What is the most CF behaviour someone has shown when visiting your home?

[Imamumgetmeoutofhere]

Just that really......

Mine was a few years ago and I'm still whenever I think about it.

My youngest had started primary school a few months prior to the event and she had got a bit friendly with one of the other children in the class and as a result I had got to know their mum quite well, in terms of chatting in the playground anyway.

We had storm one morning on the school run and as it was much closer to my house than hers I invited her back for a cuppa till the storm passed. I put the kettle on to boil and then went to the loo, then had to take an "urgent" phone call from my eldest school for some reason or other, can't remember what exactly and it certainly wasn't an emergency.

When I was upstairs I heard some clattering around in the kitchen and then heard a sizzling noise.

When I went back downstairs she was frying bacon. She hadn't asked, I hadn't offered and it meant she had gone through my fridge and cupboards the first time she had been to my house. When I asked what she was doing she said she was hungry and hadn't eaten that day

Safe to say I didn't ask her to come back after that!!

What CF behaviours have others shown in your home?

I would have been feckin' furious!

How bliddy bad mannered and self-entitled can you get!

My in-laws were staying with us for the weekend. 5pm and the doorbell rings. I open the door to find a pizza delivery guy at the doorstep. I was about to tell him he had the wrong house, when my sister-in-law barged past and grabbed the pizza boxes. She then proceeded to sit at my dining table with my bro-in-law and their three kids to eat. They hadn’t asked me if I had anything planned for dinner for everyone that evening, nor had they asked if we also wanted pizza too when they ordered it! Just sat there and scoffed it IN MY HOUSE without offering any to us or our children!

SIL. Mid-30s, single. Works for a large multi-national. During the pandemic, she moved house to work in a different branch “for a change”. Her base office is where we live, which is a 1.5hr commute from where her home was (used to be fine as she only had to be in once a week) but a 5hr drive from her new home. We asked her how she was going to manage a 10hr round trip once a week from her new location. She said “oh it’s fine, I’ve negotiated it down to once per month for 2 nights/3 days, and I’ll just stay with you”. We have barely enough space for us as it is, desperate to move but priced out, she would have had to sleep on our one and only sofa in our open plan flat, during the school week, at a day’s notice. She’s a drinker, stays out late, doesn’t tell anyone what her plans are, would have been an extra person to get in/out the bathroom each morning and evening etc.

She did not stay with us. I later found out that she had also negotiated an hotel allowance covering her stay at a nearby 5* hotel (think Soho House style accommodation) but had wanted to pocket the cash!

She’s moved again, for another change. Thankfully closer to her base office (and we still haven’t moved 😫).

Why didn’t you tell him to get out of your bedroom as soon as he came in???! Poor you.

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Met my CF through a friend. She seemed nice enough in the beginning, it was a slow burn as she ramped up to full throttle CF-ery.

She had childcare experience and offered to babysit my two young children. Sounded great, and she was a friend of a friend so all good. We agreed a price and a date.

A few days before she was due to babysit she mentioned she'd been in my road and had seen our (rented) house.

This was followed up a few hours later with an "ooooops, I've told you the wrong price. It's £20 per hour, per child. Not just £20 an hour. And my other clients buy me a takeaway and pay for my cab home No issue getting her a cab but a takeaway?! We were only going out for a few hours!

Needless to say I cancelled the arrangement.

She then started turning up at my house for a lift, can I borrow x, and asking if I could loan £20 for "milk for her baby"

All while she and her boyfriend were out every weekend getting drunk.

She went as far as to ask me to buy her/give her my TV 🤯

I blocked her on all platforms and never spoke to her again. She had absolutely no shame

I remember your thread, and I was on your side! I remember you got a discount or didn’t pay the extras or something. What a CF he was.

She bust into a fucking Christmas present like a raccoon in a bin, just to get at some chocolate, having already been bought a Chinese takeaway and having full access to cupboards of food.

Your standards of behaviour must be very low.

Please can we stop having more details/information on how horrible this would have been for the fish? It was upsetting enough to read the first time on a lighthearted thread.

A few years ago I had a horrible injury to my knee and was in agony and totally non weight bearing. My husband had to go away for work and my MIL volunteered to pop round to help with the kids who were about 7 and 9. It was during the summer holidays so really all that was needed was to feed us and make sure they weren’t doing anything dangerous. The first day she waltzed in and announced that as I couldn’t walk she’d make things easier for me and would be going to Nandos for lunch. I assumed she’d take the boys and bring me something back. Nope. Come midday the boys come in and say they are hungry. I tell them to ask Nanny, only to discover she’s gone off out. Yup, she’d taken herself to Nandos, with the money I’d given her to pay for our share, leaving me to try and feed myself and the children.
She was quite outraged when I asked for the money back and told her not to bother the next day.

My mother- in-law saw me mopping my kitchen floor. She said, “You should be on your hands and knees scrubbing that.“ I was so amazed; I had been raised to show respect to older people so said nothing. I’m sure she thought I was never good enough for her son. She never showed me the slightest bit of affection, but after several strokes, when she was wheelchair bound, she said that she loved me. My unspoken thought was, It’s too damn late.” It obviously still hurts or I wouldn’t be telling you all.

My friend stayed with us for two weeks and during that time she sat and did nothing, left a trail of mess wherever she went, didn’t offer to help with cooking or anything whatsoever, and bought nothing to contribute towards a meal or a bottle of wine etc.

The day she left she didn’t even say thanks for having me to stay, she just said to me as she walked out the door “you should have bought a much nicer house for your household income.”

