Grudges you continue to hold

[OneFrenchEgg]

Just drive a different way home, past a car wash and remembered how I refuse to use it on principle 😂
Years ago, I was in a hurry and no one in front - as I drove in, and was being 'washed' by one of the chaps, the one in charge allowed someone to jump the queue as they were 'in a hurry' and 'just wanted a spritz' - nope, they reversed all the way back, had everything, and I sat fuming at the the queue jumpy enablement.
Refuse to go back, I'm sure they are disappointed 😂

Someone out there still has my copy of Wham!'s album Fantastic, that I lent them in 1983. I'll know it's mine, cause I cut out a picture of George and Andrew in Smash Hits and glued it to the erstwhile white back cover.

I mean, I don't actually listen to them anymore, but come on, it's the principle. 😤

Inthebathagain omg that is awful! Good for you for standing up for the homeless man.

My primary 5 teacher told my parents not to expect me to get any standard grades (GCSEs). I was 9 years old.

Two former managers. One because she didn’t want to hire me but her boss went over her head. She made my life hell till she left 18 months later with a bad back. A different work place and the manager showed he was wet blanket. A staff member was held against the wall by her neck by a drunk customer. The manager hid while the chefs were left to call the police.

Lindsay M , 1996, Edinburgh, You know what you did.

I’ve been so deeply, enduringly annoyed by someone I’m my life who lives in New York City that I now intensely dislike the place by association. Every time I even see a film that’s set in NY, it sets my teeth on edge.

Local cafe which refused to take Scottish notes as "they could be fraudulent." It was 10 years before I returned.
I didn't drink a brand of alcohol after an ex worked for them till I was sure he'd left.

I will not use the mobile network EE after receiving appalling customer service in 2016.

Miss Selfridges- ha ha they closed down about 20 years after my annoyance! As a teenager, spent my hard earned Saturday job money on an expensive baby grow style pjs with poppers and a lovely ditsy pattern, loved it. The first wash destroyed it, all the seams twisted and it shrank by about 6”! Was so furious I wrapped it up and sent an angry letter, without my contact details on it, to their head office swearing never to shop there again. What I should’ve done was take them back for a refund! Squashing it in the postbox felt good though

A bike shop assistant that completely ignored me and spoke only to my husband when I went in looking for a new bike. He doesn't even ride and I'm the Chair of a local cycling club. After about the third time he told them to speak to me they did, but then they talked to me as if I was a preschooler who had never seen a bike before. I did something I would never normally do - test rode their bike, said I didn't want it and then went home and ordered the same bike online from Wiggle. And I have never bought so much as an inner tube from there since. Patronising bastards.

Sadly, my mother. Now, she had her share of issues (in fact, she bought the subscription), but she made my life a bit hard. "Don't laugh so loud! You sound like a cow bellowing," "Don't cry about something so silly!" "We do not express anger, it is not lady-like!" "OH MY GOD, you have certainly inherited the (father's family name) flare for dramatics!" BUT...when crossed, she would literally fall in the floor, scream, and drum her heels like a two-year-old in a tantrum. But I was the dramatic one. Her outbursts were "rational and understandable to anyone with an ounce of intelligence." She has been gone now for over 20 years, and I STILL cannot let go of that.

My GP who ruined my life by prescribing an off label antipsychotic during a breakdown from a mild traumatic brain injury and post concussion syndrome. I had a serious adverse reaction to it and now suffer from a medication induced neurological involuntary movement disorder called tardive dyskinesia.

I'm with you on that, I hope karma gets them but I'm not sure that it will.

I carry a bag full, starting from the 12 year old who convinced me he wanted to go out with me (he was cool and I was a bit of a dork) only to publicly humiliate me when I turned up at our meeting point (the water bubbler).

Or when I was 15 and working at McDonalds and one girl decided to target me as the only private school kid working there. She convinced everyone to lie to me about where the Christmas party was and that it was fancy dress. I knew she was lying from the beginning but played along and the day before told her she’d wasted a lot of her own time on it.

Growing up as a painfully shy, introverted kid in a relatively small town was agony.

I really hope Deborah Close is a mumsnetter!

I lent a friend a book 34 years ago and she has not returned it. She must know it’s mine as it was a birthday present with a message inscribed on the cover. I think of this several times a year. We aren’t really in contact but I couldn’t ask for it back and out myself as someone so petty.

I hold a lot, mostly minor.

EMDR has helped a lot with things like teachers that were slightly offensive when I was a child.

Before, the thoughts used to go back decades, now it's not so far.

Every time I get one of the flare ups of angry memories (several times a day- could be any one of thousands of memories) I pray

'Oh Lord, I repent of my anger. I ask your forgiveness. I forgive Mrs Leaver, I pray for her conversion, and for everything she wants and needs, in accordance with your Will.'

Or if they're probably dead I pray for their soul.

It is very different.

Also Mrs Osborne who threw me out of my German mock O level for saying good luck to someone before it started. I was sent to the headmistress. I cried all the rest of the way through the exam. My suicidal Mum was in a psychiatric unit and I was covered with stress-related urticaria and it felt like the last straw.

@blackpearwhitelilies I really recommend EMDR if you haven't had it. It helped me a lot with painful memories. The NHS do it now too.

Karmas a bitch

Thank you. That is very kind.

Not me, but my mother (72) grew up in a rural "everyone knows everyone" sort of a town. Her vendetta - and I don't use that word lightly - against the animal feed/ironmonger who accidentally ran her dog over and killed it over 60 years ago... is still going strong to this day. She can't actually remember the poor dog's name, but the rage in her voice towards the poor man who wasn't expecting a dog-without-a-lead ("oh, in MY day...", yeah, but no Mother - that's horrific animal management regardless of how young you were!) to run into the road behind his reversing van trying to park up in his own shed. Her vendetta ran as far as cockblocking his grandson from getting with her best friend during their teen years, and almost causing three weddings (family and friends) to derail due to how strongly she feels about this. Including that of her oldest son (who married the animal feed guy's great-granddaughter - who is absolutely lovely, as I dare say her mother's grandfather was, too!).

But she cannot remember (a) what breed the dog was, if any, but (b) more importantly, in my opinion at least, what the poor creature's name was!!!

My paternal grandmother, on the other hand, objected to the IRA shooting at my soldier father during the height of the Civil War of the latter 20th century... so refused to have any Irish products in her life, whatsoever.

I do like to cite the madness that runs down both lines when I warn others not to get on the wrong side of me...

Love stories like this 😂

A guy I deal with at work was once rude to me, it's been that long I don't remember what it was about. I always write his name starting with a lowercase d instead of a capital D. Don't piss me off, I'm brutal!!

God that's awful

I have so many but I always call my ex's new wife his 'girlfriend' (to him) because it pisses him off (and they had an affair) and when I send my dd presents via the post I don't include 'Manor house' in the address, just the rest of the address. Petty I know but I know it pisses him off.

I haven't seen my daughter for 6 yrs due to exs parental alienation (context) and he's done a lot of bad stuff to me...
During the thick of covid I reported him for having friends over for a party. Not sure what happened to him but it made me feel better.
Small wins..