Page 21 | What is the most CF behaviour someone has shown when visiting your home?

Imamumgetmeoutofhere · 2023-04-06T17:28:52+00:00

Just that really...... Mine was a few years ago and I'm still [confused] whenever I think about it. My youngest had started primary school a few months prior to the event and she had got a bit friendly with one of the other children in the class and as a result I had got to know their mum quite well, in terms of chatting in the playground anyway. We had storm one morning on the school run and as it was much closer to my house than hers I invited her back for a cuppa till the storm passed. I put the kettle on to boil and then went to the loo, then had to take an "urgent" phone call from my eldest school for some reason or other, can't remember what exactly and it certainly wasn't an emergency. When I was upstairs I heard some clattering around in the kitchen and then heard a sizzling noise. When I went back downstairs she was frying bacon. She hadn't asked, I hadn't offered and it meant she had gone through my fridge and cupboards the first time she had been to my house. When I asked what she was doing she said she was hungry and hadn't eaten that day [confused] Safe to say I didn't ask her to come back after that!! What CF behaviours have others shown in your home?

Endofmytetherfinally · 07/04/2023 22:51

My ex and I had a 2 bed flat in zone 2 london. We lived there for years and in that time the "spare" bedroom was never empty.

A close friend asked to live with us because she couldnt afford equivalent rent to live nearby, then asked for a discount on the mates rates we agreed after a few months because we were renovating (exactly why we didn't want anyone else there in the first place).

I begrudgingly agreed only for her to go home for Xmas and not pay anything that month with no discussion (hangover from uni halls maybe where you don't pay for the hols?). Took 6 months before she moved out only to be replaced by my exs sister. She paid nothing and stayed for 6 months as well. Never bought a bottle of wine or cooked dinner to say thanks. Could afford to live separately or contribute but didn't because she's family. She did the same thing in 2 other flats we stayed in overseas. Even bringing a friend to kip on our one and only sofa for a few weeks.

The biscuit was taken by my dads girlfriends son who dad had agreed could stay again for free. We had no idea when to expect him. He'd randomly turn up. The bedroom lights were permanently off, bed unmade. Random crockery all over the floor. He'd shower at the ceack of dawn or after midnight when he rocked up from his girlfriends. He honestly treated it like a hotel but was such a nice guy I don't think it was malice, just an utter lack of self awareness. No thanks, gift of God knows what when he finally left. We must have saved all 3 of them thousands.

TMess · 07/04/2023 22:54

mybeautifuloak · 07/04/2023 20:32

Why would you not say something like 'well I wouldn't invite myself to someone else's house for 2 weeks over Christmas. Interesting how we are all different"

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Well, likely because I was quite young and still trying hard to have all of DH’s family like me. Don’t worry, I have found my backbone in the intervening years. 😆

MacarenaMacarena · 07/04/2023 22:59

Emotionalsupportviper · 07/04/2023 16:44

I wouldn't say all, but most.

I speak as a practising Christian (in fact, a licensed minister). I see too many people following the bits they like and ignoring the bits they don't, and then coming on all holier-than-thou because you happen not to comply with the bits that THEY think should be legal obligations, and brushing aside any remarks you might make about their own sins which you might point out to them.

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Yep... See that a lot

wellstopdoingitthen · 07/04/2023 23:01

Teacoaster · 07/04/2023 00:01

An electrician brought a random woman round whilst doing a job at my house for a few days for some "fun" and at my expense (I was paying for his time). I wasn't home when this happened but I caught his behaviour on cameras I had installed around my property. I wrote about it on Mumsnet at the time and I was deemed the unreasonable one because I filmed his behaviour rather than calling him out straightaway and risk having no electricity to my house if he decided not to come back.

And yes, I called him out once the job had completed but I was still the one in the wrong because Mumsnet said I was.

Moral of the story, don't tell Mumsnet about cheeky fuckery 🙃

I remember this one...if it makes any difference I thought you played it right.

Snugglemonkey · 07/04/2023 23:08

nicetoseetgesunsout · 07/04/2023 07:33

Elderly woman I'd never met knocked my door and asked to have a look around my house as she'd lived in when she was a student nurse about 50yrs before.
I thought it was a bit cheeky but also quite sweet.
I did let her in and show her around... it was actually interesting as she explained to me that the house had been completely reconfigured since she lived in it as it had been a HMO for student nurses.
Cheeky? Im not sure but I wouldn't do that as I'd feel that it was.

