End of a 6yr olds party- no party bag

[Just4this1]

NC! Quick one- end of a party, nothing handed out to the children- (money not an issue)- would you think rude or perfectly fine?

It’s rude.

I used to give a book, a pencil, rubber and a piece of cake to take home. Easy to do with no plastic tat. I think most young children would expect one.

100%

Couldn't understand the idea that it's rude. I'd applaude them!

But as a pp has pointed out, you are not the guest! You are the guest’s chauffeur/chauffeuse!

Are you 5? 😂

some people need to chill and stop competing with the Joneses.

It wouldn't occur to me not to give party bag and a slice of birthday cake, but I wouldn't waste time or energy over them either.

It was not 🤣 omg there's more than 1 out there that does this?! To be fair it made me laugh, lots. It was such a bizarre thing to do (in my opinion!), I've told others about this when at other parties as the cake is revealed and was worried I'd outed myself because surely this isn't a thing 😆!

Hated the whole party bag crap. So glad my kids have grown out of it all

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Haven't RTFT so apologies if this has already been posted.

I've never done party bags as always collections of crap which costs loads to put together for 30+ kids! Do hand em slice of Costco cake on the way out though

Mumsnet is obsessed with ‘rudeness’ it’s up there with actual crimes.

TBH I couldn’t give a shit most of the time if some numpty thinks I’m rude. Their opinion 🤷🏻‍♀️.

OP I’m assuming this is a reverse, no one normal cared honestly.

Bloody hell some of you lot are miserable gits!

A little kid is not 'entitled' or some sort of spoilt brat if they are surprised/disappointed that a thing that has in their limited experience, happened at every party they've been to, does not happen...

But hey, to ensure resilience, absolutely zero expectations, make sure they don't get too much sugar, or fat or fun...

Just have the kids turn up, hand over a (brown paper wrapped) gift that can either be a book or something made of wood (and unpainted). All sit in a circle, say happy birthday, then get up and piss off back home.

No need for decorations, party frocks, games, music, birthday tea, party bags...

Neat, simple, educational, cheap and quick. Perfect eh!

I remember party bags and im 43, they were ace. Lump of cake, bag of sweets, bottle of bubbles, hurrah!

😂😂😂

Thats just weird. Was it actually cake or made out of polystyrene?

No worries. I think some people choose to do
this to be eco friendly. I’d be glad DC got invited to a party and had a nice time.

I'd be delighted as party bags have been getting out of hand for at least 3 decades, and are generally pointless. It was bad enough in my childhood that a 'tradition' built up of expectation that the cake wouldn't be eaten at the party meal but sent home in a (party) bag.

A cake usually home cooked and iced lovingly by my mother at great expense of time and money and more generally by (mostly) mothers or grandmas but perhaps dad or another family member. Occasionally from a bakery. Costing more because other sweet items were needed for the party spread, and meaning the actual cake often got squished and not eaten 😪

The escalation of party bags in terms expectations and the money and amount of unnecessary content, often plastic tat or now replaced by more eco-friendly but more expensive tat. Not a good solution. Well done to whoever bucked the trend and spent their budget on the actual party, no more no less.

If they have something to take home, that's a party bag as far as I am concerned.
Or did they eat all the sweets and doughnuts at the party?

Nah, it's usually just plastic shite anyway.

Funnily enough they go with the flower pots, are cheap to buy and environmentally friendly. So they aren't actually party bags, but OP already said she meant end of party gifts generally.

@originalglazedsingle
I work in environmental projects, and climate change is a fact. The world needs to make a link with rising temperatures, floods, and the level of consumption. A bit of plastic that is going to the bin in a day or two is unjustifiable.
It won't be seen as "normal" and justified in a kids party in a few years time, the same as before seat belts weren't seen as the dine thing 40 years ago and now its the norm.
A book is perfectly good I agree.

Haha, as a child my nursery had a stunt birthday cake: a biscuit tin covered in paper curls with holes punched in the top for candles. We’d all gather round, sing happy birthday, then no cake and then the next day the birthday child would be gone – having moved up to big school or the next age group room. Very confusing.

@EarthlyNightshade they took their toy home and some sweet bags from the cart. There was still one child who got his dad to ask if there were party bags, to which I said they were free to take sweets or a doughnut home. I’d hate to think they were disappointed with that.

I wouldn't think anything of it.

Ah, that’s not on!

Rude to expect anything
Not really if a child goes to lots of parties and they all end with a party bag or a piece of cake then of course they will expect it.

Absolutely fine. A slice of cake wrapped in a serviette was good enough for in my day