on here?

I avoid my not so ‘d’ bro at all costs so I suppose virtually NC!
Love everyone else in my family though :)

NC with my dad but I have been since I was 12, so not due to advice from mumsnet. He was a terrible parent and I never felt a connection with him. I don't miss him and wouldn't care if I never saw him again.

I am but it wasn't my choice it was theirs. Its my Dad's sister. She's played games like this for years, she just cuts people off when you don't do what she wants. In my Dad's life she cut him off 3 times then played the bereaved sister when he died - she had been NC with him for 13 years previous to his death. She's only in contact with my sister now - infact they have gone out today together.

I'm not bothered about it as she is toxic as! We have been better off without her polluting our lives. I've warned my sister but she feels sorry for her as nobody else will speak to her (again all her own doing)

I was NC with my mum for the last six years of her life. Yes, people on here advised me to go NC but they’d told me this for years before I acted. No regrets.

I am very low contact with siblings and siblings in law ... we may meet up every couple of years at a funeral, no major fallings out just absolutely nothing in common.

No, thankfully I haven’t had any family circumstances in which it’s been necessary to have no contact with any of them. I feel nothing but empathy for those who have had to make that choice though, and I’m sure the decision is rarely taken lightly.

I'm as LC with my brother as possible. I have to see him sometimes. Unfortunately.

Looking at other parts of my family, some people make themselves utterly miserable and ruin their lives continuing to allow themselves to be abused.

And it wasn't MN, it was a counsellor who told me I was allowed to care about myself.

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Not my choice.
Still can't believe sometimes.
But just have to respect their decision.

I’m NC with my whole family. Like a previous poster, my only regret is not doing it sooner.

There comes a time when you realise the people who are supposed to be supportive to you are actually incredibly damaging. If that’s not something you can understand then you have been blessed with a good family

NC with all my aunts and uncles, and their children (from my mothers side) since I had DC. Not after advice on here though, just my own choice. They’re a bunch of racist, sexist druggies and thieves and I didn’t want my DC around them.

I'm no contact with one of my brothers after years of abuse from him. It's not a decision that most people take lightly.

I have good, close and loving relationships with my own parents, my sibling and his family and with my in-laws. Which makes me very lucky and also means that I very rarely post about family stuff on MN because I just don't have much to say. You're always going to hear more from people who are struggling in that area of their life, it doesn't mean it's representative.

I have no contact with my parents. My father abused me and my mum knew, let it happen and defends him still. I lost some other family due to it.

No, not on anyone’s advice here.

Thankfully I have a lovely partner and a very close group of friends.

I think the tone of you OP is a bit judgemental OP. If you have good family, be thankful of that.

No, we are not. We do have people in the family who are NC with each other though which means the rest of us can't have family parties etc without it being really awkward as 'x' won't go if 'y' is there and gets annoyed they were invited.

I'd rather not be.

I think it must be rather lovely to have grown up being safe and loved. But I wasn't, the only ones who ever gave at least some indication of vaguely liking me are dead, most of those were actual animals - the four legged kind - in any case...and there we are (shrugs).

I'd never advise somebody to do it lightly, as it can be a barren, cold existence at times - but on the whole, it is infinitely less desolate a place than when you're in the midst of it - and it can give space for good, loving, genuinely kind people to come into your life.

No.

I've got a large extended family in all corners of the world and I've drifted apart from a couple of cousins etc but it's not deliberate and I'd be more than happy to make contact again but I'm in contact with all my immediate family.

Well I've never even met my father, but that's not through choice. In contact with everyone in my family, though not particularly close with most of them.

I know it's something Mumsnet is mocked for, suggesting NC so frequently and easily.

I don't know if I was influenced by what I'd read on Mumsnet when I went no contact (16 years ago) with a family member, but it helped me reconcile myself afterwards with that decision. I'd been badly physically abused by the person in question, as a child, too, so I think it was long overdue.

NC with two. They behaved appallingly over several years and after being given many chances I finally said 'enough'. There was some push-back, like ambushing me in the supermarket to try and engineer a 'little chat' and gatecrashing a party I was hosting to which they were not invited (we just ignored them and they slunk out after about ten minutes of guests giving them the side-eye)

The peace is marvellous.

I wouldn't say I am strictly no contact. Buy I do t bother with a few cousins. Will say hi if I see them. But that's it.

But non that I refuse to have any and all contact with.