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Grudges you continue to hold

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OneFrenchEgg · 17/04/2023 18:54

Just drive a different way home, past a car wash and remembered how I refuse to use it on principle 😂
Years ago, I was in a hurry and no one in front - as I drove in, and was being 'washed' by one of the chaps, the one in charge allowed someone to jump the queue as they were 'in a hurry' and 'just wanted a spritz' - nope, they reversed all the way back, had everything, and I sat fuming at the the queue jumpy enablement.
Refuse to go back, I'm sure they are disappointed 😂

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Agreatdealofgooditdidyou · 17/04/2023 23:15

Every Thursday for 2 terms I picked up a child and brought him home with my DC, gave him his tea, and on more than one occasion had to clean up a very messy toilet 🤮

This was to help his mother because she’d dropped lots of hints. She lived a 1.5 hr round trip from the school whereas I was 5 minutes away. She had a one year old. So, you know, doing something no one had ever done in the history of humanity. Juggling 2 children. She was a SAHM.
As it happens my work load and mental load was greater, but I was trying to be kind.

The child’s father used to collect him on his way home from work. He worked about 15 miles away from our house, so not close. One day he was so embarrassed to be picking the child up from me again that to reciprocate he said “oh I would love to take <little Whatgood> with us the next time we go hiking”. I said “that would be lovely, I’m sure xxxx would like that very much”.
It must have been a hollow invitation because I never heard any more from him.

Thats not the only favour I did her but it’s the most memorable.

I discovered that in the school holidays she and her husband had organised a trip to a sports activity and had invited 6 other boys, out of a class with 9 boys in it. So only my DC and 2 other boys had been left out.

I don’t wish her any harm, I just think she’s pathetic and would walk a long way to cross the road to avoid her. I believe the whole thing was about desperate social climbing: she was trying to pick out who was “worth it”

Alas I fear the climbing will get her nowhere, Because she and her family are nothing if not mediocre, in every respect. Grandparents pulled the plug on the fees after a spell too, it must be harder to pick ‘em out at current school.

Mediocre is fine, but not a good combination with malicious.

As I say I wouldn’t waste energy wishing her harm, but I have never forgotten.

Amberglass · 17/04/2023 23:16

I shout 'cat wankers!' at the local rescue place every time I drive past. It was 17 years ago they gave the cat we had our name on to someone else.

Paulisexcluded · 17/04/2023 23:17

We once went away for New Year to a large Air B n B type place, with our friend James, and several of his friends, a kind of group mini break where we only knew most of the people through James. James explained that night 1 was pasta night and night 2 was curry night, each family to bring and share a dish.

We were the last family to arrive, and I brought out my pasta dish which I had made in advance. James had got the nights mixed up and it was curry night. This was a good 10 years ago and I am still inexplicably angry about it.

Agreatdealofgooditdidyou · 17/04/2023 23:17

@Charlottewebsbabies 💐

Mumtobabyhavoc · 17/04/2023 23:21

PurplePlayhouse · 17/04/2023 22:58

My Dad was like 'did you go to the other shop?' and I said yes and he said "I knew it! That's my girl!" 😁

Love this! 😀

EnjoythemoneyJane · 17/04/2023 23:21

Laura Ashley. Bought a whole load of wallpaper there about 15 yrs ago. The very last roll was non-sequential and when the decorator & I opened it there was a repeating black mark in the print, an obvious production fault. Went back to exchange it and the saleswoman and the manager straight up refused to replace it, claiming a factory fault was “absolutely not possible”.

They went on to accuse me or the decorator of having damaged the paper - very loudly, in the middle of a busy shop, tutting and exchanging meaningful eye contact, as though I might also have one of their fucking 3 piece suites shoved up my jumper. I had no choice but to buy another roll of wallpaper, but from the moment I walked out that day I have never, ever set foot in one of their shops again. I did however give them all the Vs (in my head) every single time I went past that branch, and when it shut down a couple of years ago, I did a little secret fist pump of triumph. Bastards.

My grudginess is loooong.

Agreatdealofgooditdidyou · 17/04/2023 23:24

@Ladysaurus That is hard to live with. I’m so sorry.

KittyAlfred · 17/04/2023 23:24

I won’t go in our local Aldi because it was built on a lovely field that had horses on it and used to cheer me up as a drove past.

QueenSmartypants · 17/04/2023 23:25

I don't believe in holding grudges and if someone passes me off I tend to rant at home and then move past it quickly, but I admit I'm struggling to let go of the negative feelings I have towards someone who set out to systemically undermine me at my last job. Not sure why as I genuinely don't care what they think!

