Please help me navigate this situation with my DS's girlfriend

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Going to a festival in a few weeks. DS 13 wants to bring his GF 14 too. I've agreed as long as it's ok with her parents. They've only been dating a short while, but friends beforehand. Apparently GF's Mum worries a lot and GF has asked that I don't tell her that they're dating as she won't let her go. I've refused. Said I'm not happy lying. DS distraught. I've ruined the festival for him blah blah.

Are you going for the day or to stay overnight?

He's been crying and begging me not to say anything, GF will tell her Mum they're together after the festival.

I've made the right call though haven't I? My fuddled perimenopause brain makes me second guess myself sometimes.

We're going for 3 nights. All sleeping together in one big tent.

Nothing to navigate here, you won't lie and if he varies in with that shit towards you he won't even be going...

Carries on

Urgh

I wish she'd never told me I couldn't tell her Mum, then I would be blissfully unaware!

At their ages you have to be the grownup, no way should you be lying here.

Stick to your guns

Why urgh?

Cheers @Vintagecreamandcottagepie. I needed to hear that!

You do need to tell her Mum. Put yourself in her Mum's shoes -she needs to know the facts.

YADNBU - I don't think you should lie to her mum, but... would it even come up? Isn't the conversation with her parents along the lines of "We'd be happy to take Jane with us to the festival of that's ok with you?"

@planthelpadvice I'm not sure it would come up. The fact that she's said I can't tell her makes me uncomfortable though.

You are doing the right thing. He's just angry because he isn't getting the result he wanted.

Ah ok - just seen the update about it being 3 days.

If they’ve nothing to hide then they’ve no need to lie. As a minor she’ll be under your care for the three days so they and you should be truthful with her mum. Unfair of the kids to expect you to lie. Your tent your rules!

Oh I see @highlandspooce, typo!

She needs to tell her Mum herself

Lying and hiding things will make Mum more not less strict

"Your tent your rules " I like that!

I put a biscuit at my auto correct rather then an embarrassed face

@EineReiseDurchDieZeit very true.

Yup I totally get that, especially as it's a few nights away not just a one day event.

God teens are so bloody dramatic aren't they?
I think I may end up going to the festival on my own.

I was really looking forward to us going together. I knew he'd get a bit bored just the two of us, but this has now turned into a stressfest!

Thanks for your replies.