End of a 6yr olds party- no party bag

[Just4this1]

NC! Quick one- end of a party, nothing handed out to the children- (money not an issue)- would you think rude or perfectly fine?

on the subject of a child's birthday party, well yes... why wouldn't you. It makes like easier and happier to concentrate on the kids, not on coming up with the best photo for your social media, or the most uptight attitude on MN 😂

It is unusual but I don’t find it rude at all. They may not have the funds for favor bags to give out, they may not want to give things that will end up in the trash, several possibilities.

It could even be that it is a new trend to not give out treat bags at children’s birthday parties. Maybe the party was last minute and no time to get bags and fillers bought and sorted. So no, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with not doing it and no need to give heads up. Because treat bags are an extra anyway, and shouldn’t be expected even though it’s the usual done thing.

Probably better that they learn how to deal with disappointment and that things don't always go to plan? Build some resilience.

My dc would be disappointed. It’s a part of the party and they get so excited about it!

We went to a party and the host parent hadn't bought enough party bags. They'd given them to siblings of children who weren't even invited and didn't save them party bags for the kids who had been invited. I thought that was bad show tbh probably because I know the parent is wealthy and a taker but incredibly stingy! She was very unapologetic to the kids who didn't receive one and the whole party was very adult orientated but she isn't particularly fond of children either.

We used to be given a piece of the birthday cake in a paper napkin. You weren't allowed to eat any of the birthday cake at the party. We didn't 'crowd round' - we chattered on, but queued politely!

My mother wouldn't let me eat in the street so I had to carry it home 'intact'. (Even from age 6 or 7, I would walk with a friend or alone.) It would be a squashed mess by the time I arrived at our door, the jammy sponge flecked with bits of disintegrating serviette.

I’d be relieved!

I already stated that my kids were never that bothered about the bags.

That might make them unusual, but I'm glad they weren't spoiled little buggers who 'rated' the parties on whether they were given one or not.

I detest party bags with a passion so a party without one would be a breath of fresh air.

I would think you were a bit up yourself if you didn't give out party bags. Especially if you were the type to wang on about plastic crap.

Blimey how greedy/spoilt is your child that at 5/6 years old they have 'expectations'? Most kids are happy with what they are given!

It's a party! You don't "expect" anything really.

I think it's great. Children need to learn that they don't get prizes for routine socializing. The companionship, not the loot, is supposed to be the aim.

Not to mention the adverse environmental impact of all that plastic tat and crap that just ends up in the rubbish anyway.

Party bags started to be a thing while my DC were young. Good job, we rarely could afford a party. Instead, a few friends came for tea and a slice of cake. Same as we had as children in the 70s.
I'd big up the no bags, and then if a bag is produced, it's a big surprise.

I couldn't be bothered with party bags but sweet cones go down really well! I get them made £1.25 a cone. Game changer.

Exactly. Talk about entitled.

Sorry just saw you said money no issue. But there are other possible reasons.
I think it’s perfectly ok not to do treat bags.

Personally I think the fun prep of giving the party is putting together the little toys and treats and putting them into a cute little bag or shaped container that matches the theme like a rocket ship. And yes a little plastic is usually PRT of it, but you can get little wooden toys instead, there are lots of different ways of doing these things.

I had one kid this year at DS birthday (they were 6 year olds rising 7) trying to get into the party bags on a table to pick ‘the best one’ and then complained at me because he didn’t have the same colour cupcake icing and sweets as the others (I’d bought a mix of colours and flavours in multipacks to go in them) he also complained he didn’t like any of the party food - I’d gone out of my way to ask all the parents well in advance about allergies and dislikes

he’s bottom of my list to be invited back this year!

I’m not competing at all 😆
My kids are past the party bag stage, and I instagram nothing.
I’m just bemused at the handing out of seeds as if any child would really dance with joy having seeds rather than sweets.
The rare child who’s never been sent into the garden with a 50p packet of seeds at home, would maybe find them interesting, I suppose.

These stories are hilarious 😂

Party bags need to end.

So many posters have posted about how anxious they get at producing the perfect party bag.

Long May this continue.

Best party I went to was the party with the "stunt cake" this was a beautiful cake made by a very skilled baker which party mum proudly brought out to sing, photographed for the socials before boxing up to take home 🤣. My kids waited nearby hopeful before I noticed it'd been boxed up. They were so confused as was I 🤣 "so we aren't getting cake" "no kids that was just for show, they aren't sharing". They didn't even cut up a crappy cosco job 😆, nothing. Still makes me laugh now when the cake comes out if it looks professional I go ooooo is it a stunt cake for us to look at or will they cut it, edge of your seat stuff 😆.

They are just filled with shite for landfill tbf

I genuinely think we might have been at the same party! Was it in a town beginning with B in SE England?!

Anyone who expects a party bag would be grabby. Certainly not rude for the host not to do party bags - as a guest I would be glad.

A piece of cake or balloon handed out is a good sign that the party is over.