What is the most CF behaviour someone has shown when visiting your home?

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Just that really......

Mine was a few years ago and I'm still whenever I think about it.

My youngest had started primary school a few months prior to the event and she had got a bit friendly with one of the other children in the class and as a result I had got to know their mum quite well, in terms of chatting in the playground anyway.

We had storm one morning on the school run and as it was much closer to my house than hers I invited her back for a cuppa till the storm passed. I put the kettle on to boil and then went to the loo, then had to take an "urgent" phone call from my eldest school for some reason or other, can't remember what exactly and it certainly wasn't an emergency.

When I was upstairs I heard some clattering around in the kitchen and then heard a sizzling noise.

When I went back downstairs she was frying bacon. She hadn't asked, I hadn't offered and it meant she had gone through my fridge and cupboards the first time she had been to my house. When I asked what she was doing she said she was hungry and hadn't eaten that day

Safe to say I didn't ask her to come back after that!!

What CF behaviours have others shown in your home?

Can you stop policing what other posters post? What's the point?

Agree with @Antiquiteas It’s ruining a lighthearted thread

There's no hate for Lurpak. Just for butter on bacon sandwiches. They're for ketchup only

I asked politely. Ish. Ok, not very politely, but it’s derailing a very entertaining thread when posters sift through the earlier posts and post relentlessly, poking holes in their stories and realign them off for how they reacted.

Telling them off*

Worse than that - the PP blames her DiL for exactly the same behaviours that her son is doing. Or not doing, more accurately!

DiL was clearly just following her husband's lead in how he is expected to behave in his parents' home. He doesn't get slagged off by his adoring mother, but DiL gets a kicking.

Another one missing the point that this is a couple bringing - & then removing! - the desserts. Why all the ire at DiL, when PP's son is equally at fault?

But that's not the point Pumpkin.

The point is, some women feel modest about it, some women do not, & wherever a woman is on that scale is her own prerogative.

It is NOT the prerogative of men to instruct women on whether they need to be modest or not. That is our choice alone. If men are uncomfortable with a woman's breatfeeding choice, it is up to those men to remove themselves from the situation - not to tell women to stop doing it, or to go elsewhere in their own home.

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My SiL (wife's sister) thrives on conflict, I can't stand her and try to avoid being in the same county.

Anyway, she used to come round a couple of times a week, for dinner. She never lifted a finger to help and let her kids wreck all my stuff. By the by....

Anyway, they'd turn up and she'd insult me on the threshold, then bang a bottle of cheap weasel piss on the sideboard. I'd put a decent red and a decent white on the table, the first few times.

Before the food was out, she'd glug a whole bottle and be nasty drunk, so I learned to put the wine out after the food. She never thanked me, only criticised.

She always took the bottle of weasel piss home with her; as far as I know, it could have been the same every time. I asked her why she was taking it and she said,

"Well, YOU didn't drink it!"

One time, I decided to open her cack vino and a bottle of white. When it was time to go, she rifled through my cupboard and tried to steal a bottle of my wine. I told her to put it back and she started shrieking that she wouldn't have anything to drink when she got home.

I grabbed it back and my wife told me to give her "her" wine back. We had a huge row and my wife called me a miser. I explained that she always did the same thing and that she was out of order.

SiL left in floods of the hammiest theatrical fake tears.

This is just getting tedious now. Why not just they beat them up? Is this supposed to be clever?

Agreed.

But if she IS comfortable with it, she is certainly not exposing herself to a man.

And if a man is uncomfortable with it, he needs to get the fuck over himself, not tell her to stop doing it.

No! You are telling me off for reacting at this time! What's the point?

It takes most of us years to learn from CF'ery & finally clock on how to withstand it. Questioning reactions & motivations is instructive.

Happened many years back when I was in school age 14. One of our acquaintances was leaving town the next day and on their farewell party, I told their kid (Age 13 I think) that I collected stamps. Next day he was at my house, I had no idea why... after 2-3 hours mentioned he wanted to see my stamp collection and after going through it he said if he could take it...I said NO .. it had taken me years to collect it. Anyways I had to leave for somewhere, while he was still at my home waiting for his parents to pick him up... and obviously when I came back my stamp collection was gone.

Agree with that. But pp said she wouldn't breastfeed in front of a tradesman and got criticised for that!

That is choice! What did you say to that happening???

I'd have been hard pushed to stay silent on that. It's really shockingly bad manners to do that and I would have said something like "If that were my child doing that I would have told them to return every last one of those chocolate biscuits they stole from the people we were visiting, but as you're not my child, I guess I'll have to let this one slide. It is a very different situation to eating them while we're having a chat and I would have thought your own parents would have told you not to do something like that when you were growing up but they clearly didn't."

Shocking.

Jesus wept!

Did you get it back?

I lent mine to DH's nephew to "have a look at" nearly half a century ago and still haven't got it back.

We once had friends to stay & the wife was Brazilian, the husband was one of my OH best friends & we didn't know his wife that well.
The next day she cooked up a feast in my kitchen, she didn't ask, just started going through my cupboards for pans & ingredients, all very odd but I put it down to a cultural thing!
Might that be the case with bacon lady? Extremely strange behaviour otherwise!

Mine was only a small thing compared with all the above, but it has stuck in my mind, and the thread brought it back. I had some colleagues back at mine for a work related thing. Coffee or tea provided, choccy biscuits, I thought I was hosting well, but suddenly one colleague asked where the ash tray was. "There isn't one." says I "I don't smoke."
I was then lectured on how anti-social I was, and had to find something for her. No-one stuck up for me, and it was before the change in smoking, so someone not wanting their house smelling of the stuff - well I didn't feel I could insist on no smoking.

An older lady in my extended family came over to meet my newborn baby (3 weeks old) and told me I'd put on weight and asked if I was "wanting to lose it", she deliberately said it when my mum and husband were out of the living room. I was in a bit of shock and just said something like "oh, yeah eventually I will" but I wish I'd had a go at her now.

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That’s really nice of you, thank you

Same friend who for reasons that will become obvious I don't see much of anymore......

Turned up an hour late to my kids birthday party with her niece who wasn't invited in tow along with her own daughter. Apparently the emergency that made her late was her SIL having a hangover and needing her to come and take the child away.

Brought her daughter to my house when she was newly 'toilet trained', who proceeded to piss and shit all over 3 different rooms and had run through her own change of clothes plus 3 sets of my daughter's by the time they left. A single accident is one thing but come on.

Cherry on top was letting her daughter take an enormous scoop out of the corner of my children's christening cake with her fingers and ruing it before we'd had a chance to cut or serve any of it to anyone.

Many many years ago while out shopping, my mum met a friend of hers who had another friends baby with her. She asked her oh you’re looking after her baby.she said, she felt sorry for her after what she’s going through. As my mum knew this woman very well, she was surprised and asked what she was going through? She told my mum that the woman had told her she had cancer of the back and this is why she used to take her child so often. It was a complete lie, and my mum has just outed her. Don’t know what happened, but suffice to say she never looked after her child again.