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Why has there not been an uprising against the Tories?

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RosieLeaLovesTea · 23/04/2023 13:36

Inspired why the what is really going. On in our schools, well Laura …. Thread

why has there not been an uprising against the story government?

the things going on in schools, the level of SEND needs and teachers leaving in droves.

the state of the NHS - staff overwhelmed and completely demoralised. It’s on its knees.

strikes across many public sector services for decent pay due to inflation and cost of living.

their Austerity policy has destroyed public services.

I work in social services and I see it every day. And several u turns on policy for social care - the cap on care costs, the reversal of the NI increase which was meant to provide funding for NHS and social care.

lied to about their behaviour during covid.

it just goes on

surely the whole of the UK needs a wake up call and needs to do something…

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Icedlatteplease · 24/04/2023 14:58

GremlinBlinds · 24/04/2023 13:37

"Children can't go on holiday with their family in school time and those that cant attend through medical/sen difficulties are punished through attendance awards, but teachers can go on strike and its OK? I will be in next strike day helping Year 11s prepare for their core subject GCSEs....."

These two things have absolutely nothing to do with each other. No idea why you think they do.

"Nurses were heroes because we care, but not when we are going on strike because striking is more important than the people who will die as a result of the strikes. And the problem is some nurses are heroes but if you've ever been in a ward with nurses who would rather sit and talk about how hard worked they are whilst ignoring someone's buzzer or failing to give pain killing medication, you develop a little cynicism. NHS simply shouldn't be allowed to strike."

Again, what are you thinking is happening? Nurses are striking because it is now such a shit prospect for a career that we have a huge deficit in nursing posts that the current workers are leaving because it is so dreadful. And the NHS can't recruit enough new nurses because it's a degree course where you get into debt and then that is not rewarded when you qualify because of poor pay and overwork which will never improve because of poor pay and overwork. Its not that nurses are greedy and lazy, if that was the case the government and YOU wouldn't care if they were striking because they wouldn't be missed. You're being extremely offensive and very, very unintelligent (you said you're intelligent which is why I mentioned it) to suggest that nurses think striking is more important than people dying 🙄

"I'm poor, intelligent work in a school and have extensive dealings with the NHS/ SEN services through caring for DS" then you go on to say "There's a hell of a lot of waste in all the public services especially CAMHS"

What waste do you think is happening? Particularly in CAMHS as you mentioned them?

They do conflate because the mixed messages they send to the children we teach. You can't take time off school when you need, but we can when we need. But that's my value system. Other people can and do feel different. You can experience the same things and come to different political conclusions.

If nurses didn't think striking was more important than people dying they wouldn't be striking. To me it is that simple. I couldn't take any action that meant people directly died because of my choices.

The points may not conflate to you, but that's the point. People have differing views. Calling people unintelligent will not further your political position.

Neither nursing nor teaching are inherently poorly paid. But housing and power are significantly overpriced. There's no point raising wages if actually you don't tackle the fundamental problems driving inflation. You're simply going to need more wage rises next year and the year after. Neither political party has had any successful dealing with either housing or power production.

From what I've seen CAMHs do an awful lot of pontificating and not a lot of actual treatment. If they treated efficiently at the start, they wouldn't waste so many appointments. I have never had a referral going through effectively, every referral I have seen has required at least 2-3 hours wasted NHS admin hours. If GPs and dentists could simply book the service they are making the referral for patients would know how long they have to wait and there would be no chasing and rechasing referrals. I haven't dealt with a service that hasn't at some point berating me for failing to turn up to an appointment they hadn't ever notified me about. Ive had services fail to recognise that they have failed to effectively medically screen patients that were referred to them to the point they actually would put the patient at high risk of death had they continued the appointment they had booked. The patients treatment was then delayed for an additional 6 months while the appropriate clinic was found, and the treatment took over 6 months as opposed to the 2 appointments originally reqired. Kids with autism need a fairly routine list of interventions, if we had a physio and OT that run these in school on a whole school/class basis we wouldn't need so many individual appointments/referrals, also many problems would be picked up before they were problems. If all desks in schools were designed with sloped tops all children would benefit from a better writing position. If we incorporated pilates into school instead of PE a number of physio referrals could be avoided. There is just so so much waste in the NHS.

