What is the most CF behaviour someone has shown when visiting your home?

[Imamumgetmeoutofhere]

Just that really......

Mine was a few years ago and I'm still whenever I think about it.

My youngest had started primary school a few months prior to the event and she had got a bit friendly with one of the other children in the class and as a result I had got to know their mum quite well, in terms of chatting in the playground anyway.

We had storm one morning on the school run and as it was much closer to my house than hers I invited her back for a cuppa till the storm passed. I put the kettle on to boil and then went to the loo, then had to take an "urgent" phone call from my eldest school for some reason or other, can't remember what exactly and it certainly wasn't an emergency.

When I was upstairs I heard some clattering around in the kitchen and then heard a sizzling noise.

When I went back downstairs she was frying bacon. She hadn't asked, I hadn't offered and it meant she had gone through my fridge and cupboards the first time she had been to my house. When I asked what she was doing she said she was hungry and hadn't eaten that day

Safe to say I didn't ask her to come back after that!!

What CF behaviours have others shown in your home?

Good for you! I once told me ex-MIL to fuck off when she tried to manipulate me into doing something her way instead of how I wanted it (in my house) and her jaw actually dropped open with shock. Took her a couple of minutes before she said, sorry, it's your house, you've got to do it your way.

My ex was sitting there open-mouthed.

My ex bf's DS 13 used to kick my front door instead of knocking when they visited. When I suggested he tell his son to not kick my door, he got defensive and told me not to criticise his parenting.
The son refused to drink out of my mugs (clean but admittedly tea-stained) as they were 'dirty' . He then examined all my mugs with a look of disgust. Ex bf is just standing there saying 'eeeeh, whats he like.' Hes a fucking brat, that's what.

Just wanted to thank you.

Your post really madam re-think and you are right. I rarely use the expression but shouldn't at all.

I don't like it either, so unnecessary

When I was in my first term at university I was put in a group project with a 50-something man who was a mature student, who kept saying weird stuff about how women were desperate for his sperm and his ex kept asking him to father her baby.

Once we were talking (about the project) as we were walking out of class, which turned into him walking out with me (still talking), which turned into him walking all the way to my house, which turned into him marching into my house, and sitting in my living room awkwardly staring at me in silence until he finally left.

And yes, I should have told him to leave. But I was an extremely sheltered, very young girl who'd never had a conversation with an adult man before, except for relatives (not counting professional conversations with teachers or doctors), and I didn't know how to tell him to go away. He just marched straight in without asking!

@Tibbaretuc He hasn't been invited back. His snooty DM is turning him into a whiney little fun sponge.

This made me snort

Haha I SO hope she's on here and reads this and realises what a twat she's been about the beds thing!

Don't apologise - You were absolutely right. Have PM'd you.

Thank you.

As do I.

And I am very comforted and uplifted to find other Christians here (even though you are rightfully telling me off!)

Me, too, believe it or not.

Wouldn't they know you worked night shift

Terrible behaviour from him

Thank you for sticking up for me @KettrickenSmiled , but on this occasion I am being rightfully reprimanded. I do appreciate your support, though.

As a Christian I really think that this was God's way of saying "Steady up, now, Viper".

I have been very heartened about how kind to each other we have been, though, even when disagreeing.

- for being so kind.

Had a newborn at home and was very anxious about covid and other things (he was a precious rainbow baby after many years of MC and other issues). Older child had a playdate. Other child picked up baby, cuddled him, held him etc.
at 5pm her parent picks her up, at 6pm her other parent whatsapps me to say playdates brother has covid. Next day another whatsapp to say brother has covid and chicken pox. Then the ask if girl can come and play at ours as brother is ill. Apparently she can’t pass on chicken pox or covid as she had both already 🤯
we said no.

Thank you - I know a couple of lovely Pagans myself, too - but you are right that the term "witch" is almost always pejorative.

I can’t believe these people walk among us and blend in to society 🤯

I have my inlaws staying and this is the perfect place to vent.

So far:

Rearranged half of my lounge because she needed a lamp in a certain place (lots of moving furniture to unplug and replug lamp) although there is no actual reason to put the lamp in that location.

Didn’t like any of our toast toppings and made DP drive around finding an open shop that sells marmalade. We had other flavours of jam, marmite, chocolate spread and FUCKING LURPAK. But, no. Marmalade or she wouldn’t eat.

Deliberately held us up when we had a deadline (she does this a lot - we normally tell her the time to leave is an hour before we need to go as she likes to be an hour late for things - and, yes, she can get to work on time and catch flights).

Puts her rancid dog ends in my kitchen bin so it reeks. I’m not precious about smoking at all but my friends smoke roll ups and MiL smoke straights and they properly pong. She smokes in the garden (where there is an ashtray AND an outside bin. I suspect this is a protest about having to smoke outside.

Then decided to wash up in my tiny kitchen where I was trying to prep a roast. Covered the worktops in tea towels so the washing up could rest 6 inches apart leaving me a nano-millimetre in which to chop my veg.

Sigh.

This might all be totally reasonable and I’m just hungry. We’ll see how I feel after I’ve eaten.

This might all be totally reasonable and I’m just hungry. We’ll see how I feel after I’ve eaten.

Aaaaaw @TheLightSideOfTheMoon
Strongly suggest you eat ALL the marmalade.

Not my guest but my DMs. My DSister recently moved with her a family closer to my DM and now lives 10min drive away (previously 3 hours).
DS spends every annual leave, every Christmas and every Easter at DMs, expecting catering, childcare and washing clothes. Since they live in same area they come for lunch once a week (tried to negotiate more than once a week) and often take home leftovers (without being offered). Also come for afternoon tea every Sunday staying until 6pm so that they don’t have to entertain their kids.
In six months since they moved, they have invited DM once to their new flat. Said they are hosting a BBQ, asked DM and her DP to bring meat, wine, baguette, cheese and pudding and they provided plates, salad and courgettes. DM’s DP jokingly said “when they come to our house, they even take the food bin home but at theirs you only get sliced bread”

After one 2 week stay in the summer my DM was close to a breakdown and in tears.

Said they are hosting a BBQ, asked DM and her DP to bring meat, wine, baguette, cheese and pudding and they provided plates, salad and courgettes.

That's priceless. Particularly the plates (surprised they didn't add cutlery)...

Nice of them to provide the courgettes, though. The lynch pin of every good barbie...

@AllIwantforChristmas22

After one 2 week stay in the summer my DM was close to a breakdown and in tears.

This is so very sad. Can there be an intervention to help your mother for the future? This is so very unfair. 🌹

😂😂😂
apparently first they only asked them to bring meats and then more and more demands followed via whatsapp.

It’s very unfair also because DM still works FT and can’t afford to go PT or retire yet.

she feels sorry for the kids (her DGC) as they wouldn’t have any holidays or festive celebrations if not at her house. DS and her DH don’t make much effort and certainly don’t cook the children many nutritious meals. They also don’t fancy holidays with the children. I know it sounds like they are not well off, but they both have degrees, well paid jobs and the means to stay in an apartment or treat my DM occasionally.

@Newestname002 during that particular stay in the summer both DGC were ill and crying throughout the night. DM couldn’t get much sleep and was working, washing their clothes, catering for them and helping with childcare. Occasionally one child even slept in her room (then DGC was 3).

Not sure about this, OP didn’t provide enough lamb for everyone so people naturally chose the good stuff over the cheaper pork. The host does get last dibs.

If it were a 50th birthday, OP should have bought two lamb joints rather than one better option and one less good one with not enough of the good one to go round.

Do you mean the “derailing” Christians; “nearly derailing” witches or the CFs ?