What is the most CF behaviour someone has shown when visiting your home?

[Imamumgetmeoutofhere]

Just that really......

Mine was a few years ago and I'm still whenever I think about it.

My youngest had started primary school a few months prior to the event and she had got a bit friendly with one of the other children in the class and as a result I had got to know their mum quite well, in terms of chatting in the playground anyway.

We had storm one morning on the school run and as it was much closer to my house than hers I invited her back for a cuppa till the storm passed. I put the kettle on to boil and then went to the loo, then had to take an "urgent" phone call from my eldest school for some reason or other, can't remember what exactly and it certainly wasn't an emergency.

When I was upstairs I heard some clattering around in the kitchen and then heard a sizzling noise.

When I went back downstairs she was frying bacon. She hadn't asked, I hadn't offered and it meant she had gone through my fridge and cupboards the first time she had been to my house. When I asked what she was doing she said she was hungry and hadn't eaten that day

Safe to say I didn't ask her to come back after that!!

What CF behaviours have others shown in your home?

Well at least she 'heard' you and tried to make it right... A true CF wouldn't have.

I often read these and think I don’t have one to add. But I’ve just remembered that I do and it’s a doozy.

16 years ago (Ex) best friend had an 8 year old boy and a 2 year old. I just had 2 yr old DD. BF calls me one weekday and asks me if I could pick up her eldest from school and have him for an hour after school, I had done it a few times and was recognised by the teachers. I took him home and gave him a snack. Set about making our (mine, ex P and DDs) dinner whilst he watched some tv. By the time ex P arrived home I still hadn’t heard from BF so plated up some dinner for her DS (gave myself a smaller portion). Another hour goes by and still hadn’t heard anything so I try to call her…no answer. By 7pm I’m putting DD to bed and starting to worry as I still haven’t heard from her. 7.30 and my phone rings..it’s BF, she’s driven 3 hours away to meet up with her ex boyfriend (she didn’t even have a driving license but that’s another story) and she’s staying the night with him so can I just have her DS overnight and pop him to school the next morning, she’d be back by school finishing time. I was a bit wet behind the ears back then so I just complied. I cleaned his uniform, set up the spare room for him and of course took him to school next morning.

It was almost like she forgot she had an older child she needed to get home to!

@CriticalAlert

Absolutely wasn't your fault that happened to you. You were drugged.

I hope you are doing ok now.

It seriously affected me at the time. I totally lost self esteem. I kept thinking 'why me', 'what's wrong with me that they did this?' I dropped out of college
(the new 'friends' were still there) where I was studying O levels. I just couldn't face them. Then I went off and began a 'career' working in various dry cleaners for years. Not particularly inspiring for a bright kid. But I wanted to keep away from people. Eventually I took O and A levels and did well. I got two degrees. Thinking back now, I just wish it had never happened. But we can't erase the past. I got in with a REALLY bad lot. But at the time I thought they were great. Actually it's been good to talk about it. I don't think I have ever mentioned this before in my life!!

We took DP's mother to see our new home. Tinkly little laugh. 'Oh, it's so tiny! And the ceilings are so low! I'm surprised you can stand up in here, ha-ha! And it's a good job there's no cat because there's no room to swing one! Ha-ha-ha!'
Another friend visited us when we lived in Ireland. I'd paid her fares etc and a B&B because she 'liked her privacy.' On leaving, she listed the faults with our cottage and told me we'd better get the repairs done before she came again. I never invited her back, though.

About 12 or 13 years ago, I spent the entire day cleaning my house. By the end of it, I was absolutely exhausted and got my period. I was wearing tracksuit bottoms with bleach all over them, had no make up on, greasy hair, bit grubby and generally looked and felt a bit rough.

My then boyfriend was going out with his friends that night so my plan was to get in the shower, get nice clean pyjamas on and watch x factor while he was out. One of his friends texted to ask if he could come over with a pizza and have some beers before they went out. Fine, no issues there. I was still in my bleachy tracksuit bottoms, hair up in a greasy bun with a breakout of spots and finishing off tidying up. The buzzer went and my boyfriend went to let the friend in.

Boyfriend came running into me to say he could see from the intercom that the friend had brought loads of people with him. I looked like a sewer rat and felt awful and in a panic not to be seen, I ran upstairs and waited for them to leave. I really felt very vulnerable, periody and not at my best at all. I hoped they would all go soon so I could have my shower, get changed and relax.