With regard to both nursing and education we need significantly improved facilitates for dealing with mental health/asd/adhd. Many many teaching hours are lost because of inadequate management of ADHD/SN in the classroom. Camhs and Ed psych need to be in schools dealing proactively, the fact they are not is causing just so much waste. Nurses generally have no sodding clue how to deal with mental health within a healthcare setting, if I've seen one person dealt with empathically I've seen two occasions where a patient was dealt with nothing short of callous disregard. Things like multi bay wards are so hopelessly outdated.

I could go on.... at present Neither Labour nor Conservative represent my actual politics. But many of my political principles are not routed in the two political parties who values where decided in entirely different eras. I dont think much of capitalism, feel strongly about home ownership, dont believe in open boarders, feel strongly about the merits of the benefits system and am a teacher who fully believes we overeducate our young people who mostly would benefit from being able to work and earn a living.

Previous elections I have spoiled my vote.

I do however have a decent local Conservative mp who is active in SN matters and helped hugely in my dealings with CAMHS and social services. The fact is that whilst elections are run on party politics, I am actually voting for a decent local candidate whose means actually I might just end up voting Conservative anyway. Just another example of how the political system just doesn't work.

GremlinBlinds · 24/04/2023 15:07

Icedlatteplease · 24/04/2023 13:59

Oh I'm not saying they shouldn't have bailed out the banks... just really the banking industry should have seen greater regulation and fiscal responsibility for the mess after. Greater regulation of the futures markets might have been a good start....

Hmmmmm...... tbh whilst I agree superficially regarding public services many of the subsequent problems were also ushered in by that same Labour government and some if the present NHS/Education difficulties are as much.

Labour/Tony Blair oversaw mass immigration which led to the rise in UKIP, lowering of wages and therefore ultimately Brexit. Labour's working tax credits led to the expectation that companies should able to pay a subsistence wage that the govenment will supplement.

At the same time neither the Conservative nor Labour government could predict the rise in SEN rates or mental health difficulties and the impact that would have on services. Whilst you can look at the crisis in the NHS as purely being down to underfunding I really don't think it is. The NHS was built in an age where people died of cancer, we simply couldnt keep many people s alive like we can now and we have ever increasing rates of dementia. Rates of SN in children are rising because frankly, genetics is a bitch. The NHS and care simply simply isn't designed to cope with the challenges it now faces.

I think many services don't work in an integrated way which increases long term costs in health, social care and education. Medical Interventions that should be normalised in education for all children (because all children benefit mildly from them but it may be the difference between a child with SN be in or out of school). Educationally psychologists and CAMHs should be in every school full time.

You can throw money at a problem (that many families can't actually afford) but if your throwing money at something that is too old fashioned to work for the challenges of modern medicine what's the point?

I think the Tories are absolute assholes but I agree that the need for mental health/neurodiversity help from the NHS is unprecedented and likely not to be the fault of the Tories but other societal issues and not purely genetics.

I work in an NHS trust area where the decision has been made by the community paediatrics service commissioned to assess Autism have said they will only assess if there are high levels of risk like possible school exclusion, social services involvement with the family or criminal justice involvement with the DC.

Because in the last 2 years there has been a 350% increase for Autism assesment referrals. So the waiting list was getting into 2-3 years.

And all the parents on MN are understandably upset that their not high risk children can't get an assessment on the NHS .

But the NHS will say they a) could not fulfil all of those assessments unless they get a huge influx of staff but also...b) it's understood that ASC has been overlooked in the past for decades but it's been pretty prominent in the public consciousness for the last decade or so at least.

So it's extremely unlikely that there has been a 350% increase in children with ASC in 2 years which perfectly coincides with covid.

And its much more likely that the majority of parents/schools are dealing with covid effects rather than there being a previously hidden epidemic of neurodevelopmental disorders.

But that IS the kind of thing that the NHS is expected to deal with that could not have been anticipated by any government.

DownNative · 24/04/2023 15:29

14. Devolved power to the Scottish Parliament.

15. Devolved power to the Welsh Assembly.

Labour's idea with devolution was, in the words of George Robertson Shadow Secretary Of State For Scotland, meant to "Devolution will kill Nationalism stone dead".

Instead, Labour messed up big time, weakened the Union and strengthened Nationalism. Tony Blair later admitted:

"I did feel that we made a mistake on devolution.