I can’t imagine my DM or MIL taking a penny for ours never mind spending it on themselves. Shameless 😳

Years back, when we were first married we invited DH's family for Easter dinner. His cousin wanted to see their gran so asked if he could come. It pushed numbers from 10 to 11 so it didn't seem too bad. We'd ordered lamb for 8 (a few kids so not full portions) and figured we'd add a starter and bulk out the sides as we were not very well off.

Then he asked if his boyfriend could come as he could drive and he'd like gran to meet him. We agree, but at this point realise we need to get more lamb and buy a second joint so we've meat for 16, to serve 10 adults and 2 picky kids.

The day comes and fortunately there is plenty of food - everyone helps themselves buffet style in the kitchen to bring through to the table and there's most of the second joint left when I serve myself last. Cousin inhales his food and is first up to get seconds, takes a while and comes back through with a full second helping. Fair enough. Except when DH and BIL go to get seconds it turns out cousin has served himself a plate and then eaten all the lamb that was left!

I remember thinking that he must have eaten nearly £40 of lamb to himself and being appalled as that was near enough our weekly Grocery budget and it was only the second time I'd met him.

Fortunately everyone called him out on it, and he rocked up with very nice wine and snacks and a £50 tesco voucher to apologise the next day and said he just couldn't resist proper home cooking so we did forgive him in the end!

I had a guy come to my house to service our computer. Never met him before but he was recommended by a friend. As he left he asked if he could have a banana from my bowl (that was on kitchen table). It was really odd. Never had him back!

SIL slept in my bed. Boxing Day a few years ago, she and BIL came over to see our DCs. She excused herself to use the toilet and hadn't reappeared after 30 minutes. I went to check and see if she was ok and found her in my bedroom asleep in my bed! She's done some other weird \rude stuff over the years like coming over for dinner but says she's not hungry as she just ate right before coming over. That kind of thing

We had a friend sleeping on our sofa as she was in between flat leases. She was there for 3 weeks, she would leave things all over place, but best was one night returning home her boyfriend was over and using shower. That's not bad, but he then walked in living room wet through with a towel round his waist and took a wet towel off his head and plonked it on top of the television which was switched on.... I couldn't even speak...

30 odd years ago I had a friend who used to come to my house most days with her son (our kids were the same age). The house would be trashed and she’d head home without any offer to tidy up. One day she actually had the cheek to comment her house was much tidier than mine!!

Family couldn’t afford to stay in our wedding hotel so we said they could use our spare room and help themselves to food. They didn’t sleep in the guest bed, they slept in our bed, didn’t change the sheets before or afterwards and then they ate our Easter eggs out of the fridge. It still annoys me many years later.

When I was 15 and a very silly little kid who thought she was grown up, got involved with group a few years older than myself. My new ‘girlfriend’s’ boyfriend gave me some drugs, I didn’t have any money to pay him, and I thought that was that.
I arranged to meet my ‘friend’ the next weekend at my house. Who turned up? Her boyfriend with two other blokes. For some stupid reason I got in a car with them, they gave me something and I was pretty out of it……. and well you can guess the rest. It was my payment to him. At least they drove me home.
The thing is my ‘friend’ knew all about this. I don’t think I have ever been so hurt in the whole of my life. Talk about growing up quickly.

A friend of my ex husband who had had too much to drink and kicked my lovely, friendly cat who was walking past him and rubbed against his leg. I kicked him out after that obviously. Twat.

A friend came to stay for the weekend - my parents had just returned from hols in America and had given me some sweets for the grandkids which I had put in the kitchen cupboard as a surprise. In the morning I came downstairs and my friend had eaten them in the night and had opened so many things. She said she had an eating disorder and ate at 3am then made herself sick. She hasn’t come back!

When we invited a small group of my DSs friends over for DSs birthday sleepover party for one night, which included hiring themed teepee sleepover tents and all the stuff that comes with them such as mattresses, bedding, lighting, cushions etc. Not cheap to hire but really cool and my son was thrilled with it. It was all set up in the living room for them to enjoy a group movie night.

One of his friends arrived with a suitcase (I'm not joking) full of his own bedding and pillow, soft toys and night light and said "my mother says I shouldn't sleep on one of those cheap unsupportive mattresses you've hired, so I'll be going up to your DSs bed to sleep instead"

And when I said no, he will sleep with the rest of the group as its only for one night of birthday fun, and the mattresses were good quality sprung mattresses anyway (which they were, not airbeds or anything like that), he waited until DH and I went to bed and then took himself up to my sons room and slept in his bed. His mother had text him throughout the evening telling him our hired mattresses weren't good enough for him and to go and take my DSs bed.

He was a bossy little sod all night. Chose the film, kept shushing the other kids if they spoke. He'd also stomped downstairs in the night (after commandeering DSs bedroom) to tell the other boys off for still giggling and chatting too late because it was ruining the quality of his sleep.

They were all 8 and 9 year olds.

He hasn't been invited back. His snooty DM is turning him into a whiney little fun sponge.

The morning after doing a night shift ( got home a 5am ) my MIL came over uninvited at 9 am , I’m still in bed understandably as I was absolutely knackered from the night shift! She proceeds to open all the curtains in my bedroom , and starts telling me get to up and get started for the day! Safe to say I wasn’t happy with my partner for letting her in 😂 I wouldn’t of actually minded if she came in and just left me to sleep and had a cuppa with my partner! I did remind her I did a night shift and she apologised but still I wouldn’t come into someone’s home and start opening their curtains and getting them up for the day!

Years ago a get together of work friends & our partners at one couple's house. Everyone brought drinks (beer, wine, premixed cocktails). Hosts took drinks & put them in the cupboard then offered everyone "tea, coffee or squash?". One person asked for a beer (he'd brought a branded lager). He was given a supermarket lager. None of us stayed long & left rather shell-shocked. Didn't do it again.