DP doesn't get poo cramps

[addler]

What's wrong with him? What's wrong with his body?

I'm not the weird one, right? Most people if they eat something their body doesn't entirely agree with get a crampy-feeling until it's all out right? Mine is after anything with too much dairy or fish and chips/other greasy takeaways.

He thinks he's the normal one and I'm the odd one. But I've never heard of anyone just not having poo cramps?! Are there people who just... need to have a poo? And that's it? Every time?

As I make yet another trip to the toilet I am awash with envy. Also I should probably just stop eating chocolate.

I'm with you @addler I often get poo cramps. Actually a few times a month, maybe even a week. Just assumed I have a slightly sensitive stomach but reading this thread makes me wonder if it's more than that 🤔

I get a bit crampy after some foods, battered fish is one of them but it only happens sometimes so i still eat it occasionally. I used to get pains in my stomach every morning, not cramps exactly but they stopped when I gave up Porridge and cereal, I just have toast now, no pains.

Look, absolutely if it's daily and causing distress, see the GP.

But the odd mild cramp here and there maybe after eating something usual/spicy is just an intolerence and if it's not effecting your life doesn't need a trip to the GP for diagnosis? That's where some people on here are heading...

It is not normal to have cramps/be in pain on a regular basis. That is your body telling you something is wrong so your DH is the default one here and not you. I have only ever had cramps like you describe when I've had food posioning....so twice.

I do get that it's not something you often discuss though so if it's normal for you, you don't realise it isn't usual. My sister had this, terrible cramps when she had too much dairy and turns out she has an intolerance. It took her til her 30s to realise that most people don't get cramps and stomach pain if they eat cheese.

I'd get checked out OP.

I'm just trying to point out, the odd poo cramp alone now and then does not need to be diagnosed!

I'm another with IBS. As soon as I eat anything I get an ache and cramping on the left and bloat up like a balloon. Then a few hours later...

I've only had such cramps once. I got food poisoning about 30 years ago. Otherwise, no, not normal for me.

Not had poo cramps unless I've got a stomach bug or eaten something that really doesn't agree with me.

If I've gotta go, I get a normal 'poo' sensation, but not cramps

Weird that you thought your husband who isn't in pain on a regular basis was the one who wasnt normal

Did you really think that bodies have evolved to make eating cause pain?

I don't get poo cramps. I also only go about once a week, twice sometimes if I'm on my period. Everyone's different 🤷

It doesn't need to be causing "distress". OP gets pain and discomfort after eating perfectly ordinary foods. This is not normal (unless the problems only happen with lactose-containing foods, in which case, for people of most ethnicities, it's normal and common to be lactose intolerant). Abnormal digestion should be investigated. In combination with known deficiencies, it should definitely be investigated.

I wasn't "distressed" by my gastrointestinal symptoms, so I didn't push for more investigation after being told it was IBS, but my bones were pretty bloody distressed by the deficiencies caused by malabsorption. I'll never get that bone mass back.

OP thought her gut symptoms were normal, and has minimised them like you're doing, and it sounds like that means she hasn't given the doctors all the relevant information they need, as it may (or may not) be linked to her deficiencies. B12 deficiency can cause permanent nerve damage.

This "don't bother the doctor" shit is getting really dangerous.

What the OP has described is not ‘part and parcel of life’. Maybe it’s not IBS, but that, among a lot of other conditions, is a possibility. Advising someone who’s experiencing these kinds of problems not to see their GP goes against all medical advice - even if it’s not serious, the sooner the OP knows what it is and gets whatever appropriate treatment is necessary, the better. The starting point is the GP - that’s what they’re there for.

It’s you.

You have IBS / food intolerances. What you’re describing is absolutely textbook.

I only get them if I've had a stomach bug or held it in for too long. I get them holding in farts too.

Yep, sorry. Not "normal" (it's normal for lots of us, but only because there's something not quite right!)

I have endometriosis, coeliac disease, and my stomach empties at about a third of normal pace apparently so yes I do get odd poo symptoms but I'm aware it's not "normal"!

No, it isn't normal and I am surprised you thought being in pain every day was normal.

I was 17 when I first went to see a doctor as I felt sick and had pain after I ate and needed quick trips to the loo. I don't think I asked others, I just knew this wasn't normal.

I usually just 'know' (feel) when I need to do a dump. What that feeling is depends on what I have eaten recently. A recent hot curry might make me feel it more strongly. You are very unreasonable (and maybe a bit ignorant?) if you think there is something 'wrong' with your DP. Or there is an issue maybe: is everybody 'wrong' whose body doesn't work exactly like yours?

I don't particularly have it, it's so rare that if I do I assume it's a slight bug.

Sounds like IBS.

Unless I have a bug, unless I need a poo I just know I need a poo, I don't feel like I have a dicky tummy or anything.

But by the first time you posted, telling OP that it was part and parcel of everyday life and there was no need to go running off to the GP, she had already said that she was in pain every day and had had consistently low B12 and iron levels.

Sure, that's not enough to diagnose IBS specifically, but it absolutely is NOT part and parcel of everyday life and it absolutely DOES suggest a visit to the GP.

MN does have functonality where you can click to see all the OP's posts on a thread to date before you comment on it.

I only get cramps if I have a bug or have food poisoning. If I've just eaten too much, or something that is too rich, my problem tends to be reflux if anything rather than cramps.

Sometimes if I've eaten too much fat I get more of a need to poo.

Or if I eat a massive amount of food, I can have a slight impaction.

Did you even bother to read the OP's posts? She stated, across several posts, and all before your first response on this thread, that she experiences some sort of gastrointestinal pain every day, that it's particularly bad after dairy and after greasy foods (so not just a lactose intolerance), and that she's already been identified as deficient in iron and B12, to the point where the GP has had to ask if she follows an extremely restrictive diet.

And you pop on sneering at the idea of "running to the GP" and talking about "the odd poo cramp" (which still isn't something that should be ignored — sure, if it's only a very occasional, passing discomfort, in response to an extreme deviation in type of quantity from your usual diet, it's probably not in need of investigation, but that's not what anyone has been posting about). Just what's needed for someone who already downplays their symptoms.

The people who need to hear messaging about restricting unnecessary use of the NHS are not going to pay attention to you.

It's the people who are already reluctant to bother the doctor, waste the hospital's time, etc. — the people who are already worried it would be silly to get their concerning symptoms investigated because they can live with the problem and it's not serious enough to see the doctor about, who feel embarrassed that friends, family or professionals will think they're overreacting, who are more inclined to carry on and cope and say they haven't got time — who you're going to discourage by scoffing at the idea of seeing a doctor about GI pain, and who may end up missing their chance to deal with a serious health problem before it gets more dangerous.

Most of my collected information comes from family members, but I thought this was just a normal difference between men and women. Multiple generations of women in my family all have frequent stomach pains related to defecation.

Sorry, *in type or quantity