We should have understood that, when you change the system of government so that more power is devolved, you need to have ways of culturally keeping England, Scotland and Wales very much in sync with each other. We needed to work even stronger for a sense of UK national identity."

So, would you REALLY count devolution as one of Labour's successes?!

I wouldn't. It certainly did NOT go the way Labour wanted...did it? No. And devolution was a major part of Blair's Labour's first term manifesto pledges.

A complete failure, unfortunately.

How many things in your list turned out to be significant failures by Labour?

Interested in this thread?

Then you might like threads about this subject:

Icedlatteplease · 24/04/2023 15:29

GremlinBlinds · 24/04/2023 15:07

I think the Tories are absolute assholes but I agree that the need for mental health/neurodiversity help from the NHS is unprecedented and likely not to be the fault of the Tories but other societal issues and not purely genetics.

I work in an NHS trust area where the decision has been made by the community paediatrics service commissioned to assess Autism have said they will only assess if there are high levels of risk like possible school exclusion, social services involvement with the family or criminal justice involvement with the DC.

Because in the last 2 years there has been a 350% increase for Autism assesment referrals. So the waiting list was getting into 2-3 years.

And all the parents on MN are understandably upset that their not high risk children can't get an assessment on the NHS .

But the NHS will say they a) could not fulfil all of those assessments unless they get a huge influx of staff but also...b) it's understood that ASC has been overlooked in the past for decades but it's been pretty prominent in the public consciousness for the last decade or so at least.

So it's extremely unlikely that there has been a 350% increase in children with ASC in 2 years which perfectly coincides with covid.

And its much more likely that the majority of parents/schools are dealing with covid effects rather than there being a previously hidden epidemic of neurodevelopmental disorders.

But that IS the kind of thing that the NHS is expected to deal with that could not have been anticipated by any government.

That's the thing whilst I agree with you on some points, I worry about others.

A lot of waste in the NHS is caused by arrogance

So it's extremely unlikely that there has been a 350% increase in children with ASC in 2 years which perfectly coincides with covid.

See this, this worries me. It reminds me of a doctor who about 20 years ago told a friend of mine that her second child couldn't possibly have ASD has it was statistically impossible for a second child in the same family to have it. Now we know its ten times more likely.

My ADHD girl was diagnosed as a result of covid. I had always known she was ADHD but it took covid for me to have the time at home to realise that actually school were talking crap for years. she wasn't coping and actually she may need an adhd diagnosis.

Quite a few children with ASD (diagnosed and undiagnosed) managed fair better outside of school than in and with online learning than in school learning. Suddenly a fair number of people realised there was an better way of living or school was causing the problem and therefore driving the need for a diagnosis.

Correlation does not mean causation. The sheer arrogance of "professionals" to believe they actually couldn't have missed a problem that has been sitting under their noses all along.....

And what a load of idiots deciding to only deal when a child hits crisis point. The costs involved long term both on a financial and individual basis will be extraordinary and absolutely examples of the kind or ridiculous waste in our country's services that needs dealing with politically

SingLikeADuck · 24/04/2023 15:37

mbosnz · 23/04/2023 13:46

Yes, but even if you are unaffected, surely you must be aware of others being affected?

We'll surely people vote for parties based on what affects and meets their OWN needs.

SingLikeADuck · 24/04/2023 15:37

*well

DownNative · 24/04/2023 15:45

35. Banned fox hunting.

Blair said it was “one of the domestic legislative measures I most regret” and that it was a "rash undertaking”. After speaking to someone involved in fox hunting, Blair changed his mind. His comments here:

"It was banned in such a way that, provided certain steps are taken to avoid cruelty when the fox is killed, it isn't banned...It was the best I could do, but not an episode of policymaking I look back on with pride. And I should think not, I hear you say."

Looks to me like you simply grabbed that list from somewhere, didn't check ANY of it and posted it as examples of Labour's successes....

Southwestten · 24/04/2023 16:05

Badbudgeter · Yesterday 15:19
What would an uprising actually constitute?

I’d like to know the answer to this. One poster on this thread has said we need poll tax riots, another has said she’d prefer riots to apathy.
There are probably plenty of others who agree why aren’t they starting riots?
Smash a few windows, ruin businesses, steal and pillage, burn down properties ……

VincentVaguer · 24/04/2023 16:06

Fox hunting isn't banned. Killing foxes with a pack of hounds is banned.

