Mumsnet “norms” that annoy you most

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For me it’s the utterly obscure baby names. We’ve all seen them and I’m quite sure nobody uses them in real life. Yet on MN, it’s apparently standard.

Honourable mention to the 50% of posters whose husbands are earning upwards of £100K too.

But your post was about me. It was about people who hate reverses and I'm one of them. It completely misrepresented my reasons as "just to hate them" and getting "caught out" on anything at all. That's not true.

What? Really? Are you some people? By that logic, anyone who writes anything about some people is talking about everyone

I'm not the problem here.

And now you're misrepresenting my responses to your posts as "harassment". Your posts are lengthy, angry, dishonest and full of misrepresentation.

Oh the irony.

I was waiting for you to prove where I mentioned you but I can see there's a disconnect somewhere so I wouldn't hold my breath. No wonder the harassment and trying to force your opinion down my throat if you believe saying 'some people' means including you who claims to not do what I was talking about. Wish I knew this was the issue a while ago, I would've saved myself what I thought was a reasonable but heated discussion.

Misrepresentation upon misrepresentation from you. Which is in line with someone who defends reverses, I suppose.

Prove it. Liar.

I'm someone who hates reverses and gave you reasons for it. You responded that we should "agree to disagree" and that you were leaving the discussion. I replied that while I respected your right to your opinion, I didn't respect the opinion itself. You gave me a thumbs up and I thought that was the end of it.

I don't care about you hanging your head in shame (what?). I just want you to stop giving bullshit reasons about why people don't like being misled and lied to, and all the other bollocks you've accused me of since ostensibly leaving the discussion.

The entire rest of the post was proof. That's why you've cut it out. Do you think people can't see that?

Anyway, yes, you'd definitely write a brilliant reverse. You're fantastic at seeing other points of view and presenting them fairly. I'm totally convinced.

You reported because the truth hurts.

Loving this.

A whole thread whining about MN ends up in a bunfight.

@User5464245

What a disgusting and disgraceful post. Shame on you.

I know it's a bit cliche to say you're chuckling behind the screen, but I really am. People often claim to be all "agree to disagree" and "I'm leaving now, it's beneath me", but it rarely unravels quite like this. It's all out there, so people can see for themselves if they want to.

The moral of the story is: reverses are shite. If you don't trust the responses when people have an honest picture, you're not going to get anything more reliable by lying about whose mind it's coming from. As we can see here, people who claim to be brilliant at speaking for other people...tend to overestimate their abilities, shall we say.

Just don't write reverses. Be yourself. We'll still be a nest of vipers, but you won't be this person.

Like I said, I'm chuckling...You're not wrong.

Just don't write reverses. They're so shite.

As we can see here, people who claim to be brilliant at speaking for other people...

Again, lying and misrepresentation of what was said.

You're good. You really are.

Just because you don't know anyone who struggles with smear tests doesn't mean some of us don't have genuine difficulties which make it extremely painful and consequently, yes, somewhat traumatic. Issues like vaginismus, tilted uterus and just being 'built small' down there, for example, I have all those issues myself and I can tell you it does make it genuinely very painful and something to dread, even more so if past experiences have been bad. I can't personally speak to how it feels for survivors of rape or similar trauma, but I'm guessing it's far from a walk in the park. It isn't a simple case of 'pop your knicks off, flop your knees apart, couple of minutes' mild discomfort and you're on your way' for every woman. It just isn't.

I take your point about the risk of other women being put off by hearing about bad experiences, but you can't silence people for that reason. And dismissing bad experiences as hysteria just because you can't personally relate to them is insensitive in the extreme.

I'll allow you your much-needed "win" at all costs by reporting posts and holding onto me calling you a "liar" in them. That would be the only thing that goes against mumsnet guidelines written in my deleted posts. I don't need to hide the truth so I won't report your nasty ones.

I read your comment and my first thought is that if one of my friends were dating someone and they told me that the person they were dating had proposed that they track each other my response would be that he sounds insecure and doesn’t trust them. I don’t agree with tracking children either. Im sure there must be something that me and my DH do and that works for us that would be a big no-no for you. If you both are 100% happy and it works for you both then ultimately what a stranger on MN thinks is irrelevant.

If anyone is struggling with their smear test, book a double appointment and discuss it with the nurse. They are certainly not unavoidable - they will not pressure you into it if you don't want to. But they may be able to help with various relaxation and coping mechanisms if you want to but have difficulty, as many women have.

And needless to say, disregard ignorance posts that demonstrate no understanding of trauma. If you really can't do your smear, it's not a personal failing. You can always reschedule if you feel more able later on.

What the NHS needs is a massive overhaul (hate that bloody word).
Ooh Op, move north like we did and you too can own a 7 bedroom mansion in Harrogate for just £20k, with amazing schools and countryside on your doorstep and be surrounded by fellow Londoners (funny they never move to Nelson or Bolton)..

In-depth and totally off topic arguments that completely detract from threads. And either kill it or have everyone reaching for the popcorn…

As an aside to all of this, the threads that we know are made up, but no one cares and everyone’s reading - I call them popcorn threads.

I have my popcorn threads too...and yes (other people's) bunfight threads/posts are included. 🤣 Not so great when you're the one involved.

Somewhat ironic isnt it?! 😂

Teenagers having rampant sex the second they turn sixteen because (a) it’s legal and (b) they will do it in a bush otherwise.

And c) because it's their home too!

Or, the fact that they have a husband? Sorry, but if you've managed to get someone to commit to you long term, a friend can't be that hard? Much less effort surely