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Grudges you continue to hold

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OneFrenchEgg · 17/04/2023 18:54

Just drive a different way home, past a car wash and remembered how I refuse to use it on principle 😂
Years ago, I was in a hurry and no one in front - as I drove in, and was being 'washed' by one of the chaps, the one in charge allowed someone to jump the queue as they were 'in a hurry' and 'just wanted a spritz' - nope, they reversed all the way back, had everything, and I sat fuming at the the queue jumpy enablement.
Refuse to go back, I'm sure they are disappointed 😂

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madnessitellyou · 01/05/2023 17:19

The summer after finishing my A-Levels and before going to uni I was looking for a job. A local gift shop was advertising for a temporary sales assistant to work until September. Perfect! The ad in the window stipulated that you had to be 18 or over, which I was. So I went in with a CV (I actually had some retail experience), my driving licence and my passport because I was aware I might look younger than 18. I was told I was lying about my age and that my ID was fake. I tried to explain that wasn't the case but she started screaming at me to get out because I was clearly lying and was trying to present fake ID.

The shop is still there. 26 years later and I've never set foot in there since!

eastegg · 01/05/2023 22:07

thisshizisbananas · 29/04/2023 19:49

There's a tiny record store near where I live. Every year on Record Store Day they'll have a market stall out the front of the shop. Pre baby, I bought quite a lot of records from them. Last year on RSD I went up there to buy some things. I picked up some records on the stall, and stood there for a very long time whilst the owner ignored me. He served other people who had come after me even though he was well aware that I was waiting first, simply because they looked young and cool and engaged them in some sycophantic chat about Wet Leg. I'm sure it was because he'd dismissed me as being old and uncool, not least as I had DD in her buggy. When he finally deigned to serve me I asked if he had a couple of things I couldn't find in stock, he scoffed at me. I put the records down, went home, and ordered it all online from another store.

Love this. What a tosser. I bet your conclusion about his view of you was absolutely spot on.

thecoperope · 02/05/2023 20:17

Charlottewebsbabies · 18/04/2023 09:37

23 years ago,I found out I was pregnant (no 3 baby)

6 days later I gave birth on the landing floor

I developed pnd-it was so bad,I'm told I tried to throw my own baby out if an upstairs window (no idea-i have a vague memory of standing in front of the window but after that its a blank)

I will never forgive that useless (female) doctor who would listen to my narcissistic mother,(she loves going to the doctor and i know i was discussed in detail) who said I was making it all up and 'attention seeking' and who refused to give me any support at all-15 times I asked for help and was ignored

All I got was 'go home and have a nice cup of tea dear' while I was trying to work out the best way of killing myself and my children (so they wouldn't suffer at the hands of my mother or the care system)

It took everything I had just to crawl out of bed and my thoughts where dangerous

I will never ever forgive that doctor-I could have ended up in the papers for a murder/suicide-and that witch would have been the first to say 'what a shame'

I'm still not right now-and I'm very lucky my son forgave me when my mother told it as a 'funny story' years later (I'm now nc with her)

Similar story, i felt very "off" in myself and was sure I had pre natal depression. I was getting very paranoid and have a history of mental illness in the family. I went to the Dr and he said "you have a husband at home go home" and that was that.
I actually developed post natal psychosis and suffered very scary and freaky delusions and hallucinations. Insects crawling under my skin and I tried to claw them out, the babies legs were broken and I couldn't touch them because they were mangled. stuff like that. I ended up getting sectioned for 6 weeks and we had to use our savings for a house deposit because dh had to have about 3 months off work. It was horrific and I knew it was coming but didn't receive help because I had a husband.

Fucking unbelievable.

Coffeetree · 03/05/2023 17:05

Sorry, that sounds awful!

On a much lighter note, I was once in a small cinema, in the queue for tickets, and my other half was at the snack bar getting sweets and tea.

The lady said I couldn't buy two tickets. "I can't sell two tickets for one person!" I thought she feared I was sneaking an underage kid in or something, so I said, "No it's okay, my husband's just there, with the grey hair". Husband turned around and waved.

No, she wasn't satisfied. "I can't sell you two tickets!" We went round and round and then finally my husband strolled over to see what was happening. She finally reluctantly sold me the two tickets and by then I was wound up and said sarcastically, " No but you'd need him to pay for his own, right? Or I'll do two card transactions?"