Wizzbangfizz · 24/04/2023 17:12

@MrsSkylerWhite i would have thought the difference was obvious? I’m paying, will enter the county legally, will have means to support myself and the right to work. I don’t recall where I said it was ok for me to move and others aren’t allowed to come here - there should be far more legal and safe routes for people to come here which would then allow us to know who is coming. And we should have programmes (like the Afghan and Ukraine) where we bring people over - I’m obviously in a financial situation that I expect many fleeing war and persecution are not. Not no immigration, controlled immigration - I don’t think there is anything wrong with that. But again neither party will address this problem because they are too scared of it - a bit like the nhs and the reform needed there.

BungalowLil · 24/04/2023 20:17

DownNative · 24/04/2023 15:45

35. Banned fox hunting.

Blair said it was “one of the domestic legislative measures I most regret” and that it was a "rash undertaking”. After speaking to someone involved in fox hunting, Blair changed his mind. His comments here:

"It was banned in such a way that, provided certain steps are taken to avoid cruelty when the fox is killed, it isn't banned...It was the best I could do, but not an episode of policymaking I look back on with pride. And I should think not, I hear you say."

Looks to me like you simply grabbed that list from somewhere, didn't check ANY of it and posted it as examples of Labour's successes....

The Hunting Act came into force in 2004, there have been prosecutions under the act and appeals against it have failed. Tony Blair might not consider it his proudest moment but that thought is obviously not universal.

No, you're right, I haven't thoroughly investigated every item on the list, but then this is an opinion board not a dissertation.

MandyMotherOfBrian · 24/04/2023 21:58

BungalowLil · 23/04/2023 14:53

Not everybody who virtue signals about how evil the Tories are wants to risk paying higher taxes and getting lower benefits in order to pay more towards schools and hospitals.
We currently have some of the highest taxes we've ever paid

Some people who think the Tory policies are terrible would actually suffer if some of those policies were reversed - and they know it. But they won't admit it.
What policies might they be then? How has the ordinary person in the street benefited from any single Tory policy in the last 13 years?

Most people have the sense to know that if we rose up and smashed the Tories what would NOT happen is that we got a lovely fluffy government who gave us all what we wanted. History tells us that. Who would fill the gap?

I post this up all the time.......but this is what the Labour Party gave us during their last period in government. Not fuffy. Just incredibly beneficial for most people.

  1. Longest period of sustained low inflation since the 60s.
  2. Low mortgage rates.
  3. Introduced the National Minimum Wage and raised it to £5.52.
  4. Over 14,000 more police in England and Wales.
  5. Cut overall crime by 32 per cent.
  6. Record levels of literacy and numeracy in schools.
  7. Young people achieving some of the best ever results at 14, 16, and 18.
  8. Funding for every pupil in England has doubled.
  9. Employment is at its highest level ever.
  10. Written off up to 100 per cent of debt owed by poorest countries.
  11. 85,000 more nurses.
  12. 32,000 more doctors.
  13. Brought back matrons to hospital wards.
  14. Devolved power to the Scottish Parliament.
  15. Devolved power to the Welsh Assembly.
  16. Dads now get paternity leave of 2 weeks for the first time.
  17. NHS Direct offering free convenient patient advice.
  18. Gift aid was worth £828 million to charities last year.
  19. Restored city-wide government to London.
  20. Record number of students in higher education.
  21. Child benefit up 26 per cent since 1997.
  22. Delivered 2,200 Sure Start Children’s Centres.
  23. Introduced the Equality and Human Rights Commission.
  24. £200 winter fuel payment to pensioners & up to £300 for over-80s.
  25. On course to exceed our Kyoto target for reducing greenhouse gas emissions.
  26. Restored devolved government to Northern Ireland.
  27. Over 36,000 more teachers in England and 274,000 more support staff and teaching assistants.
  28. All full time workers now have a right to 24 days paid holiday.
  29. A million pensioners lifted out of poverty.
  30. 600,000 children lifted out of relative poverty.
  31. Introduced child tax credit giving more money to parents.
  32. Scrapped Section 28 and introduced Civil Partnerships.
  33. Brought over 1 million social homes up to standard.
  34. Inpatient waiting lists down by over half a million since 1997.
  35. Banned fox hunting.
  36. Cleanest rivers, beaches, drinking water and air since before the industrial revolution.
  37. Free TV licences for over-75s.
  38. Banned fur farming and the testing of cosmetics on animals.
  39. Free breast cancer screening for all women aged between 50-70.
  40. Free off peak local bus travel for over-60s.
  41. New Deal – helped over 1.8 million people into work.
  42. Over 3 million child trust funds have been started.
  43. Free eye test for over 60s.
  44. More than doubled the number of apprenticeships.
  45. Free entry to national museums and galleries.
  46. Overseas aid budget more than doubled.
  47. Heart disease deaths down by 150,000 and cancer deaths down by 50,000.
  48. Cut long-term youth unemployment by 75 per cent.
  49. Free nursery places for every three and four-year-olds.
  50. Free fruit for most four to six-year-olds at school.

