What is the most CF behaviour someone has shown when visiting your home?

[Imamumgetmeoutofhere]

Just that really......

Mine was a few years ago and I'm still whenever I think about it.

My youngest had started primary school a few months prior to the event and she had got a bit friendly with one of the other children in the class and as a result I had got to know their mum quite well, in terms of chatting in the playground anyway.

We had storm one morning on the school run and as it was much closer to my house than hers I invited her back for a cuppa till the storm passed. I put the kettle on to boil and then went to the loo, then had to take an "urgent" phone call from my eldest school for some reason or other, can't remember what exactly and it certainly wasn't an emergency.

When I was upstairs I heard some clattering around in the kitchen and then heard a sizzling noise.

When I went back downstairs she was frying bacon. She hadn't asked, I hadn't offered and it meant she had gone through my fridge and cupboards the first time she had been to my house. When I asked what she was doing she said she was hungry and hadn't eaten that day

Safe to say I didn't ask her to come back after that!!

What CF behaviours have others shown in your home?

A couple of dads stayed until around 1pm because they were friends with DH from one of the DC's hobbies. So it wasn't awkward that the other mum was still there. Then she helped me tidy up a bit, so still not hugely awkward. Then MIL and FIL turned up to see how the party went, so she sat and chatted with them over a cup of tea, still not horribly weird. Then the DC opened and played with some presents, so she supervised that while I did a few things around the house. DH decided to go and have an afternoon nap, and my DCs put a movie on which her DCs wanted to watch, so she sat and watched it with them. Then my DCs asked if her DCs could stay for dinner, it was awkward to say no so they stayed. DH decided to open some wine and they chatted over that for quite some time while I pottered around doing things, cooking dinner etc. It was only when I couldn't stop yawning that she decided to pack up and go. She's a fellow school mum with similar mum friends and we run into each other all of the time - DH thought I was enjoying her company so didn't say anything, and there was no opportunity to boot her out without seeming abrupt. I genuinely felt sorry that she'd got the party time wrong and thought having her and her DC stay at ours for an hour or so would be all that was needed before they left. I was wrong.
In a thread of over 500 CF posts I'm not sure why mine has attracted the limelight, but there's a first time for everything I guess.

I'm very pro-breastfeeding and would support a baby's right to be fed anywhere, but I think if you have a lone workman in your house and he feels uncomfortable with you getting a boob out, then it's reasonable for him to ask you to not be in the same room. Would be better if he went and waited in his van, or another room, but he's completely entitled not to be there when you breastfeed.
I guess his rudeness was a reaction of surprise and anxiety.

She wasn't in it at the time...

Some of these stories leave me laughing, others amazed at people's chutzpah. What I've been waiting for is one of the CF's to respond and justify or normalize their behavior as acceptable!'😳

Do you know what else is ruining this thread?

You policing and criticising how people reacted to the cheeky fucks taking advantage of them.

Can you stop?

Was she German? That's the kind of hospitality Germans tend to expect

No. British.
And after 23 years in Germany our experience is that Germans are scrupulous about sharing costs fairly.

Sorry just had to reply to this. Perhaps the workman forgot how he was fed as a baby. I’m sure the OP wasn’t waving her boob around trying to get him to have a look like a flasher! She was feeding her baby in her own home which she surprisingly has the right to do. A grown man can surely deal with that for the duration of a job? His discomfort at seeing a totally normal thing doesn’t trump a baby being fed.

No, you weren't stupid, you were a child. And it wasn't cheeky, it was criminal. Your not friend is a shitty person. Sorry to be harsh. You can talk to Rape Crisis - no judgement or pressure to report, most of rhe women who go there do it years after childhood abuse, its not just fir recent assaults, and they are great.

@Redebs no but he managed to not make her bed smell, didn't make the tiniest bit of mess and left everything as he found it.

Obviously she'd have known if they were sharing a bed

@Emotionalsupportviper - every Christian does this!

You should have told there that that was a pity, because she was paying for it!

(Though if you are anything like me these quips don't come into your mind until the early hours of the following morning - l'esprit d'escalier

Whenever I read MN threads detailing the awful things CF people do, I am amazed to think that these same people walk the streets, could even be someone I know. How do they not curl up and die from their own rudeness and thoughtlessness? Some of the things honestly, if I was asked to think up the cheekiest thing I could do, I wouldn't imagine half of what I read on here.....

You should save up for a tub - it's an investment.

We keep ours in a specially constructed freezer box inthe safe, next to my tiaras.

We keep ours in a specially constructed freezer box inthe safe, next to my tiaras.

🤣🤣🤣

I apologise. No more.

You can smell people.

This is why even if someone had only stayed in our spare room for a night, and was a vey clean person, there's no way I would just air the bed as some people seem to do - the sheets might be still "clean" but there would be a particular body smell that would linger. I'd have to wash them.

Probably every person in the world does, but some are more vitriolic than others. I have found that the ones most keen to criticise others tend to be the worst offenders.

We are all hypocrites to some degree. Goes with the territory of being human.

Did you get your travel reimbursed? Maybe she thought you did because uni arranged it for her

I could fill the thread with CF MIL stories but one of her best was the time I ended up driving her home after once again she had invited herself for the weekend. It was Winter and I had a small baby in the car, I had offered to take her to the bus stop but she flatly refused to get the bus and DH was working late so I didn’t really feel I had a choice. It was about a 90 minute journey so a three hour round trip. As we got to her town she said she needed to go to Aldi which was in the middle of town through a busy one way system, there was a corner shop at the end of her road on the edge of town. I said I really needed to just drop her and get home as it was getting dark but she made such a fuss and said she could only get what she wanted from Aldi I ended up taking her. She came out of the shop with a loaf of bread and a pint of milk, when I said why the hell could she not have just got them at the corner shop her reply was “they were cheaper in Aldi”. Funnily enough I never drove her home again.

It’s MIL going on about what improvements we should make and that she doesn’t like x or y. Bloody rude.

I thought he would stay one or two nights. After several nights ( can’t remember how many) , I asked him to leave.

I am with @Redebs. Just because it is natural doesn't mean that there should be some given and take it the situation requires it.

My DM! Used to come several times a year, go to bed at 7pm immediately after dinner and disappear until 8am when she was sure breakfast was ready. Never cooked a meal, tidied a dish, helped with the kids. If anything asks for certain dishes to be cooked and always demands a pudding.
says it’s so relaxing at my house, she always gets so much sleep and is so well rested afterwards. Only we are exhausted and worn out from her visits.
secrectly smoked in my house when DC1 was 8 weeks old and she was asked not to smoke.

when DC2 was 6 weeks old, she also left the guest bedroom in a massive mess. No stripped bed, tissues, rubbish and empty water bottles everywhere. That was the last time she stayed, now we tell her to stay in a local Hotel.

1. CF school mum invited herself round for coffee, opened and looked in all my kitchen cupboards, the fridge and the freezer and announced 'well you'll never run out of food will you'
2. Same CF mum asked me what I was doing on a specific evening, and assuming she was suggesting drinks or a meal I told her I thought I was free. She said, oh good, I have tickets for the theater with the eldest, I'll drop my youngest at yours and pick him up on my way home 🙈 then to make it worse, she dropped him off and announced he was potty training. This essentially consisted of her taking him out of nappies and putting him in pants, she didn't bring a potty and as my kids were older, I didn't have one. He proceeded to piss all over my house for the next 4 hours!