I never went back! Shame because it's a nice little cinema.

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OneFrenchEgg · 04/05/2023 11:41

CruCru · 01/05/2023 12:18

While I was at university I did a pub quiz with some friends. I knew a bunch of the answers but they wouldn’t put them down and we did really badly.

Infuriating.

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OnedayIwillfeelfree · 04/05/2023 19:34

Another one. Fortnum and Mason. I have to buy many gifts for Thank yous and celebrations for work. Tens and thousands of pounds of business each year. They have the nerve to charge £5.95 delivery despite the value of your order. If you want named day it’s £7.95. Even if you are spending £1000 on a bloody hamper! If I can I push for purchasing elsewhere! I used to use them to send personal gifts, (only values in the small hundreds) and used to really resent the delivery fees on top. It’s not like they are delivered in a special van. They use DPD and parcel force!

Battygirll · 05/05/2023 02:20

A shopkeeper who loudly asked if "I'd been spending" when her stupid card reader didn't work and she tried to blame me by suggesting I was overdrawn.

Isoqueen · 05/05/2023 05:25

There is a chemist near us who always over charges and he is a rude,arrogant man. I never go in there anymore, prefer to travel to a polite one. None of my friends go there,either,for the same reason. I notice he has very few customers which is unusual for a chemist.

PeterRabbitIsNotHere · 05/05/2023 08:12

OnedayIwillfeelfree · 04/05/2023 19:34

Another one. Fortnum and Mason. I have to buy many gifts for Thank yous and celebrations for work. Tens and thousands of pounds of business each year. They have the nerve to charge £5.95 delivery despite the value of your order. If you want named day it’s £7.95. Even if you are spending £1000 on a bloody hamper! If I can I push for purchasing elsewhere! I used to use them to send personal gifts, (only values in the small hundreds) and used to really resent the delivery fees on top. It’s not like they are delivered in a special van. They use DPD and parcel force!

Their customer service is also appalling. Like you I used to use them for corporate gifts but got better service elsewhere. I try not to use them now.

eggandonion · 05/05/2023 09:26

I hate our card reader not working.Rage against the machine!

Iloveburgerswaymorethanishould · 05/05/2023 09:41

This one is beyond irrational and my
OH thinks it's hilarious.
Went to a KFC drive through once, they gave me the complete wrong order!! But there was loads more food (didn't realise until I'd driven away). Refused to eat ANY of it and have never been back, drive an extra 20 mins or so to go to my next one!!!!

Mollypolly2610 · 05/05/2023 17:07

I forgot about Dunelm! Just returned to the UK after years working overseas and needed a lot of new things for the house.
Only had £50 notes on us that we had brought back with us.
Took our things to the check out and the assistant couldn't authorise the £50 notes.
The manageress came over (the shop was busy) and held up the notes and shouted it seems these are fake. I told her that I don't think they could hear her in TK Maxx if she wanted to be louder and took my notes back. I was so embarrassed with everyone looking at us.
Funny that Asda took them.
NEVER shopped in Dunelm again (and they have things I want!)

Emotionalsupportviper · 05/05/2023 21:20

54isanopendoor · 18/04/2023 09:11

The RAC.
I broke down in the middle of the A68.
I am disabled. My son was 3. My baby was 8 weeks old. 1st trip out after csection

I was told I was 'too close to home for rescue & recovery, you can get out & walk'. I explained I use crutches, had a 3 year old (asd though I didn't know at the time, but he was a bolter) & a baby in a heavy car seat. I could not walk, & that was why I had their Gold standard rescue & recovery ANYWHERE policy at great expense. They would NOT have it. I had to wait to be towed by a local co whilst huge lorries whammed past. In tears when I got home I called them to cancel my policy. They charged me a £70 cancellation fee. Utter utter Bastards.

That's appalling!

If it's any consolation the AA are equally sh!te.

3luckystars · 06/05/2023 09:31

My dad despises the AA also for this reason, they wouldn’t come out to help him and he just mutters ‘bastards’ any time he hears their name.

