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Worst mistake you ever made - regrets ?

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Kay286 · 16/05/2023 23:26

What’s the worse mistake you ever made ? Or things you would go back and change and in life ?
I’ll go first ! I met a guy on holiday when I was 19 , supposed to be a holiday fling only … I ended up moving 400 miles away from my parents to be near him. Pregnant 7 months later and he turned out to be a absolute waster and an alcoholic narcissist.
I got out when my daughter was 3 and as it turned out my life has shaped up pretty amazing !!….. but boy if I could have a word with my 19 year old self I would ! It’s meant I’ve spent my whole life not living close to my mum and I’ve made peace with it now but it does make me sad. I also constantly feel guilty I gave my daughter such a shit father which had a horrible impact on her life for a long time.

I met my husband when she was 3 and he is an amazing dad to her and we have a great life now so I do wonder if it’s destiny but I was so silly !

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Cadburysucks · 12/10/2023 22:43

I regret not ending my engagement to my husband when red flags appeared. I would never have had disabled children. Should have bought a flat that I saw and liked for a good price.

TheBerry · 04/10/2024 08:40

Bunny44 · 18/05/2023 10:37

Me and my brother regret not being more vocal about my narcisisstic uncle's controlling and cohersive behaviour towards our lovely grandad in the years before he died. My uncle deliberately caused family rifts to ensure that my grandad left everything to him but this called great pain and sadness for my grandad as my uncle cut him off from the family and stopped us from visiting regularly. He made is seem like it's because he cared about my grandad, but it always sat uneasily with us grandchildren which we tentatively voiced a few times.

It culminated with our uncle lying to us about our grandad being in hospital for weeks before he died as he was worried we would convince him to change him will, when the least of our concerns was his money.

It horrifies me to this day that my grandad died alone thinking that his children and grandchildren didn't care. My grandad was a lovely man who deserved much more in his final hours.

That is horrifying. I wish I hadn’t read it tbh, but sorry that happened to your family. I hope your grandad knew you all loved him really.

TheGoddessMinerva · 04/10/2024 12:26

I regret few things in life; I should probably regret more of them to be honest. My main ones are:
Staying with my XH longer than I should have done; I could have had more time with my current partner. I put his feelings before mine, and that was an error.
Not losing weight sooner; I’m now over 50 and it is creeping ever further up.
Being too busy to speak to a friend who was suicidal. I didn’t know that at the time, Inwas at work, and I was up to my ears in work and family stress, but I wish I had taken the time nevertheless.

On the flip side, I have regular communications with an ex who still thinks I was The One for him, and he regrets his decision to split up when I went to university. I think it was entirely the right decision, and he wasn’t right for me. I would never have made him happy, and he certainly wouldn’t have made me happy (to mis-quote Jane Austen). We have always been friends, but I’m glad we are nothing more. So for all those regretting letting The One slip through their fingers, you lives may well have turned out for the best.

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