That is beautiful.
Well, as far as cut and paste goes, anyway.

Defo worth all those Iraqi and armed forces lives, I'm sure. But what do they matter, eh?
(As I know MN is a little clouded with regards to nuance, I'll be clear - that was Sarcasm)

shatteredmum1 · 24/04/2023 23:38

Greenfairydust · 23/04/2023 14:25

  • Apathy
  • The class system: there is still a ''serf mentality'' in the UK that just accepts that anyone with a posh accent must be right...
  • Right wing press: a big part of the population is not educated and politically literate enough to see through and beyond the toxic ''let's blame immigrants/foreigners and the EU'' narrative.

This

2userspast3 · 25/04/2023 00:13

@MandyMotherOfBrian Only TWO (2) Conservative MPs voted against the invasion of Iraq.

DownNative · 25/04/2023 06:23

BungalowLil · 24/04/2023 20:17

The Hunting Act came into force in 2004, there have been prosecutions under the act and appeals against it have failed. Tony Blair might not consider it his proudest moment but that thought is obviously not universal.

No, you're right, I haven't thoroughly investigated every item on the list, but then this is an opinion board not a dissertation.

Well, if you're going to argue a case you'd better make sure you know enough about that list!

That's four things I was able to put clear, correct context to straightaway. Lists like that suggest lazy thinking, really.

Labour's devolution plans has been a failure and Northern Ireland's in particular cannot be described as a Labour achievement alone since the process began long before...it just so happened that PSF/PIRA was severely weakened enough by the past Conservative Government's security efforts to get there.

Conservatives had already done a referendum in Scotland in 1979, but the turn out was so low it was invalid.

These things aren't Government successes, especially when it did the exact opposite of what the Government wanted. In this case, Labour. 🤦‍♂️

BungalowLil · 25/04/2023 10:03

DownNative
I have argued the case on the Hunting Act.

Your ability to add your negative opinions on four of the points on a 50 point list does not make the list invalid. If we take your four points off, the list is still 46 points long.

I'm not saying Labour are perfect. I'm not saying what Labour did whilst last in government was 100% perfect. I am saying that it is possible to quote a list of successes and positive actions. I can't imagine many people have researched and understood every nuance of every point on the list. I certainly haven't.

I would be really interested to see a 50 point list (even if some of those points are questionable) of actions taken with the intention of benefiting the majority by the Conservative party since they last came to power 13 years ago.

It is not a requirement of Mumsnet posts that one has to have researched and understood every single element of every single thing they post up.

MrsSkylerWhite · 25/04/2023 10:05

MintJulia · Yesterday 13:11

The difference surely is that one adheres to the laws of the destination country (applies for visa through the appropriate route and meets the criteria for settlement or accepts rejection if necessary)”

Please explain what the appropriate legal routes are for citizens of Syria, Eritrea and Afghanistan.

Zipidydodah · 25/04/2023 11:06

Erm…..the French were rioting regarding the proposed increase pension age?? It was passed in law a week or so ago by a government that they elected in last year? So what exactly was the point/outcome of the riots?

DownNative · 25/04/2023 11:52

BungalowLil · 25/04/2023 10:03

DownNative
I have argued the case on the Hunting Act.

Your ability to add your negative opinions on four of the points on a 50 point list does not make the list invalid. If we take your four points off, the list is still 46 points long.

