What is the most CF behaviour someone has shown when visiting your home?

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Just that really......

Mine was a few years ago and I'm still whenever I think about it.

My youngest had started primary school a few months prior to the event and she had got a bit friendly with one of the other children in the class and as a result I had got to know their mum quite well, in terms of chatting in the playground anyway.

We had storm one morning on the school run and as it was much closer to my house than hers I invited her back for a cuppa till the storm passed. I put the kettle on to boil and then went to the loo, then had to take an "urgent" phone call from my eldest school for some reason or other, can't remember what exactly and it certainly wasn't an emergency.

When I was upstairs I heard some clattering around in the kitchen and then heard a sizzling noise.

When I went back downstairs she was frying bacon. She hadn't asked, I hadn't offered and it meant she had gone through my fridge and cupboards the first time she had been to my house. When I asked what she was doing she said she was hungry and hadn't eaten that day

Safe to say I didn't ask her to come back after that!!

What CF behaviours have others shown in your home?

I remember saying that once he'd finished the job I would have posted the video on the internet but apparently that wouldn't have been kind, to use the current buzzword.

Right at the very start/pre lock down we were doing the whole CEV socially distanced thing , I pulled the kids from school, and I was using the time at home to have a HUGE clear out. I advertised tons of unwanted DIY stuff on the local fb group and a family turned up to collect stuff one evening. The kid started crying, they needed the toilet and their dad, loading stuff into the car, asked if she could go the toilet. Proper tears and everything. I couldn't say no, off the kid trots up the stairs , her little back pack jiggling as she was rushing up. After they had gone I went to sterilise the banisters and toilet etc and she had filled the back pack with 4 of my toilet rolls!! I was 😮😮😮 that somebody would tell their kids to go into another house and steal. The same week, another CF came to collect something for free, I think it was a tile cutter and he asked if he could take the planter outside my front door. Eeeerrm no mate, it's MINE.

I remember your post! I was fully on your side btw.

WTF!

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They have Covid. Tested this morning. Not coming now.

Feel sorry for the kids and you guys. No story on Tuesday, sorry.

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I was a mature uni student. There was another mature student who was always broke and would often arrive with no lunch or money, and we would all find her something to eat. One day I was going to buy my lunch and she insisted on coming with me. She said how hungry she was , so I told her I only had a fiver, but that was enough for us both to have soup and a roll if she'd like that. She replied "I'd rather have something else if that's OK' I was literally gobsmacked. I said no, I didn't have enough for anything else, so she reluctantly agreed to soup and moaned about how much she disliked it. I was furious I didn't have the filled bagel I had planned! 🤣 Never offered again. She also booked 2 places on a weekend away we all planned (she didn't know which 'hut' she wanted to stay in), refused to give up one space for someone else, and then never paid for the second place, which raised the cost for everyone else. Not seen her since we finished uni. Not sad about that.

There not coming now. Sorry if that disappoints you and you will have no situation to sanctimoniously opine on next week.

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I'm sure there are probably people in my life who would say I've been a CF as well at some points, esp in my 20's BUT one thing I would never have done is pretty much all of what I've read on this thread nor let myself into my friends flat who had just got married and were away on honeymoon, to scatter petals on their bed for their return, and then deciding to take lots of polaroids of myself and my boyfriend rummaging through my wardrobe, trying on tops and doing funny comical faces in the pics, like 'hmm this is nice!' - yes and going through my underwear drawer as well with 'oooh saucy' expressions in the pics, maybe even wearing knickers over their jeans I think, I can't quite remember - and leaving them on the bed with the petals. I FELT VIOLATED. It was not a funny joke at all. I don't speak to that 'friend' anymore!

Ha reminds me of a friend who on her first post-law school jobs was duty solicitor at a police station in a major UK city on a Friday night. Her first client was a case of assault where his defence was "I didn't hit the victim - he just tripped and fell onto my fist (multiple times). He insisted that she stand up in open court and present this defence to the Magistrates where it was duly reported in the local paper (which is how I found out).

Ha! I had something similar. It wasn't as bad as once weekly, but a mum used to come round to mine regularly with her very energetic nursery-aged DS (who was the same age as my DS) and never, ever invited us round to hers. I did sometimes wonder why it was so one-sided, as our DC got on really well. Then, during one of our chats, she casually remarked that she never invited children round to hers as she liked having a tidy house and she didn't want children round to play as they would clutter it.

The implication was that I didn't mind an untidy house (and indeed, her son was a bit of a cyclone, who left a lot of mess in his wake for me to tidy up after he left). I never asked her round again after that -- just ignored the hints.

I mean, no one LIKES tidying up after messy preschoolers. We do it for the kids' sake!

I did feel sorry for her DS though, never getting to have friends round.

Years ago my then DP invited a mutual friend to stay without asking me first because she was waiting for her flat to be ready and was struggling staying with her parents. I begrudgingly said yes, for a max of two weeks because he'd already arranged it with her.
Two weeks came and went. She did nothing to help - ate our food, didn't offer any contribution, didn't cook for us once or clean. She'd even hover round the kitchen waiting for leftovers so she didn't have to buy anything. It wasn't that she was poor. She did the same job as me so I knew her salary. She was just super tight. Our friends all called her Free Dinner Clarla because she'd chat up any men, go out on 1 or 2 dates with them to get a free meal, and then moved on.
The final straw came when she breezed in one day and announced her flat would be ready in 2 months. I asked where she would be staying until then and she said with us. Didn't ask, just told us. I made DP tell her she had to go back to her parents, which she did with lots of moaning. Never a thank you or even a bottle of wine. I distanced myself from her after that.
Apparently she did this for years until she found some mug to get pregnant by, who would pay for her permanently.