SILisabag · 17/04/2023 23:25

My late ex-DMIL held grudges for decades against restaurants that had once served her a disappointing meal. We were extremely limited as to where we could go to eat as she'd say things like, I'm not going to the Rose and Crown, I went there with your father in 1976 and the roast potatoes were soggy, despite ex-DH's attempts to explain that it probably wasn't the same chef or indeed owners in 2009.

PingPongPiddlyPong · 17/04/2023 23:26

DH has a grudge against a corner shop owner who accused him of stealing about 30 years ago (he wasn’t!)

Whole family has a grudge against a local politician who jumps political parties every few years. Grudge started approx 25 years ago when he caused upheaval with a kids sports team.

MrsSkylerWhite · 17/04/2023 23:28

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Agreatdealofgooditdidyou · 17/04/2023 23:28

Come on @MrsSkylerWhite - spill!

MargaretThursday · 17/04/2023 23:30

Haven't bought clothes from Tescos in 14 years since I bought a baby item that was fastened tightly to the hanger by the tags. When I cut the tags off to get it off the hanger I found the top and bottom were different sizes.
They refused to refund it on the basis the tags were removed. There was no way to see this without getting it off the hanger.
I was told by a very smug young man that he never removed tags until he'd tried the item on and made sure it had fit.

Told him I wouldn't buy from them again and I haven't. I used to get quite a lot from them.

Bunce1 · 17/04/2023 23:31

Old boss who bullied me and 4 others out of our jobs. She’s a top class cunt and I see occasionally her at my local gym. I look through her despite her trying to give me smiles and I beat her in every class the weak flabby excuse for a human.

I hate her. I left that job 6 years ago. The hatred is still strong.

I hope she drops a kettle bell on her brain.

Soakitup37 · 17/04/2023 23:33

Posts like these need like buttons.

I have a lot of petty rage for different people over the years, but quite remarkably I can’t recall any in detail to comment right now. I know a couple will come to me now in the next few days!

more please.

dropthevipers · 17/04/2023 23:33

Chris de Burgh. You know why.

EnjoythemoneyJane · 17/04/2023 23:33

@PingPongPiddlyPong you’re not married to @PurplePlayhouse’s brother are you?!

RicherThanYews · 17/04/2023 23:34

Main road Post Office. When they applied for planning permission there was one objection from a local elderly man, the owners named him on Facebook and he received torrents of abuse and threats from the friends and family of the disgusting potential owners of said Post Office. That was in addition to the awful things they said to him and threatened him with. Nobody stood up for him (except me) and I've never set foot in there. It's been 5/6 years and I never will. Go Brian!

Onesailwait · 17/04/2023 23:34

We have a lovely lake about 5 mins from our house. About 5 yrs ago I left my new sunglasses in the toilets and when I went back to get them a few hours later they were gone.
I absolutely refuse to go there now & I drive to a less nice one 20mins away

Inthebathagain · 17/04/2023 23:36

Lidl.

I'd just done a £300 shop for charity Christmas hampers in there. While loading up my car that cold December night, the manager came out to "deal" with a homeless man which the security guard had failed to move on.

The managers way of dealing with the man was to tell him he was going to throw a bottle of cold water over him. Open 2l bottle in hand, the manager started counting back from 5.

I abandoned my shopping and let rip at the manager. Loudly. The manager tried to defend his actions. I wasn't having any of it. Reported him to all and sundry.

I have not been in Lidl for the last 4 years because of it.

Feeling cross now just remembering it 🤬

doomdoors · 17/04/2023 23:37

Mumtobabyhavoc · 17/04/2023 21:42

Prior to the pandemic whenever I'd walk to a particular location of my gym which was next to a "Trump" branded hotel I'd raise my arm up high and give the hotel the one-finger salute as I walked past while staring straight ahead (because obviously). The hotel finally dropped the name. You're welcome.

I think I love you

Motheranddaughtertotwo · 17/04/2023 23:39

I carry a few: my sister for the awful way she’s abused my parents, my DD’s bullies (I’m so lucky she is still alive) and one boss who made my life hell until I cracked and left a job I was really good at.

Mumtobabyhavoc · 17/04/2023 23:45

doomdoors · 17/04/2023 23:37

I think I love you

That gym closed, too. I had absolutely nothing to do with that. I'm sure of it. 🤞

PingPongPiddlyPong · 17/04/2023 23:45

EnjoythemoneyJane · 17/04/2023 23:33

@PingPongPiddlyPong you’re not married to @PurplePlayhouse’s brother are you?!

@PurplePlayhouse are you secretly my SIL? Do we need to do a secret handshake next time I see you 😂

Or is there more than one cunty shopkeeper that accuses innocent children of shoplifting?

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