Turns out the friend brought around 15 people to our place. I could hear all of the laughter, chatter and girls clicking around in heels downstairs. I knew that everyone was all dolled up and I felt trapped upstairs, minging! They stayed for about 3 hours and the longer I was upstairs the harder it was to come down. Eventually they all left and I filled up 3 bin bags of bottles, cans and cigarette butts. The place was a complete mess and I was so, so upset.

My boyfriend said he tried to get everyone to drink up and move along but he ended up drunk too and lost track of time himself. I did contact the friend afterwards and tell him how I felt and he apologised (can't remember his reasoning).

I’d planned a party for all of my partners family one boxing day. Spent a ton on food and drink. It was the first time my mil had been. She criticised everything. My couch wasn’t comfy enough, she wasn’t eating cold buffet food we had to warm it up for her, it was too cold in the house etc. she didn’t stop. By the end of the night she even had one of her sons rubbing her feet for her.

We are a group of friends, Abby, Belinda, Charlotte and me. Abby, Belinda and I grew up together and have spare keys for each houses. Belinda and her family went away on holiday and I was feeding her cat. Charlotte came with me one day and we sorted the cat, fed, cleaned and fussed, and left. About a week later, Belinda and family return to find Charlotte living in their house. Charlotte had taken Belinda's DH key from the hook and, as her family were staying, she thought Belinda wouldn't mind. She had meant to leave before they got home!!

I should add that our shower was downstairs and there was no way to wash, make myself more presentable without walking past everyone!

That is dreadful.

I'm so sorry you endured this. Yes, you were naive, but you were a child. They all behaved appallingly.

I live abroad. When DC3 was born, a friend gifted me her hardly used steam mop as I have tiled floors. I hadn't gotten around to using it yet due to being on bedrest. Mum came to stay for three weeks to help (csection delivery and it was taking me a long time to recover this time and establish BF). When she left, she said 'I've taken something. If you notice it's gone and want it back, I'll return it at Christmas.'

She's only gone and put the steam cleaner in her suitcase and taken it back to the UK!

She has carpets throughout her house too, except for the kitchen!

My best friends (husband and wife) moved away and whenever they come to visit they stay a couple of days.

One time when they were staying it was morning and we were stood around chatting drinking tea and I clocked that my friend was wearing the same pj's that I had. I said 'ooh, I've got those same ones' she said 'they are yours, I've borrowed them.'

It wasn't really cheeky because I love her and would have let her borrow them no problem but I was very amused.

I've had a few over the years.

We would have a bit of an "open house" policy when I lived in the family home - friends would drop in at any time, there was always snacks to offer them, Father would always make a big pot of tea etc. Weekends he would buy a big box of fresh cream cakes and offer them round to any visitors, and we would offer to make something like a sandwich or cheese on toast sometimes. One friend would come round regularly, knew the routine. Then one day she just upped and walked into the pantry and made herself a massive sandwich without asking, a bit beyond the normal but we shrugged it off. An hour later she got very miffed because we hadn't made her tea or offered her first choice of the cakes. I pointed out that either she was family, e.g. making her own food without asking first, or a guest to be offered first choice & served things. She couldn't see how the 2 relationships were different.

Another friend a few years later asked to stay for a few days - her mother had died about a year before, the family house had been sold and she'd moved a long way away. Had inherited a very large amount of money from her mother, enough to buy her new house in an expensive town outright and have a large six figure sum left over. I had recently before the visit had a major breakdown and was unable to work, and was going to have to sell my very nice car to meet mortgage interest payments. She was well aware of my situation at the time. She sat there and asked what was for dinner, and I explained that I had very little in the house, just a box of eggs, a few tins & some bread which was my food for the week. She sat there looking blank, so finally I made scrambled eggs on toast - in her place, I would have ordered a takeaway but supposed that maybe she hadn't thought about it. Went out of the door next morning to find she hadn't put the hand brake on when she'd parked and her car had rolled back and placed a large dent in the front of my pristine car that was being sold that week. I just broke down sobbing and when she looked at me in amazement explained that the dent had devalued sole disposable asset by a significant amount, and she just shrugged. She moved on to another member of my family, who explained to her in no uncertain terms exactly how out of order she'd been and "suggested" that she offer me the amount the car had been devalued by.

