End of a 6yr olds party- no party bag

[Just4this1]

NC! Quick one- end of a party, nothing handed out to the children- (money not an issue)- would you think rude or perfectly fine?

It must be so confusing moving the UK and having to deal with all of these rules! I would never have guessed that people would expect time to prepare their children for a lack of party bags or consider me rude because I didn't recognise their importance.

Why, do you want a load of sugar and cheap tat?

We never gave out party bags.
Although everyone went home with a piece of birthday cake and extra pieces if they had siblings.
Always thought it was nonsense. Apologies to anyone who does this. Each to their own.

Tbh I'd see it as a good opportunity to teach children that they shouldn't expect to be given things and that a party and having fun with their friends to celebrate is lovely and more than enough.

However, if you are not the host you have no idea on whether anyone else can easily afford party bags. Outwardly having a lot of money (ie big house etc), does not mean at this very moment it's an expense they can spare so YABU for that.

But if you are the host and it's normal in your social circle, I would probably mention it to the parents beforehand so they can talk to their kids on my first point. Or else you'll likely get a few 6 years olds asking loudly where their party bag is which would upset the birthday child.

A kid whining about not getting a party bag is either a brat, or born to parents who haven't started to teach manners.

Then they’ll be told 🤷🏻‍♀️
Why is it seen as a major problem that some brat will demand to know why there are no party bags?

I wouldn’t consider this rude at all and think rude is a strong word in this case. A child takes a gift because it’s the child’s birthday and they have been invited to a party and given food plus often a fun activity.

I don’t buy a gift for my child to take to a party that they’ve enjoyed, expecting something else on top of that in return personally.

There sure are some freaks out there and they think it’s normal not to get a party bag at the end of a party 🎈

Not everyone gives party cheap tat party bags. I give paint your own ceramic flower pots with seeds and/or a book. It's about party favours generally.

When did “seeds” take off as the thing to fill your party bag with?

I'd prefer not to be given 1 or give 1.I hate plastic tat.

For my daughters birthday last year we made everyone who came a charm bracelet with their name on it using a set given to her the Christmas before.

Not going to lie was the most fidgety awful things to do but that girls loved them and didn't notice there was no party tat given, just a slice of cake and a wee party cone filled with millions and jelly sweets

Not having a party bag is so lower middle class.

On the other hand parents who detest party bags and bin them before the child has even had a look in it are joy sucking fun police that think that anything that they haven't bought is horrible tat and must be destroyed.

To be honest I'm thrilled when we don't come away with a bag of plastic bits and bobs or yet more sweets. We attended one where they gave out a book at the end which I thought was lovely.

The last birthday party my 3 year-old went there were no party bags.
Honestly I didn't even think about that when we left.
The dad did give my son a cup of pretzels, as he asked for a couple of pretzels as we were going.

I hate a party bag with a passion. I can't wait until they're old enough for the madness to end

I hope it’s the new trend!

parties are expensive and this expectation that yet more money is spent on tat that is destroying the environment is tedious and misplaced.

That’s a leap.

I do agree that they are full of tat and a faff, however, my 6yo would be so disappointed if there wasn’t one. Same with my other dc. They don’t have to be expensive, they just love getting one. The last one we got had stickers, a couple of little bags of sweets and a cupcake. Not at all expensive but they were delighted. The way the dc all crowd round at the end waiting for their bag, I’m guessing there would be loads of disappointed kids.

Hurray 🥳🥳
Well done to that mum! I don’t understand why party bags are a thing tbh!

What are people considering as partybags?
Can it be:
1/ a piece of cake wrapped in a napkin
2/ a book
3/ a sweet cone
4/ a bag full of plastic tat

To me a party bag can be any of the above 4.

Which ones are people objecting to?

There was no such thing as party bags when I was growing up.

I would applaud you.

some people like to grow things, why is it a big deal? It's common enough.

Hurrah! About time the bag of crap that’s mushed up cake and plastic that only goes to landfill is finally over.

party bags became a thing when my DC were young. I never did them. A balloon and a piece of cake if they wanted to take their piece home and a thanks for coming is all that’s really needed.