I'm not saying Labour are perfect. I'm not saying what Labour did whilst last in government was 100% perfect. I am saying that it is possible to quote a list of successes and positive actions. I can't imagine many people have researched and understood every nuance of every point on the list. I certainly haven't.

I would be really interested to see a 50 point list (even if some of those points are questionable) of actions taken with the intention of benefiting the majority by the Conservative party since they last came to power 13 years ago.

It is not a requirement of Mumsnet posts that one has to have researched and understood every single element of every single thing they post up.

The point stands though that if I can both strike down AND contextualise four points straightaway.....what might happen with many of the other points?

Lists such as yours blatantly ignore the legislative realities. Indeed, Labour's fox hunting ban was easily shown by Blair to have been a complete mess.

This is how arguments are undermined and many would suggest neither set of government particularly cares about the people. Just themselves.

BungalowLil · 25/04/2023 13:55

DownNative · 25/04/2023 11:52

The point stands though that if I can both strike down AND contextualise four points straightaway.....what might happen with many of the other points?

Lists such as yours blatantly ignore the legislative realities. Indeed, Labour's fox hunting ban was easily shown by Blair to have been a complete mess.

This is how arguments are undermined and many would suggest neither set of government particularly cares about the people. Just themselves.

If the Hunting Act was such a mess then why have the Tories done absolutely nothing about it in 13 years?

The list refers to tens of quantifiable instances of the Labour party caring about and improving the life of ordinary people. There will be context and legislative realities whatever the policy/action and there will always be those who will seek to strike down arguments.

That doesn't detract from the fact that the cumulative effect of these policies and our lived experience of being subject to them show were there a great many steps forward for the common good during that period.

A similar list for the Conservatives doesn't seem to be forthcoming.

VegetablesFightingToReclaimTheAubergieneEmoji · 25/04/2023 13:57

BungalowLil · 25/04/2023 13:55

If the Hunting Act was such a mess then why have the Tories done absolutely nothing about it in 13 years?

The list refers to tens of quantifiable instances of the Labour party caring about and improving the life of ordinary people. There will be context and legislative realities whatever the policy/action and there will always be those who will seek to strike down arguments.

That doesn't detract from the fact that the cumulative effect of these policies and our lived experience of being subject to them show were there a great many steps forward for the common good during that period.

A similar list for the Conservatives doesn't seem to be forthcoming.

They did try to allow fox hunting again, that was their attempt at sorting it out

BungalowLil · 25/04/2023 14:02

Which was nice of them. They soon dropped that plan when they realised how many voters wanted it to remain illegal.

DownNative · 25/04/2023 14:04

BungalowLil · 25/04/2023 13:55

If the Hunting Act was such a mess then why have the Tories done absolutely nothing about it in 13 years?

The list refers to tens of quantifiable instances of the Labour party caring about and improving the life of ordinary people. There will be context and legislative realities whatever the policy/action and there will always be those who will seek to strike down arguments.

That doesn't detract from the fact that the cumulative effect of these policies and our lived experience of being subject to them show were there a great many steps forward for the common good during that period.

A similar list for the Conservatives doesn't seem to be forthcoming.

And the above is called Shifting The Goalposts which is a logical fallacy aka error in reasoning.

It's YOUR argument that every single thing on your own list were ALL examples of Labour's successes.

After all, why else did you post them?

Straight from Blair's mouth we have an admission his Government made a big mistake with the fox hunting legislation. He tried to water it down to the point where hunts could still go ahead as he explained - a banned, but not banned situation. Yet you held it up as an example of Labour success(!)

You did the same thing with devolution too(!)

Own your own error instead of attempting to shift the goalposts and deflecting away from it.

VegetablesFightingToReclaimTheAubergieneEmoji · 25/04/2023 14:12

BungalowLil · 25/04/2023 14:02

Which was nice of them. They soon dropped that plan when they realised how many voters wanted it to remain illegal.

Thank god. I cannot imagine a worse way to go. Literally hounded to your death. Petrifying

BungalowLil · 25/04/2023 14:18

Blair's opinon is not the only measure of success.

Blimey DownNative. My error? How funny. The list is not mine it's in the public domain. You can Google it.

This is chit chat on Mumsnet, not the Oxford Union.

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