I would enjoy that. I don't think it is cheeky.

Ilovelblue · 07/04/2023 23:09

Snugglemonkey · 07/04/2023 22:28

Why punish the old man for it?

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I continued to make other meals for him until he died but I never made anything for him to share with his awful family ever again. They were scroungers of the highest order.

Snugglemonkey · 07/04/2023 23:23

Emotionalsupportviper · 07/04/2023 08:15

This is heartbreaking.

I have fish - both tropical, and coldwater goldfish - and they are real little characters. People who say "It's just a fish." have no idea what they are talking about. They are living, breathing, feeling creatures and a lot more intelligent and aware than most people realise. Many of mine are very tame and will take food from my hand.

It breaks my heart to think how your poor fish must have suffered.

I hope that vile man "fell over" a lot!

(Just as a matter of interest, what culture was he from? Often the ones who don't like female autonomy are also anti-alcohol, but he obviously wasn't)

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The 'just a fish' attitude is awful. We have a tropical tank and live them. Ours start congregating when food is due and lots will take food from my hand. They are so lovely!

I had goldfish at uni that were killed by baby oil being poured in the water and others killed by ecstasy despite being in my (locked) room. People can be evil bastards.

DiddlySquat52 · 07/04/2023 23:32

A 'friend' was between homes for 3 weeks and asked to stay at my place. Invited her boyfriend round and made me feel so uncomfortable in my own home that I went out for the day.

I got home to find them on my two seater sofa scoffing a large takeaway pizza. Didn't offer me a seat or any pizza.

Then, the cheeky F asked me to drive her boyfriend home. I said no as, by that point I was so pissed off. It was pouring with rain and the boyfriend didn't have a coat. He asked his girlfriend to borrow her coat so he didn't get wet and she said no!!! I couldn't believe that she was happy to let him stand at the bus stop in the pouring rain with no coat.

However, as I was still so angry about being made to feel that my home was not my own by both of them I decided that I didn't owe them anything.

I still can't get over how self centred she was.

Ishouldbeoutside · 08/04/2023 00:06

When I was at Uni i rented a flat over the summer with my boyfriend in my home town. I was working in a summer job and he was studying. A male friend of mine who I had met before Uni but who ended up also at the same university asked if he could stay whilst he was in town. I stupidly said yes. He used the flat to sleep but spent the day doing his own thing. Except he showed no signs of leaving. It was really awkward. He didn’t eat with us or really talk to us, just used the flat that we were paying for as free accommodation. Eventually I had to ask him to leave. He didn’t give me so much as a bottle of wine as thanks.

ReadersD1gest · 08/04/2023 00:09

Ishouldbeoutside · 08/04/2023 00:06

When I was at Uni i rented a flat over the summer with my boyfriend in my home town. I was working in a summer job and he was studying. A male friend of mine who I had met before Uni but who ended up also at the same university asked if he could stay whilst he was in town. I stupidly said yes. He used the flat to sleep but spent the day doing his own thing. Except he showed no signs of leaving. It was really awkward. He didn’t eat with us or really talk to us, just used the flat that we were paying for as free accommodation. Eventually I had to ask him to leave. He didn’t give me so much as a bottle of wine as thanks.

Why would you pay rent on a flat and let someone move in for free? It beggars belief, really.

AngryBirdsNoMore · 08/04/2023 00:29

Tattooname · 07/04/2023 17:39

Please can we stop having more details/information on how horrible this would have been for the fish? It was upsetting enough to read the first time on a lighthearted thread.

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Yeah I agree it’s really spoiling it.

mackthepony · 08/04/2023 00:32

Fil and his then girlfriend came to stay with us for three days after DS was born (via section).

Then girlfriend then proceeded to make a banana bread out of all of our ingredients, in our kitchen. Which DH ended up cleaning up.

Wtaf didn't they just bake one before and bring with them?? The mess, oh do you have eggs, bananas, butter etc etc

Fucking maniacs

mackthepony · 08/04/2023 00:33

I remember the naughty electrician

AngryBirdsNoMore · 08/04/2023 00:34

AngryBirdsNoMore · 08/04/2023 00:29

Yeah I agree it’s really spoiling it.

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Sorry don’t mean to be the thread police, but like, it’s a light hearted thread. No sadness please :(

SkyandSurf · 08/04/2023 00:37

I agree with others, this is a lighthearted thread. If you want to discuss horrific animal deaths please start a different thread, it's upsetting.

tobee · 08/04/2023 00:45

ShinyPikachu · 06/04/2023 19:11

One winter when it was freezing cold outside I got home to see a friend of my neighbour waiting outside in the snow so I asked if she wanted to warm up in my house until neighbour got home.