Final, and probably cheekiest one, was an ex-BF. By ex I mean I had dumped him a few weeks before the incident. He lived with an elderly relative, so we had always had sex in my house. Then one day he called me out of the blue and suggested that as I was working now, could he and his new (married) GF come to my house & use it to shag while I was out at work! I said NO very clearly and blocked his number on my phone.

On a flight we had paid for a bottle of champagne, the women in front got her coat and hung it on back of her seat covering my tv (cf part 1) then she stood up and went to put on nearly knocking over the champagne as she did. Then she then ohh you've got champagne then got herself a glass, poured herself a glass and sat back down. Me and dh was that gobsmacked words didn't even come out our both.

We hosted a BBQ for our friends, and provided all the food, jugs of homemade cocktails, did the cooking and cleaned up after. We just asked that guests bring some extra drinks for themselves in the likelihood we ran out of cocktails.

My cousin and her partner turned up empty handed, her partner lifted the 2ltr cocktail jug that was sitting on the table for everyone to share and put it on the ground between his feet so it was obvious he wanted it for himself.

Myself and DH were busy hosting / cooking so didn't notice for a while but when we did DH called him out on it and said the jug had to stay on the table for everyone and so we knew when to make a fresh batch.

We ran out of cocktails so the guy just started helping himself to the drink other people had brought. He also would take bites out of the food spit it out and say it was disgusting.

When things were winding down around 9pm and everyone else was leaving they disappeared into the house to wait for their taxi. When we finally went in we caught him trying to buy the boxing pay per view fight on our cable TV (unsuccessfully only because it asked for a pin). I asked what the fuck he though he was doing and he said they'd cancelled the taxi and decided to stay and watch the fight, which was in Las Vegas so would have been shown our time at about 5.00am. I lost it at him only to be told to stop being so prissy he'd give me the money when he was paid at the end of the month.

DH threw the two of them but he still tried to get the left over drinks from the fridge, that they hadn't brought. My cousin, usually so sensible, just gave a tinkly laugh any time he was badly behaved.

Sadly they are still together

We went out to a posh restaurant for dinner with another couple. We announced at the start of the meal we had exciting news that I was pregnant. I explained I obviously wouldn't be drinking alcohol and my DH said he wouldn't either in solidarity, so the two of us stuck to soft drinks for the meal. The other couple proceeded to order drink after drink, cocktails, spirits, and then shots towards the end. Both got drunk. Imagine our surprise when the bill came at the end and THEY WANTED TO SPLIT IT! I laughed as I thought they must be joking but nope they weren't! Despite us only sipping 2 cokes with our dinners DH paid our 'half', as he hates confrontation and just wanted to get out of there. I was so gobsmacked I didn't say anything and I look back now and it pisses me off all over again! Still can't believe the front on them 😡

Oh! I remember this thread really well. It was bloody fantastic 😁

When I moved into my current house I spent a lot of effort and money making it nice. The first person I invited to stay was a friend I'd known for 20 years.

From the moment she arrived, she was 'off' with me. She told me she didn't like dishwashers and didn't use them (I was very proud of my first ever dishwasher) and tried to force me to wash up my plate in the cold washing up water she'd 'saved' for me. She wouldn't use the tumbler I'd left upstairs for her in the spare room, but came down for a different one. When we went out, she criticised me for taking too long to cross the road on a blind corner. She ate my cooking with a grim expression on her face and spent at least an hour every evening on the phone to other people. I've never been so glad to see the back of anyone.

We are no longer in touch.

Glad you're doing well, even if it took a while

You need boundaries

I think that when sweets are available, some people's reptilian brain takes over and the impulse to take them is hard to resist.

Some of these stories are amazing. I've wracked my brain and can't recall ever being the victim of Olympic level cheekiness like most of these posts.

I’m tend to buy a lot of make-up and skincare items. Some in sets so there may be an item or two I don’t use like a wrong colour lipstick etc. Also free samples many companies give with a purchase. Anyway, some years ago I had accumulated loads of unwanted stuff so took it all into work in a big basket and left it in the office with a note saying help yourself if you see something you fancy. Many staff took one or two things and were very pleased with them. Towards the end of the day one of the staff came to find me to say that ‘Janet’ had taken the entire basket and was on her way out of the door. I went after her and asked her what she thought she was doing only for her to explain that she was taking them for her unemployed, druggie layabout brother to sell as it would help him out. I soon disabused her of that idea and snatched the basket out of her hands.

Where did she get the glass?

Couldn’t agree more! Totally bizarre that CFs get away with behaving like this. No way would I let things like this happen in my home.