MovingonfromMartin · 14/05/2023 11:04

I was 3/4 months pregnant and I had a blocked and infected Bartholins cyst which was the size of a tangerine, it was extremely painful and I could barely walk/sit down. I had to go and have it drained which involved slicing into in and squeezing the contents out. This can be done under a GA but because I was pregnant, I was given gas and air. A bunch of students came into watch. (I was asked if this was OK obviously) It was excruciating. I was crawling up the bed in pain. After it was all over, the female doctor said to me 'you will need an epidural with childbirth, you will never cope with the pain'. Bitch.
As it happens she was right but that's beside the point! The baby is now 17 and I still want to see that doctor and swear at her.

Iwasafool · 14/05/2023 11:21

MovingonfromMartin · 14/05/2023 11:04

I was 3/4 months pregnant and I had a blocked and infected Bartholins cyst which was the size of a tangerine, it was extremely painful and I could barely walk/sit down. I had to go and have it drained which involved slicing into in and squeezing the contents out. This can be done under a GA but because I was pregnant, I was given gas and air. A bunch of students came into watch. (I was asked if this was OK obviously) It was excruciating. I was crawling up the bed in pain. After it was all over, the female doctor said to me 'you will need an epidural with childbirth, you will never cope with the pain'. Bitch.
As it happens she was right but that's beside the point! The baby is now 17 and I still want to see that doctor and swear at her.

The start of your post made me wince, the last bit made me laugh. I hope you get the chance to swear at her. She would probably be puzzled which would also be funny.

MovingonfromMartin · 14/05/2023 11:27

@Iwasafool I wouldn't recognise her if she slapped me in the face! She was down between my legs for most of the procedure. I can hear her voice, though...

Iwasafool · 14/05/2023 13:16

MovingonfromMartin · 14/05/2023 11:27

@Iwasafool I wouldn't recognise her if she slapped me in the face! She was down between my legs for most of the procedure. I can hear her voice, though...

You need a voice line up.

QueefQueen80s · 14/05/2023 13:38

MovingonfromMartin · 14/05/2023 11:27

@Iwasafool I wouldn't recognise her if she slapped me in the face! She was down between my legs for most of the procedure. I can hear her voice, though...

Fucking bitch! I hope she is living a miserable life.

MovingonfromMartin · 14/05/2023 13:40

Oh this is making me feel so much better. Thanks 😘

McConkeysPlate · 14/05/2023 13:54

I was young and naive 25 years ago ( I had no phone or internet back then). I idolised my boss and always believed her. I had my first child and she told me I could only have 6 weeks maternity leave. So I went back to work before my daughter was 6 weeks old, I was sobbing and leaking breast milk everywhere. It was only when I had finally left and had further children I learnt about the maternity leave I was actually entitled to. I was gutted. Old bag 😡

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OneFrenchEgg · 14/05/2023 13:55

I found female staff a lot less sympathetic than male staff weirdly every pregnancy. Men were like, have a c-section, have some pain relief. Women - crack on, you'll be grand with some nurofen.

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TheGander · 14/05/2023 22:36

I still remember the 1st female gynae who examined me. I winced and she told me off. I was a 19 yr old virgin at the time. Real
old school battleaxe , probably thought because she was a doctor she was above the lumpen ( female) proletariat.

Latenightreader · 18/05/2023 12:44

The nurse who left me legs akimbo, speculum in place while she spent several minutes rummaging in a drawer, and then shouted at me because I’d put my legs down and closed them because it felt so horribly exposed. She initially refused to believe that I needed an extra small speculum and only relented when I was in obvious pain. I’ve had better experiences since, but I left that one (the first) feeling violated.

Agreatdealofgooditdidyou · 18/05/2023 12:53

YetMoreNewBeginnings · 18/04/2023 09:05

The Mums of sarah & Emily. 1986. My primary school.

I was picked for a big part in the school play. I missed one rehearsal so they complained it was unfair on their children (Sarah was the back up, Emily was her back up). They also loudly complained, in earshot of all of my class, that I smelled.

it was well known I missed school that day as I had concussion. Everyone knew I was an abused child. The teacher gave in to the pressure and I lost my part.

@YetMoreNewBeginnings you wrote this last month but I’m just reading it today. It’s brought tears to my eyes and a horrible lump to my throat. I think I’m going to have to cry to get it out. (There’s noone here.) You poor, poor little soul. That teacher was weak. I hope she felt thoroughly ashamed.

Please tell me your life is good now? I hope to God it is.