Another CF story, though not nearly as bad as some of these. I invited a mum and baby round for a cup of tea one morning; I felt sorry for her as she kept saying that she was lonely and people in our city were not as friendly as people in the city she had moved from.

The morning wore on, so I offered to make lunch for us and our DC. She said she was vegetarian, so I started making something simple (pasta with tomato sauce I think). She came into the kitchen and said, 'Oh no! That's not enough, I need something NOURISHING, with protein! Do you have any mushrooms?' I ended up frying mushrooms which she accepted with a bad grace, still apparently unable to believe that I'd been so daft as to propose a (free) lunch without protein in the first place 😂

She went back to her home city eventually, but I ran into her and her DD in the local playground a few years later, with my own new baby in tow. I greeted her warmly and said, 'Oh, you're back! Are you living here again?' She just blanked me; it was very weird. I guess some people just don't know how to reciprocate kindness.

I'm much older now BTW and have unlearned a lot of my habits of people-pleasing. I'd like to think that now I would have said, nah, I have no mushrooms, it's up to you and your DD to share my lunch or leave it!

I used to live overseas. Certain extended family would come to stay with us and for weeks on end, they would be chauffeured around, taken on days out, had breakfast, lunch and dinner cooked for them, taken out for meals and they did not spend a penny.

Apparently, I am inhospitable.

Would they do the same for you if you visited them?

one of my BILs was dating a terrible woman who had a little girl from another man, then got pregnant after a few weeks with BIL. BIL wanted to do the right thing and made a go of it with her. 6m after the baby they broke up after a violent (on her part) and horrible relationship. The entire relationship my in-laws tried their best to (interfere) keep them together and did so much, they baby say the unrelated to them oldest child weekly, overnight, did the school runs to help out, you name it.

wven they broke up the ex sent horrible hate mail to my FILS work, had social services sent to their house on false allegations, stole from my MIL. It was awful, MIL ended up on anti depressants, FIL ( NHS worker) had an investigation at work. All lies

now to the CF part:

my in laws took the older child’s car seat from their car back to the ex, and she was confused, why wouldn’t they be having the child overnight on Friday as usual? Er no! She’s not related, they have no obligation and after her behaviour no inclination.

it’s been 3 years and she still occasionally texts them and asks them to have the older child overnight as a favour/due to work (we know through mutual colleagues she’s off long term sick) and she even once asked them to have both children for a week so she could go away with the new victim/boyfriend. When they said no she went ape shit.

Well she should have left in that case, she wasn't compelled to stay (uninvited in the first place!) at PPs house

I remember that! You most certainly were not in the wrong. You were absolutely fantastic in that rotten situation and the stuff of legend.

I have a few, but the one that springs immediately to mind - my best friend from school had moved to Germany to work and was always on at me to go and stay with her for a holiday. I saved all I could from my low paid job, faced my fear of flying (with medication and support from the cabin crew) and went to stay for a week. Friend and her BF met me at the airport and at their flat I was introduced with much embarrassment from friend's BF to an equally-embarrassed German guy with "This is K's best friend Marcus. You'll be sleeping on the sofa with him because K and I are having the bedroom!" I was appalled.

Fortunately Marcus was a gentleman and insisted on sleeping on the floor while I had the shiny plastic sofa (no blanket). The next day it was announced that a hotel in Italy had been booked for us to enjoy some cheap mates' rates - "Don't worry, two rooms!" Yep. One for her and BF, one for me and Marcus. Marcus drove me and him in his car, where we often had to stop several times enroute for them to catch us up because they'd stopped in a layby to have sex (at one point, my friend gleefully waved her bra at us as they overtook us on the autobahn).

I was mortified, Marcus was mortified, even the BF had the grace to be mortified. It all went downhill from there and I was overjoyed to be getting on the plane home at the end. The whole trip was a grim carnival of CFery from my "friend". Thankfully K and Marcus were soon rid of her. They were nice chaps; I felt as sorry for them as I did for myself.

No, they wouldn't woodhill. They have long pockets and short arms.

I paid for a spa break for me and some family members after I was recovering from surgery and we'd had some family bereavements. I didn't earn pots so it wasn't exactly The Grove, and yes was a bit shabby but it had a nice pool and we all had a treatment included. Made the mistake of inviting a family friend and omg she didn't stop finding fault from the minute we'd got there to the minute she left. Given I paid for everyone, not to mention that I was a decade younger than everyone else it was so so upsetting. Oh and I drove her ungrateful arse there and back. In the end my sister told her she could piss off home if she was finding it so difficult. So as you can imagine it was a completely unrelaxing awkward break to round off a horrible year. If someone else is picking up the bill you at least try to look grateful surely!!!

Worst one I knew of was when a CF asked a mother whose child had died at the age of six from cancer, if her son could have her late sons Scalextric. Not long after the funeral.😱

Invited a friend and her DH round for lunch, we sat in the garden. Shortly afterwards, he got up , I assumed to go to the bathroom, but didn’t reappear.
I found him later in our front room with the door closed, watching football on our tv.

I wouldn't say all, but most.

I speak as a practising Christian (in fact, a licensed minister). I see too many people following the bits they like and ignoring the bits they don't, and then coming on all holier-than-thou because you happen not to comply with the bits that THEY think should be legal obligations, and brushing aside any remarks you might make about their own sins which you might point out to them.