I offered her a cup of tea which she declined but she asked if she could have some food. I made her some toast and she then had a cigarette from a packet my mum had accidentally left in the house (she did ask first).

We heard the neighbour get back but she didn't leave straight away, I eventually had to say "I can definitely hear neighbour, you should go see her now" and she finally left.

Fast forward to a couple of days later and she shows up at my door again, says neighbour isn't there but could she please have another cigarette and some more toast.

I thankfully was about to leave the house so I just told her that I couldn't help as I was going out. She didn't come back again.

This sounds like the start of a ghost story!!! 😱😱😱

RubaiyatOfAnyone · 08/04/2023 01:12

@CriticalAlert the fact that you included your awful awful recollection of rape and abuse when you were just a child on a lighthearted thread about illicit bacon eating gives the impression you’ve tried to minimise what happened to you to make it bearable. I understand the need, but if you can afford it and when you feel ready, please do talk to a therapist about it what happened. I am so sorry you went through that.

wyntersuhn · 08/04/2023 01:13

We hosted our daughter's birthday party at home a few years ago. Lovely morning with the children playing in the garden, all went well, but we were quite happy when the parents came to pick them up as it was exhausting. One child didn't turn up, which was odd as her mother had RSVPed to say she was coming. Turns out she'd got the time wrong and thought the party started at its finishing time. I felt sorry for her and her DC (she brought all 4 of them!) when they arrived, but assumed she'd let her children play with mine and the party stragglers for a while, pick up some cake and a party bag, and leave (with all the other parents!). No, she didn't. They stayed until 9pm...9 hours after the party finished. I had to cook us all dinner and drive them home as she'd had a few to drink with dinner.

Emotionalstorm · 08/04/2023 01:23

When we first moved into our family home, we had spent £250k on renovations and furniture. My friend came over for the housewarming. She told me the only thing she liked about my home is the tap.

Emotionalstorm · 08/04/2023 01:24

We also made a three course meal for her and gifted her a load of dessert to take home and she never said thanks.

ReadersD1gest · 08/04/2023 01:26

wyntersuhn · 08/04/2023 01:13

We hosted our daughter's birthday party at home a few years ago. Lovely morning with the children playing in the garden, all went well, but we were quite happy when the parents came to pick them up as it was exhausting. One child didn't turn up, which was odd as her mother had RSVPed to say she was coming. Turns out she'd got the time wrong and thought the party started at its finishing time. I felt sorry for her and her DC (she brought all 4 of them!) when they arrived, but assumed she'd let her children play with mine and the party stragglers for a while, pick up some cake and a party bag, and leave (with all the other parents!). No, she didn't. They stayed until 9pm...9 hours after the party finished. I had to cook us all dinner and drive them home as she'd had a few to drink with dinner.

Oh come on, you didn't "have to" do any such thing.

wyntersuhn · 08/04/2023 01:47

Sorry @ReadersD1gest, forgot you were there and were a party to everything that was going on. Thanks for keeping me honest

ReadersD1gest · 08/04/2023 01:50

wyntersuhn · 08/04/2023 01:47

Sorry @ReadersD1gest, forgot you were there and were a party to everything that was going on. Thanks for keeping me honest

Weird... Just as weird as your original post 😄

wyntersuhn · 08/04/2023 02:06

If you say so 🤷‍♀️

WitheredandOld · 08/04/2023 03:14

wyntersuhn · 08/04/2023 01:13

We hosted our daughter's birthday party at home a few years ago. Lovely morning with the children playing in the garden, all went well, but we were quite happy when the parents came to pick them up as it was exhausting. One child didn't turn up, which was odd as her mother had RSVPed to say she was coming. Turns out she'd got the time wrong and thought the party started at its finishing time. I felt sorry for her and her DC (she brought all 4 of them!) when they arrived, but assumed she'd let her children play with mine and the party stragglers for a while, pick up some cake and a party bag, and leave (with all the other parents!). No, she didn't. They stayed until 9pm...9 hours after the party finished. I had to cook us all dinner and drive them home as she'd had a few to drink with dinner.

But why on earth didn’t you kick them out? You could easily have made an excuse. Why do people martyr themselves like this? Ridiculous behaviour.